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writes:What is wrong with me? anyone been through this before?I think I am a good girl, I don't cheat or lie to a guy. I don't sleep around. I think sex is better when your a relationship and in love. Am a nice girl, sweet and caring. But not a doormat or a pushover. But my relationships don't last. Guys always end up leaving me. Like a few months they'll all be so sweet then they'll get distant and dump me. What could be wrong with me?Am not clingy, I have my own life and friends, I give my guy space. My ex bf cheated and dumped me. He said I was too perfect for him. Things were too perfect. is that even possible?I've been single for 8months now. I want to be till I find the right guy that'll love me for me.Is there something am doing wrong?Thanks..x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2011): Theres nothing wrong with you - you just haven't met a man that appreciates you and is on the same page.
Your mature and have the right attitude, so, as the others say, dont change for anyone.Dont be in a rush.
You've just kissed a few frogs like the rest of us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2011): I don't think you are looking at it in the proper frame of mind. Why do we women tend to take on the fault and blame when the men are already pointing the finger of fault/blame at you?
What about them? What is WRONG with them that they cannot feel happy with someone so good and nice, sweet, loving caring?
I say, stop dating selfish, dysfunctional boys and keep holding out for a loving, mature Man.
You gots it covered just fine!
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reader, gallifreygirl  +, writes (16 November 2011):
 Your ex cheated on you and then dumped you because you were "too perfect"? Sounds like the issue is with him, not with you. He most likely got himself in a sticky situation with another girl and didn't know a good way to break it off with you - it obviously wasn't anything you did, after all, so he didn't have a good reason to give you. And thus, the only thing he could think of was that you were "too perfect". I'm sure that some guys might feel unworthy compared to an incredibly sweet girl and break up with them for such a reason, but based on your ex's unfaithfulness...I think it's the former.As for you...you seem like an awesome girl with her head on her shoulders. You're clearly mature, you have morals that you stick to, and you're caring - everything a guy could ask for. I can't explain why guys in the past might have grown distant and let you go - there could be a wide variety of reasons that have nothing to do with you - but I can tell you that someone like you will have no problem finding a guy who loves her and wants to be with her in the long run.Don't change anything you're doing, and don't give up hope! Keep being yourself, and sooner or later, you'll find that perfect guy who will treat you the way you deserve ^_^
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