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writes:Well i need help im about to be 19 height of 5'10 and weight 226 ive been lonely for a long time so i want to date badly but i have trouble doing that because im a big fat guy and i cant stop thinking that i will never find someone to like me for the way i am so i have a questionWho has more trouble finding dates a straight fat men or gay fat men? I never dated before so im still having a little trouble trying to find out what gender i like as well, although i think im like 80% sure i might be gay. Thank you for your help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello sorry for the late respond but i wanted to thank u for all your tips im happy u guys care for a stranger just want to let u noe i found someonne and hes bi i met him online he lives in the same area of were i live at we met in person 3 weeks ago and im glad to have met him he loves me for the way i am so i want to thank u for the tips
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reader, Thelaird1  +, writes (15 September 2011):
 I agree with kittie.
If you are not happy within yourself, how can you make someone else happy?
Size and weight isn't a problem. It's only a problem for shallow people.
Get yourself to the gym or find a hobby you enjoy and enjoy being yourself. When you walk around confident and happy, you will attract many people.
When you smile inside, you smile outside too and draw people into you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2011): Actually, I don't think fat men have trouble finding dates, gay or straight. The men who have trouble finding dates are the men who are not confident in themselves. Women love confident men. It doesn't matter if you're skinny, fat, acne, braces, glasses, moles, birth marked... etc. If you walk around with a positive, confident attitude, then you will find women attracted to you.Also, be open to who is attracted to you. If you're looking for Ms. Super Model Princess you may be looking in the wrong place. But if you happen to notice Ms. Coffee House Nerd with her frizzy hair and big glasses peeking at you over her lap-top, don't disregard her. Also if you are down about your appearance you can do something about it. Fat doesn't = ugly. You can build confidence in yourself if you start eating better and exercising. Heck, join a gym. That's a great place to meet people, and you may meet a girl with the same goal of losing some weight and catching herself a man. Or if you don't, oh well, you'll not only build confidence and self-esteem but you'll feel better. And exercise gives you endorphins, which help ease off depression. (And so does eating healthier.)
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reader, KittieS +, writes (15 September 2011):
 Hi There,
Everyone has something amazing about them, start looking in the mirror everyday and tell your image something nice about what you see. Don't focus on the negative, if something negative comes into your head push it out find something else positive. Your then going to think about that image everytime you feel low during the day.
Until you feel confident in yourself, you won't attract the right person - so focus on you, appreciating and respecting yourself. I hope it works out for you.
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