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writes:please help me out here..i am with a male 56 years old...who takes care of me like no one ever has...he does everything and the sex is great...but he does not allow me..to express my self at all..if i feel like i am not a part of his life he leaves..he will not call...and then when i do break down and call he will tell me..leave me alone...then he will come around...?????? no i am positive he does not cheat he just does not appreciate a woman...help please!! Reply to this Question
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reader, sammi star  +, writes (15 September 2011):
 I found this quite confusing. You say he does everything, takes care of you like no one ever has etc...and then say he doesn't appreciate women.
How long have you been with this man? How well do you really know him. If you're honest with yourself then I think you'll agree his behaviour of disappearing, telling you not to call and turning up only when it suits him is very suspicious.
The only person you need to answer to is yourself. Are you happy? If not then you are the one who needs to make a change. Feeling like you're not even a part of his life isn't a relationship. You're worth more than that.
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reader, KittieS +, writes (15 September 2011):
 Sorry but this is a massive warning sign...
Vitally important for couples to express themselves induvidually, a relationship is a team made up of two individuals who compliment each other - your not his pet. Sounds strange that he wants his space from you, but doesn't allow you to express yourself verbally or I'm guessing through hobbies? Men do retreat into their cages at times, let him next time don't chase him - focus on you, he will soon start thinking about what your up too - when he calls act normal :)
If a man loves you he wants you to express yourself and grow, my OH and I have hardly anything in common (his passion is a subject that has always bored me senseless) but I love the fact he's so passionate about it, so listen. He doesn't get why I paint, knit, sew but he encourages me to take part in my hobbies, even sees courses on things I might like and encourages me to go.
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