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writes:I worry that my husabnd and I are drifting apart after only 1 year of marriage. After work he spends alot of time alone in the office he set up at our house. He frequently gets up at 5:00 AM to "pay bills" and goes into his office and surfs the web. Tonight after dinner when he disappeared I suggested we play a game of backgammon (since he bought the game recently) and I admit I've never played but I didn't expect him to start screaming at me and acting like I was completely stupid. Needless to say I didn't fall in love with the game but I'm much more worried about the disconnect between us. Should I be concerned? And yes, the sex had dwindled as well. Any advise? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2011): Yes, you should be deeply concerned."screaming at me and acting like I was completely stupid"He's got something serious going on in his head. You need to get a good couples counselor to help.Talk before it all falls apart, because that sounds like where it all is headed.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (16 November 2011):
 Should you be concerned? Well, you're in the best position to judge that for yourself and a woman's gut instinct is not something to dismiss without good reason.
Have you confronted the issue? Asked him if he feels there is a rift growing between you two? If there's anything you can do to help him out?
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reader, Aunty Susie +, writes (16 November 2011):
 Something is definitely up. You are going to have to get him to talk to you. Get up with him at 5am, ask him what he is doing, and could you help. After work, wander into his office with a drink/coffee, ask what's he working on. The sex is probably dwindling because the communications not happening between you. Could he be having financial difficulties? You will have to ask. You have a right to know what's going on. If his behaviour has changed since getting married, ask him if he is happy, maybe being married isn't how he imagined it would be. Let him know he can tell you what's troubling him. It's the only way that you can work things out. You are in this marriage together, and must work at it. Good luck.xx
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