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writes:About 2 months ago now my boyfriend of two years decided he needed freedom. It wasn't a bad break up so we have stayed friends, and if anything have been little too close at times. i've stayed over his house quite a few times since the break up and we are still close (kissing, hugging) I love him so much but i know he's moving on with his life and a part of me wants to do the same. There is this guy who i have recently started talking to again after almost 3 years of no contact. i have met up with him once in the last couple weeks and i think this boy may really like me. he has invited me out again and says he is really looking forward to seeing me and would love to have a girlfriend like me (hinting much). he's really sweet, kind and caring but im still not sure on how i feel about him. Also with me still being really quite close to my ex i don't want to hurt him, im worried he's sort of just a rebound. im torn because i want to give him a chance but i know in my heart the person i love is my ex. should i see him again with the possibility of giving him false hope, or shall i turn him down without even giving him a chance?
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reader, unknown2u  +, writes (16 September 2011):
Well hun you've really got to choose. It really sounds like your ex is moving on, but is using you for a bit on the side. That leaves you in a truly ghastly position so long as you agree to cuddles and what not with him. Prevents you from breaking, and gives the ex all sorts of benefits.
You're quite right to recognize all this and to not use the new guy when you're not prepared to commit. That's honourable, but do understand that you're quite left in limbo until you decide. And honestly, how hard is that decision?
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