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writes:So i have been in an 8 mth relationship with an amazing guy! We get along so well and really know how to encourage and support eag other emotionally. Our major problem is sex. And i can wait for actual sex but we haven't even gotten past first base! Ive tried initiating but once things get a little steamy he stops kissing me and backs off. I'm getting really frustrated and I know that I need to address this, especially as he leaves for police college in 2 months. But how do I even go about bringing up such an awkward subject?
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reader, eddie85  +, writes (16 November 2011):
 You've been involved with a guy for 8 months and he hasn't put on the moves yet?
Something is definitely amiss here and before he goes away to college, I do agree that you'll have to sit down and ask him what is going on. It'll be uncomfortable, for sure, but ultimately, you need to decide if this man is a keeper or not.
Part of me wondered if he was a virgin, he wasn't sexually attracted to you, or is gay.
Either way, I think you need to bring this up when you two are alone and have time to talk. Bring it up casually, but bring it up saying you are concerned because you don't feel like he is sexually attracted to you and that you are in this for the long haul. Ask him if its something you are doing wrong and by all means, listen to his response(s).
Good luck
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 November 2011):
 I know that it is a really hard topic to discuss with him, but it needs to be done, because there is obviously something on his mind that is stopping him getting sexual with you. Just sit down with him and ask him what it is that is stopping him from taking the relationship to the next level sexually. I know it can be hard to bring up but just put it to him simply and you will feel so much better once you have actually said it.
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