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writes: So this is just a random question that I just wish I knew the answer to. Yes we all know how the male specie is so confusing and how they frustrate us women. So anyway, I just wanted to know what you aunts and uncles think about why guys act distant and act like they don't care? I mean, why do they flirt with us ladies and really open up and tell us what they think of us, but then act cold and distant the next day???? I don't get it. Did we do something wrong? Did we not say the right things? I don't see what the problem is with guys, what is the deal? So come on aunts and uncles, tell me what you think???? Why do guys act cold and distant after they're really flirtatious with us ladies????
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (16 September 2011):
 Both genders do it. Flirting is fun!
Flirting is not necessarily a sign of sincere interest or looking for something from you.
Flirting is a form of social excercise between the sexes. Joking, innuendo, touching, the energy going back and forth between people, hinting, etc..it is all good.
Have fun with it and take it lightly. If someone is genuinely serious about you, they are going to take the time to get to know you, want to spend time with you alone, touch you more intimately, etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your responses. Ok so when I asked the guy why he always avoids me he said "I get worried when we both start flirting coz I don't know if were both still joking or being serious". I said I was joking and he said he doesn't think I'm being honest. I always laugh it off though. Then he said if we both weren't being serious that's the problem. What is this guy on?! Lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2011): It's no different than when a girl wears a low cut blouse and short skirt to get attention yet gets out of sorts when certain guys gawk. People do things to attract attention because it feels good but don't want any obligation that may come with it.
If the guy in question is after a certain girl, he'll be consistent and not play cat and mouse games. He won't want to do anything to discourage or confuse the girl because he'd risk losing her. I'd take that kind of flirting with a grain of salt and not make more of it.
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reader, Koala Bear  +, writes (15 September 2011):
 Could be a number of things why people(guys) do that. Some people use flirting as a way to boost their our self esteem. The act of knowing you are desired by some one else. This is when he or she clearly doesn't like you that much, just entertaining the idea.
Then there's another possibility. Maybe he was just having a bad day the next time you saw him. For this to be legit I would also consider how he treats others around him. Is he ignoring just you, or people in general?
The next time he starts flirting with you feel free to address his random mood changes. It will help prevent you from letting his mood swings torment you, while also sending him the message that you are not someone he can toy with for his amusement.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 September 2011):
 Some days they feel like playing and some days they don't. It's not a guy thing it's a people thing. But now that I think about it, animals are the same way, some days they want to chase the ball and some days they rather chill under the tree.
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reader, Advice_man +, writes (15 September 2011):
 For the same reason girls do it. To play and to boost their confidence and ego and cover their insecurities a little. "Leading on" is the right expression and I believe it's mostly performed by females rather than males.
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