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writes:Date never asks me out for V-Day, I'm confused?In my opinion, I feel that this guy is definitely falling hard. He has taken me out for dates. He kisses my hand while we walk, my forehead, hugs me a lot, etc etc. He has even told me that he likes me and wants to be more one day. He's told me before that he was insecure about my breakup with my ex (of 8 yrs) that happened half a year ago, and wants to make sure I'm totally over him before he makes it official. My question is, why isn't he asking me out for Vday? I mean, if he can take me out on regular dates, why not Vday? Does that mean he's not that really interested after all and I got it all wrong? Thanks!!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 February 2017):
 Some people are just not in to Valentines day, where as others think that they are not serious if they have not celebrated it. Try not to get hung up on one day. If all the other signs are there that he likes you then great.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 February 2017):
 I think that , if you are not official yet, it makes sense that he is not asking you out to celebrate Valentine's Day which is after all, the " big deal " celebration of official coupledom.
I would not worry too much if I were you. Maybe he is not a romantic type- there are plenty of good guys who come up short in the department of " say it with flowers " and stuff like that. There's also plenty of people who do not particularly care about , or believe in, celebrating a mandatory love-day invented for commercial purposes. Some people even find it a tacky, laughable concept.
Probably it is just that you do not give the same weight and value to the occasion. For you it is an important day, while for him is just a regular Tuesday.
Anyway, since it is important for you, I don't see why you cannot ask HIM out . What's wrong in telling him "To me 14th of February is sort of special and I would like to spend it with you ". He will either say ," oh sure, great ", - or else he will say: actually I don't " do " Valentine's Day because ... ( add reason ). And you will know where you stand in ref. to the issue.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (13 February 2017):
 Don't put too much store by Valentine's day. It is a marketing invention. My partner and I make a point of not BUYing into it. Perhaps he feels the same.
If you get taken out other times then what is the worry?
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