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*ittieS
writes:Hello People,So I know the response from most - wow what a lucky lady!So I have a great relationship with my new fella, going well. I wanted to ask tour opinions on a sex matter.He lasts for ages, and I mean ages (totally rocks my world) but on average he lasts for around 45-60mins, and he's big (larger condoms are required)I love sex, and I love having sex with him - but sometimes it does hurt and he doesn't actually get to orgasam (I'm usually on 5 by this point) but I just can't keep going, I try but sometimes it gets too much - he says and doesn't seem to mind, can a guy not cum and still find it as enjoyable?
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reader, KittieS +, writes (19 September 2011):
KittieS is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks to both for responding it helps sometimes just to get it out on paper, this really is a great site
I had a chat with him after it happened again, whilst still in bed. He was just so lovely, caring and reassuring!
I really am a very lucky lady!!
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (19 September 2011):
Glad to hear you have resolved it in your mind, and that you are so happy with things. If things come up in your mind, it is good to seek advice as you have done, but also you can talk to you partner about your thoughts. Learning about how you guys communicate as a couple determines a lot of how your relationship will go.
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reader, KittieS +, writes (16 September 2011):
KittieS is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the response, it's good to hear from a guy that it doesn't necessarily have to be an issue.
One thing I didn't add to my first post is that we actually do have a lot of sex, so this may be part of the problem but also why perhas he doesn't see it as such an issue, also it's not that it doesn't happen every time - but I think it's only natural that in the back of my mind (although I know it's not the case really) I do think ummm is there something wrong am I not doing something right!
This has allowed me to work things through in my mind and feel better - and I am lucky to have a great man in my life who seems to compliment me almost perfectly.
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reader, idoneitagain +, writes (16 September 2011):
Yes, a guy can not come and still find sex enjoyable. Reaching orgasm does give a sense of completion, release and in a sense relief, if it hasn't been reached there can be a sense of incompletion, frustration, and other feelings, but it is still be pleasurable at the same time to be having sex and this can definitely be the overriding feeling that a man is left with after the fact. Having said that, many men will be left with a greater sense of frustration if there is no orgasm, depending on how often it is happening too. It depends on how focused he is on the goal and how focused he is on the journey.
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