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female
age
36-40,
*ibby
writes: I requested a break for4 some time from my boyfriend by sending an sms to his phone 4 days ago because we quarrel over sex and I am not ready for sex, I am still a virgin and so is he also. I am 20 and he is 26. I found out that I can't cope without him cuz I really miss him and love him but since the sms I sent, he hasn't called me even to know why? Should I call him to appologise or free him and go on with life? I am suffocating without him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): Meh, Some guys are just jerks. He needs to sit down and have a good set and ask himself if hes going to come to his senses, if he doesn't then you doged the bullet of giving him your everything and then watching him leave, which would be alot more painful then what your going through now. If he calls you soon enough an apologises, maybe the realtionship has hope, but stick to what your comfortable with ^.^
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (11 December 2008):
You did the right thing by realizing that he was pressuring you for sex, you weren't ready and you stuck by your guns. You were strong and I applaud you for that. Now, you need to continue with the strength! Make no apologies for doing what was right for you - don't suffocate without him. Really? Does he define that much of who you are to be killing you without him? Maybe you do need some space from him if you have become this attached.
Before you let him back into your life, he needs to let you know that he wants the same thing you do - for you to be comfortable and completely READY to have sex. In the meantime, start moving on, because there are so so so so so many men who will be honored to wait with/for you.
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