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writes:I want to give my girlfriend a boost to her confidence. I tell her regularly that she is beautiful and gorgeous, but she is still self-conscious of the size of her body. She isn't obese by any means, but she is admittedly a LITTLE on the big side. She has told me that she wants to lose weight and I want to support her in that. Her weight doesn't really affect me outside of the bedroom - she doesn't like me being able to see her body and insists on keeping herself covered up, which is a bit disappointing for me, but I am respectful towards her demands, and am hopeful that with some work she will achieve her wishes in losing some weight.While looking for ideas for christmas gifts I came across a sexy photoshoot experience. It's carried out by an all-women studio and includes a professional hair and make-up session. Apparently it's a great way to give women a "pick-me-up" and a boost to their self-confidence. I want to be clear that I am in no way some seedy guy who is only wanting to get his hands on saucy pictures of his girl. No, I would only be doing this for her sake. In fact, I wouldn't even want to see the photo's at all if it meant that she would benefit from the experience. I want her to be confident with how she looks. Maybe once she see's how beautiful she is, maybe she will feel beautiful and may even put more work towards dropping a couple of dress sizes.What do you think? Is a photoshoot a good or a horrible idea? Will it boost her confidence or make her feel more insecure? Any advice would be great!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (17 November 2011):
 It really depends on how self-conscious she is and her comfort level. Does she like to have her picture taken? Would she be comfortable dressing a little sexy when she insists on covering up?
You know your girlfriend best, so you know what her reaction would be.
I don't think it's a bad idea as long as she's ok with it, and it's tastefully done.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 November 2011):
 my girlfriend did that.. her boyfriend loved the shots...
personally I've had "glamour" shots done before... and i cried afterwards, everyone else liked them and I felt fat and ugly....
just want to share the OTHER POV in case it backfires...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2011): Out of curiosity,where did you find out about the photoshoots ?.i'd like to have one.i think its a great idea for your girl to have one too.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (17 November 2011):
 Did you know, that sex is one of the best forms of exercise?? WIN-WIN i think!!!!
Photo shoot sounds like a wicked idea aswell, i would be made up with a christmas gift like that!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 November 2011):
 Yes do it. Those shoots include photoshopping and she will look like a lingerie model. I have done that kind of shoot before and one of the women was INCREDIBLY self-conscious and she loved how she looked. Yes, it was heavily photoshopped, but the end result was a more confident women, and that's more sexy than a perfect bod I think. Go for it!
But like the other poster said, don't tell her it's a confidence boost, tell her it's because you think she's very sexy and want to capture that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2011): I think its a great idea, personally reckon any woman would love the chance to look sexy for the day... Dont tell her its to boost her confidence though, just tell her you thought it would be a nice keepsake. You could even buy her something hot to wear for the shoot.....
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reader, empty-1 +, writes (16 November 2011):
I would avoid it.
Maybe it would help, but whether or not it will be a positive or a negative is really up to the individual woman. No way to tell in advance without asking her about it, and that would kinda ruin the surprise.
I really know how you feel though. My wife can be very much the same way. It's tough to walk the line between being supportive of her desire to lose weight and improve all around health state, while at the same time making sure she knows I'm not unattracted to her, and I don't think of her as a fat girl.
The best thing I've found thus far, is to be quietly supportive of her efforts where her weight is concerned, congratulating her for achievements, and not letting her be miserable over setbacks. At the same time, telling her daily how good she looks, in a variety of ways can have an impact. You gotta be sincere, and let her know it though.
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