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writes:I'm 26 and she's 23. We've been together for almost 2 years now. Our relationship is great, we love each other and are serious. In fact I think she's the one. Thing is that early in our sex life I found out that imagining her having sex with other male turns me on. This thing didn't ever happen to me before, I've only had sex with 2 different women in my life. This summer these thoughts were getting stronger. We've been on distance and most of my fantasies about her are based on us trying to pull off a thresome with other man, or maybe just going to a club where we want her to kiss other man just to turn me on. There's something on that image that really turns me on. I love her so much, really care about her and am even jealous, don't like other men flirting with her. Apart of the advantages of expanding our sexual horizons if we use this, I'm worried because of my feelings. How is possible to love someone and at the same time want that person to have sex with others? I don't even know if I'd be upset if she told me tomorrow that last night in a club she made out with some stranger
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2011): Why wrong? Do you have any experience? Don't you think a thresome with other man would be nice for both? Or maybe to give her the possibility of being with other man in front of me. Seems like we could both enjoy. It's something I don't know but trying slowly... Thanks for your reply
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reader, sammi star  +, writes (16 September 2011):
 Fantasies are often best left as just that. Just because you like thinking about your gf with another man, actually seeing that happen in reality would probably be quite a different matter. You can still use this fantasy to spice things up by talking about it with your gf, asking her to describe what she'd do etc, but usually these things have a habit of going very wrong when they're acted out for real.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2011): It is called cuckolding and a relatively common form of 'sperm competitive' fantasy for some men. Research it and it will help you to understand why the idea of her with other men excites you. If you keep it as a 'private' fantasy it will enhance your relationship with no negative impact. But if you decide to expand your ideas and make the fantasy become a reality with her assistance... it can often led to problems within the relationship.
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reader, unknown2u  +, writes (16 September 2011):
OK, let's start by getting real about a fantasy. Fantasies are what work in your head and help to get you off. They have no necessary connection to the real world in any way. Get that straight in your head soon and forever.
There's a whole genre of erotica called cuckhold. Lots of guys get off IN THEIR MINDS about their one and only being with someone else. Where in the real world that would be a complete deal breaker. Get it straight where your fantasy world ends and the real world begins. You and your g/f are in the real world, and keep it there.
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