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writes:So there's this guy, he is 24 years old that I really like. I just recently started talking to him. He is sweet, nice, awesome and totally cute. I have been seeing him every day for the past week and things seems to be somewhat moving forward. He just recently broke up with his girlfriend that he dated for 2 years or so. He's having a hard time getting over her and I try to comfort him all the time over it, but the thing is that he doesn't seem to want me to comfort him. He says he likes me, but he likes me as a person. I'm not sure what exactly is going on here and I don't really know where to turn. Can anyone please give me some advice please? Because i don't exactly know what to do at this point. I like him and all, but he's not ready to move on. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys! Sorry it took me so long to respond!! He said he said that he likes me as a person like as in he likes who I am. Like I said, I wasn't exactly sure what he meant by this. I mean I don't know. Things did seem to be moving forward but I have realized that they just suddenly stopped. I still talk to him everyday, but I haven't actually seen him in a while. He was coming over everyday for a good week after work to come and hang out with me and cuddle with me and hold me and kiss me, and then he just suddenly stopped. I'm a bit confused myself =/
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 October 2011):
 You need to give him some space. He is NOT ready for another relationship right now. What he needs is a friend. If you can't be that for him, you should let him go.People deal with break ups in many different ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2011): Be friends, he being honest with you, he just got his heart broke and needs time to recover.
He may not do so quickly, some times it takes a year or more.
By the way, he's not treating you as a rebound, even though you want to be treated that way....that is one good sign of a dedicated person who can make a good life partner, they allow themselves time to grieve and the relationships mean something to them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2011): You shouldn't comfort him, that suggests that, well, he needs comforting because he is in love with the other girl still. So it probably a good thing that he is refusing your 'comforting' in this respect. Perhaps he is trying to focus on you solely and separate his past. What does he mean by 'as a person' though? Not sure about that.
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