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writes:dear readers my boyfriend and i started having sex about 6 months ago and he uses a condom every time, but the thing is im always very concerned that it will break! he doesnt seem to feel the worry i do and probably thinks im being rediculous. it really freaks me out though. im not taking the pill so i know that if it does break then i have to act very fast. im always worried about becoming pregnant! this might sound insane but i was worried about this even before we started having sex.i dont take the pill because it messes with my body alot. but the other option is constant worry.should i stop worrying? my bf isnt does that mean i shouldnt?please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2011): You can make condoms more effective if you use spermicide with them and/or pull out before ejaculation
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reader, wants2bhappy  +, writes (1 February 2011):
You should take contraception. It is 99% safe. wouldnt need to worry about breaking the condom.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (1 February 2011):
 Over the course of a year, some women do indeed become pregnant despite using condoms as contraception. So I think you have reason to be concerned about potential unwanted pregnancy, you are not being irrational about this.
From the plannedparenthood.org website: "Like all birth control methods, condoms are more effective when you use them correctly.
Each year, 2 out of 100 women whose partners use condoms will become pregnant if they always use condoms correctly.
Each year, 15 out of 100 women whose partners use condoms will become pregnant if they don't always use condoms correctly. (The plannedparenthood website indicates that anywhere from 2-25 women out of 100 over the the course of a year will become pregnant.
You can make condoms more effective if you use spermicide with them and/or pull out before ejaculation.
The chart below lay out the relative effectiveness of each type of method; push on the little icon to get more information about the various types of birth control.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
My suggestion is to go talk to your gynecologist and discuss your contraception options.
In the meantime, be sure to use spermicide (if your body tolerates it) and have him withdraw prior to ejaculation. This will reduce the chances of pregnancy greatly!
Take care and good luck!
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (1 February 2011):
 First of all, condoms are 99.9% effective, the same as the pill. And condoms don't break all that much, they are tested for their durability. Like the other suggestions, you could get the IUD or female condom. You could also add spermicide with the condoms. That would help in case it breaks. I really don't think you should be too worried. If you choose to stay with just condoms, and something should happen, there is something called emergency contraceptive (plan B in the US). It has to be taken within 48 or 72 hours I believe and is up to 75% effective. It is more effective the sooner it is taken. I have had a scare before and taken Plan B and I still don't have any kids, so it does work. Hope that helps ease your mind :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): If you're just worry about being pregnant if the condom breaks then have the emergency contraceptive pills ready for whenever you need it. If you don't know what that is you should do some research about it. You can get it without a prescription at any pharmacy or planned parenthood if you're over 18 years old. Since you're not over 18, you need a physician prescription. Ask for one on your next visit.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (1 February 2011):
 hi
you could have a coil fitted (google IUD) these are tiny tiny things, which once they are inserted by the doctor (apart from some crampy period-like pains for the first day or so) you will not even feel that it is there! it will not get in the way of sex either because they inserted high up in the uterus, they are not in the vagina. you can leave this where it is for a few years, just getting it checked every time you have a smear (cervical cancer screening) test
xx
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (1 February 2011):
 If you are seriously worried then get your hands on a Femidom. It's like a condom for ladies, you insert it inside your vagina and it stops sperm getting through.
It doesn't seem very flattering, but if you're worried, discuss it with someone you trust.
Good luck
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