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writes:I am in high school and I'm in love with my principal. Over the past summer i started messaging him on fbook and after about 2 months of no replys i decided to tell him how i really felt. So the messages went from "hey hows it goin?" to "I Love You!!!" and after about 3 weeks of those he decided to go telll the school board superitendent and I got in trouble. Now were back in school and i dont know what to do because if i start talking to him again I'll be in big trouble but everytime I see him it makes my heart sooo happy! I'm still in Love...... What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Who +, writes (6 March 2011):
 There are things you need; food, water, a home, a family who loves and cares for you. You need freinds and a social life. Amoung other things.
If you are not attracted to anyone your age you do not need a boyfreind.
You will have one before you know it, and it might be nice to have one now (read this site for what it is like to have the wrong boyfreind.) But you don' need one right now.
Enjoy your high school years, have fun with the life you have now, think about your future and do the work you need to to get you there.
When the boy that is right for you comes along you will know. Don't force it with the wrong boy now.
And wait untill you are older before you pick on older men.
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reader, principalsfavorite +, writes (27 February 2011):
principalsfavorite is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk so, im in High School and I need a boyfriend. But here's my real problem...Im not even slightly attracted to anybody I go to school with. Im into older men but thats illegal =( What should I do?
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reader, Trinaa +, writes (10 February 2011):
 The phrase "in love" is tossed around way to much. You have a crush. You can not be "in love" with someone who you have not even crossed the emotional path with, let alone write you back on facebook. You should think about his position and how awkward it is for him. He has a family, and a great cureer. You're in high school and have yet to experiance the real world on your own yet. You will be in love with someone once you share a life together, a home, and have a mutual connection with.
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reader, TexasTexas +, writes (8 February 2011):
He can lose his job, his career, go to jail, shame his family, shame the school district, etc. You should be thankful he was professional enough to recognize this as a getting-out-of-control crush. He could have let it get to the point where everytime a potential job / hiring situation googles your name.......you should be very thankful for being so fortunate. You are a teenager. You have nothing in common with him. What exactly would y'all talk about on a date? How insane he is for dating you? Can you imagine the sneaking around? Not a solid foundation. You'd be 30 and he'd be almost 80....look around at an 80 yr old man. Not the ideal hottie-babe hubby (diapers, sex?) when YOU are in your hottie-babe 30's.I see nothing except that you are a lucky teen who was saved from a lifetime of a bad-google reputation because of a decent principal. It is a CRUSH. How would you feel if a kid pursued your dad that way?(Unless you don't have a dad, and there lies Part of this problem.)The world is full of good guys who are in your age bracket!
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reader, lonelygirl11  +, writes (1 February 2011):
pleae dont let this effect ur life anymore than it already is as believe me it is very very painfull i know from experience. dont pursue hin anymore as nothing can ever happen between you please take heed and move on try forget him dont allow this crush ruin your life like mine done to my life
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (1 February 2011):
The questions of "how do you feel about him" and "what do you want from him" are two different questions. How you feel is, you love him. Love is a wonderful feeling and you should always be happy to have love in your life, but what is it that you want from him? Do you want him to return your love? Do you want to have a relationship with him? You have already written that you didn't expect him to say "I love you", but what is it that you are hoping for? If you think about it from his side, what do you think he is able to give you? If he were to act with any kind of romantic intent towards you, or want to have any kind of relationship with you, it would be unethical and he would probably lose his job. He may not also view you as a suitable partner anyway, given the vast age gap between you two. I think that you already understand all of this anyway, which is why I am curious to know if there is anything that you want to happen, aside from you having these feelings. Sometimes we fall in love with people specifically because they are unattainable in reality, because we cannot actually get them. This allows us to express our feelings of love from a safe distance, without having to risk them in an actual relationship. This is normal, but understand as well that love is more fulfilling (and risky) when given to someone who can actually love you freely in return. Love can be inspiring and uplifting. It can also have a negative flip side, which can be obsessional, addictive, and attachment as the feeling of needing someone. I am not suggesting that your love is negative in any way, but it is interesting to think about the true nature of your feelings, and what you actually want to see happen.Good luck.
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reader, principalsfavorite +, writes (1 February 2011):
principalsfavorite is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe's in his mid 50's and he is divorced and has one son. I didnt expect him to say he loved me too but i didnt expect him to go tell either...I was just at a basketball game and he was there ... OMG i love him ...
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reader, Who +, writes (1 February 2011):
Find a boy your own age to pick on.
Most young ladies go through being in love with some one who does not love you back. This is your turn.
I'm sorry but he does not love you and there is nothing you can do to change that. It sounds harsh but it is the truth. The important thing for you to remember now is just about everyone else has had their heart broken too. They got over it annd they found the person who is right for them. You will too.
Good luck and hope this help.
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reader, just a female  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 ok i think you need to get over this one very fast!!! its your principle!! my goodness he probably has a wife! and kids. what did you exspect him to say? "i love you to sweet heart, doesnt matter about my job, would you like to meet up somewhere?" you need to realsie that your longing for this man will go no where at all.
how old is he? old enough to be your dad?
please, please, for sake of your sanity do not go on persuing this man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): Dude to be honest that's really creepy, he obviously told someone because he felt like you were OVER Stepping the boundaries. You should just leave him alone because i'm sure he's married before you get yourself in trouble trust me trouble will come out of this if you talk to him. There's NOTHING wrong with admiring someone about their beauty or if they are simply a nice person. But you're a student and he a PRINCIPLE. I wish you the best of luck.
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