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writes:I am 27 and I only had sex several times with one man 5 years ago. And he wasnt able to provide any orgasm despite his supposedly vast experience with women at the age of 45. Will it feel weird the first time i have sex with a man again? (i have not used any dildos, just pleasuring myself occasionally with the fingers or the shower head)Will the man be able to read my lack of experience?
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reader, Htsn47  +, writes (14 October 2011):
 The man might be able to tell, or not. I think everyone gets a nervous again with someone new, so he could just attribute it to that. But, I would suggest that you tell him. Nearly every guy will find your relative lack of experience as desirable, as DoubleM said. It will make them feel special, and also feel like there is less pressure to live up to your previous experiences. I'd say this is not something you need to worry about at ALL.As far as orgasm goes, have you ever had an orgasm by yourself? If you don't know how to bring yourself to climax, it's a little unfair to expect a guy to know. You might find it very helpful to practice a little by yourself and find out what works and doesn't work for you. Then you'll also be more familiar with the sensations as you approach orgasm too, and be more relaxed.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 October 2011):
 It might feel odd... it might be uncomfortable... use lots of lube and go slow...
He may notice it.. he may not. feel free to let him know however since first time sex or something close to it is by nature different... it has to be slower and gentler
Also, YOUR orgasms are NOT his repsonsibility. Some women (actually MOST) do NOT orgasm from penetration only.
I personally have only ever had one man that could bring me to orgasm and that was orally...
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (14 October 2011):
 Perhaps. But that should be no concern to you. Most men would consider a lack of sexual experience on the part of a woman to be very desirable. Teaching and nurturing a woman's sexual abilities and potential can be a significant turn-on. Hopefully, your next lover will know what he is doing and how to please a woman.
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