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writes:i am 21 years old and i have never enjoyed sex or an orgasm but i would really love to. my boyfriend thinks i dont love him because i dont enjoy sex with him. sometimes during sex i feel alot of pain im only comfortable in missionary positions. what can i do to start enjoying sex?
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reader, sammi star  +, writes (16 September 2011):
 Okay, 3 things. First tell your man to look past his male ego and realise that when you say you love him you mean it. Not enjoying sex has nothing to do with the feelings you may have for someone.
Secondly, sex should not be painful. It's not normal and you should really get yourself checked out. I suspect that the problem may be the fact that you're obviously not relaxed when you try to have sex and that can cause discomfort but seeing a doctor would be the best idea.
Lastly, if the doctor finds nothing wrong then there are things you can do to help yourself. Explore your own body, know what you like and then show your bf. The more pressure he puts on you to orgasm, the less likely it will happen. You don't even have to go all the way, ask him to hold off for a while and just explore and enjoy each others bodies.
Tell him how important it is that he supports you through this instead of accusing you of not loving him.
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