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writes:Why is it hard to tell that person you love him? I'm a gay and he is straight! And of now he never answers my txtmsgs or my chat msgs. But I never tried to tell him that I care for him, because I don't want to risk our friendship and also I'm sacred of rejection from him. Please help me. Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, jbawes +, writes (16 September 2011):
jbawes is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for replying my question..
we meet last night during his shift because he was on graveyard shift . .i thought that he will not be on duty but i open the door he was there then i told him that i thought you wil not on duty tonight then he told me you dont like me anymore?i just ignore him.then the way he talk to me i really feel something specially. we talk casual thing just like before. I ask him how his gf he told he has no gf now. in the morning he say that he will back tonight.bcz he will be getting myshift in the morning.then he say good bye and i told him too good bye and takecare and he replied also gbye and takecare.
I dnt know what to do because my feelings to him getting stronger.
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (16 September 2011):
 Unfortunately, this is one of those things that you can't really do... if you expect to keep him as a close/best friend. If he doesn't fall into tat category (close/best) then it's really NOT worth telling him either.
As pointed out by CindyCares... It sounds like you, at least, came out to him... and it sounds like he wasn't too comfortable with that. So it sounds like you need to keep your feelings to yourself... Especially if you still want him to be your friend.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 September 2011):
 Why do you have to tell him ? He's straight !, what do you expect, that he'd change his sexual orientation just to make you happy ?
Did he ever lead you to believe he might be bi or bi-curious ? Did he ever say or hint that he might feel anything other than friendship for you ?... No ? Then, let him be. I find meaningful that " now he NEVER answers my texts or chat msgs ", I think he is clearly setting boundaries that you are not supposed to cross, and that he signals he does not want to get more up close and personal.
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reader, unknown2u +, writes (16 September 2011):
Not everyone is cool with the same-sex thing. He may have figured out that you feel more than friendship and can't deal with it. You'll know better than us where he stands on that.
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