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writes:I'm a little perplexed about a situation and would like to here what you all think.I have split from my ex-fiance for a little over a yr. now and it has been a very long and hard journey trying to move on from the devastation. My ex became involved with someone else very soon after we broke up. I severed all contact from the start and have not spoken to him in over a yr. although, I still have deep feelings for him. I have heard through out the past yr. from friends, etc. that things were not good with them but, have not acted on any of this info that came my way.During this past yr. I have remained friends and in contact with my ex's sister, sister in-law and mom mostly of there doings. His entire family has always treated me as family and were never excepting of the breakup but, because they are his family I have never said anything to any of them against him regardless of what he did to me. His sister sends me messages via fb and has on numerous occasions invited me to her home which I have never taken her up on due to the fact that my ex lives down the street from her in another town several miles away. I felt that this would not be a good situation and did not want my ex to think that I was using his family for what ever reason to get close to him and I basically, knew that I was not strong enough to handle seeing him with his gf. She has kept me abreast of what is going on in the lives of the rest of the family but, never about him and inturn, I have never asked about him or uttered his name ever. Back in June I recieved word unsolicited that my ex's gf had broken up with him and then heard that they were somewhat seeing one another on and off. As always I did not respond to this news, have not spoken to his family about them or allowed myself to have false hope that he would come back to me. I basically, thought of it as karma! Now, all of a sudden mths. later his sister has sent me a message on fb that my ex and his gf are totally over and she has moved away. She stated that the family is also, very happy with this outcome. I am confused as to why all of a sudden his sister felt the need to let me know this when we have never spoke of him ever in the past, not even there breakup back in June. Is this just my imagination or could there possibly be an alterior motive by informing me of this? Your insights would be appreciated.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 November 2011):
 My guess is that his family did not like his girlfriend for whatever reason, it is probably because they got on really well with you and liked you and probably wanted the both of you to remain together. I guess his sister is just informing you because she would like to see you back in the family again. But don't have to much false hope over this. He obviously left you for a reason and there must be a reason why the both of you broke up. Just because he is single now does not mean that all them reasons go away and that he will come straight back to you for all the right reasons.
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