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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 5 March 2014: CindyCares (as usual) is 100% correct.
Practice makes perfect and you can easily practice on girls that are "above your standard" WOW... so many young women complain they can't get a date because guys won't approach them.
THIS GIRL tha... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 4 March 2014: “Well I had a Caucasian lady in my evening class asked if our papers were due which I thought initially was a bit odd because the professor mention it several times the due date.
But I see this Indian girl in there who catches my attention. Mayb... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 28 February 2014: Do you go shopping? do you ever see a lovely young lady in a shopping line and say "i wish I could date her?"
that's where you start... "lousy weather we're having" works great in the USA now.... it's lousy everywhere... then a smile...... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 21 February 2014: Just one more nail in your "logic" coffin
Men outnumber women. http://www.geohive.com/earth/pop_gender.aspx
and if that's too hard to grasp:
http://unstats.un.org/unsd/Demographic/products/indwm/
has breakdowns of:
ratio
size
d... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 20 February 2014: OP… we are trying to help you but you only want us to help you the way you are comfortable being helped. This is not going to work for us. And it won’t help you. Part of becoming an adult is learning to step outside your comfort zone.
Your ... (read in full...)
I want to talk to this girl but don't want to just be "one of her guys"
Q. This past weekend I was approached at a party by a girl from my college that I have known about since last year. She is very attractive and is personally way out of my league. I came up with some bullshit excuse as to why I don't really talk to her ...
A. 19 February 2014: so if you see her daily then next time you see her say
"wanna go for coffee on xx/xx/xx?"
... (read in full...)
How do we get her to back off already? She's not really a mean, vindictive person but she is sure causing a lot of trouble!
Q. This sounds snotty, but there's this girl who is constantly trying to butt in to our group of friends even though we try to give her kind hints that she really just doesn't fit in. At first, we tried to give her a chance. She sat down with us...
A. 19 February 2014: It sounds like her parents are doing a version of the "tiger mom" thing.
http://amychua.com/
I don't agree with keeping a teen that sheltered but it's her parents choice. And as a teen YOU need to respect her PARENTS choices. This is not anyt... (read in full...)
Did I scare her off when I confessed she was my first kiss?
Q. So, I'm a 19 YOM and I went on my first legitimate date on Friday. Was girl I'd known for a while, thought she was cute, just never thought I'd date her. Anyways, I ask her out last minute, we go out and have a great time. She seemed to have a great ...
A. 19 February 2014: I think you need to stop having a texting relationship.
IF you like her, pick up the phone today and call her and ask her out for the weekend specifically saturday night. IF she says she is busy then ask her to suggest a time. IF she says "w... (read in full...)
I want to talk to this girl but don't want to just be "one of her guys"
Q. This past weekend I was approached at a party by a girl from my college that I have known about since last year. She is very attractive and is personally way out of my league. I came up with some bullshit excuse as to why I don't really talk to her ...
A. 19 February 2014: Don't text CALL. sometimes text messages do not get through.
I got some texts IN NOVEMBER that my husband had sent IN AUGUST... .how freaky is that?
this girl took the bull by the horns because SHE LIKES YOU and wants to get to know you... (read in full...)
Is my husband trying to get the custody of my child?
Q. Hi I and my husband are getting divorce a "friendly" one! we got help from a mediator,so no lawyer. My husban is a plaintiff which the mediator said it doesnt matter but I felt in some ways she has my husbans's side! close to the court day i goft my ...
A. 19 February 2014: HE needs to support his child.
Agreeing to no alimony is fine but child support is state mandated in most cases.
Also unless the mother is an active drug user or murderer most courts award custody to her.
IF the mediator approved you no... (read in full...)
I cheated - is there any way to fix this?
Q. So I've been dating my boyfriend that's about 8 years older than me for over two years now. For the last six months or so, I feel like our relationship has been quite stale and stagnate. I have learned to accept this because he is in his 30s and I'm ...
A. 19 February 2014: My first thought was "why does it matter if it was a hook up or it meant more?" but I will get to that…. I think that’s the key issue for me and why I’m going to take the “break up with him” tack. But read on.
Then I read more and i realized... (read in full...)
Bi Male Attracted to Straight Male
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 19 year old bisexual guy with very few friends, and the friends I have are all straight guys. Recently, I have found myself very attracted sexually and romantically to one of my straight friends. When we'd drink, we usually e...
A. 19 February 2014: IF you tell him you are attracted to him and he's straight it may very well end your friendship. Many men can't handle being friends with homosexual or bisexual males. It's not fair but it's true.
And what do you think telling him will acc... (read in full...)
Husband belittles me in front of friends and family. I want to leave him, but is there any way I can correct the situation?
Q. I became very resentfull toward my husband. The main reason is that he complains to people about me. He doesn't complain to everyone but certain people. Like this couple that we don't see very much often, may be every couple months. Usually ...
A. 19 February 2014: OH OP you didn't mention that all of this was fueled by over consumption of alcohol. Yep that is a big issue for us too.
IF your spouse is not an alcoholic then it's probable his limiting his drinking will help tremendously. If he's an alcoh... (read in full...)
Any good stories about threesomes?
Q. Anybody have threesome (MFF in my case) SUCCESS stories? You read about how most relationships fall apart after a threesome but surely this is because it was an attempt to save an already dying marriage? Obviously there would be some that couldn...
A. 19 February 2014: Nope not all are to save a dying relationship.... mine wasn't. We were swingers before we got married. The lifestyle still killed my last marriage.
I am bisexual but i have opted to give up women so that both my husband and I are monogamo... (read in full...)
Selfish in-laws and husband's a pushover with them. How can I speak to him about this?
Q. Thank you fir reading in advance. Sorry I know it is long. Me and my partner have been together for 4 years and have 2 children together, the youngest of which is 6 weeks. My partners family have not seen our youngest yet as they all live in...
A. 19 February 2014: OP, just because you share blood with them does not make them family. IF they do not live up to your expectations or desires of what a family is, then disregard them and make your own family out of close friends.
FAMILY to me is different th... (read in full...)
How can we get past my inability to orgasm?
Q. I lost my virginity a little over a year ago to my boyfriend, and since then we've had sex at least 100 times. I love and enjoy being intimate with him in that way, however... I've never been able to achieve orgasm. I never worried too much...
A. 19 February 2014:
"I find myself drying up"
OP then you're doing it wrong.... but I'll get to that....
Sadly Dragon Man is incorrect. It's VERY common and NORMAL.
I am nearly 54 years old. I have had more partners than I care to count. Both Male and ... (read in full...)
He's been so disrespectful to me, I didn't even want to contact him except to tell him I'm moving so he can get his things!
Q. The guy I was seeing for a few months broke up with me a few weeks back. Well, I say broke up, he more or less ignored me til I got the hint it was over. When I finally spoke to him and asked why, he said it was because I was too much of a flirt ...
A. 19 February 2014: I don't see how your EX boyfriend is being disrespectful to you by living his life now. YOU are his ex.
I personally see no need to be friendly with an ex if they cause you pain. And you ARE jealous. UNfriending and blocking someone does not... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 19 February 2014: Anything is possible for anyone but the problem is you think that going to an escort will solve your problem when all it will do is make it worse.
Just experiencing sex will not fix your internal issues and may actually make it worse.
Se... (read in full...)
He lied, and his real age has freaked me out!
Q. Making this short because I just recently found out. I don't know how to tell any of my friends about this either but I've been dating this guy I work with for about 2 months and all this time I thought he was 25 because that's what he told me. He ...
A. 19 February 2014: OP what do you think he wants to talk about?
how hard it was to lie to you? (really he did it with a straight face for how long?--do you not think he would have continued this as long as he could?)
how youthful he is? yeah well 40 is righ... (read in full...)
I'm panicked about our age difference!
Q. Just need your opinions and advice. I met an older man online 2yrs ago and we've hit it off. I was not ready for a relationship at the time due to fear of being hurt again mainly but I'm over that now. I felt like I'd led him on but was honest about ...
A. 18 February 2014: do not feel bad... he had expectations and he waited 2 years to lay this guilt trip on you.
He's obviously pretty broken.
I met my husband in August 2010 we lived in different states... in December 2010 we decided to try a fling
by JUNE o... (read in full...)
His best friend doesn't like me, and my boyfriend acts like a jerk when his friend is around
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating a year and a month he moved in back in the summer.im 21 and hes 22. I dont go around his family or his friends because they dont like me his mom doesnt care to much for me for whatever reason I've only met her ...
A. 18 February 2014: If your boyfriend didn't care what his friend thought he would not treat you like a jerk in front of his friend. In fact, his friend would no longer be his friend.
that happened to my husband's former best friend. the man disrespected... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 18 February 2014: OP you are your own worst enemy.
you say you can say hello to random guys and make friends.
what makes women so magical that you can't do the same to them? Have you ever considered just being FRIENDS with a girl? why treat them differently... (read in full...)
I'm panicked about our age difference!
Q. Just need your opinions and advice. I met an older man online 2yrs ago and we've hit it off. I was not ready for a relationship at the time due to fear of being hurt again mainly but I'm over that now. I felt like I'd led him on but was honest about ...
A. 18 February 2014: Yep reality rears it's ugly head... you are in different places in your lives.
I'm sadly seeing that with my hubby now too. My nearly 54 is planning retirement and he says "we are working for 30 more years" Umm I don't have 30 more years to... (read in full...)
He said he doesn't believe in Valentines -- should I be hurt?
Q. My boyfriend of only a few month. Didnt see me on valentines day. And didnt get me a card or present. When i asked about it? He just said he didnt believe in all that none sense. I'm a little bit hurt about it but not sure whether i'm being over ...
A. 18 February 2014: If he doesn't do this made up holiday, then he doesn't do it.
IF you want/need him to acknowledge it (and you) then you must tell him... "hon I know you don't do V-day but I kind of do and would really appreciate it if you could at least manage a... (read in full...)
How can I be intimate with my fiancé without upsetting my daughter? She hears us despite us being quiet.
Q. Ok, need help on this one! This is sort of embarrasing but I need someone to tell me what I should do. I have 3 children from my last marriage. I am widowed. I finally meet a wonderful man, and we are engaged to be married in July. I have a cape c...
A. 18 February 2014: NOT only would I not be quiet... I'd throw it in her face.
but then that's me. SEX between a loving committed adult couple is NORMAL and natural.
Most kids walk around with earbuds in 24/7 anyway. She is doing this to "cock block' you... (read in full...)
I lent my online bf money for the trip to meet me...am I being used?
Q. I've been in an on-line relationship for 2 months. My bf and I decided to meet, so we went ahead and made plans. But a few days before he realised he doesn't have enough money for the trip. I have agreed to lend him but I keep wondering if I am ...
A. 18 February 2014: There are several things an LDR needs. ONE of them is MONEY.
YOu need more money in an LDR than you do in a close relationship. Travel (even in a car) costs money.
My now husband figured out that my weekly trips to visit him (a 100 mile trip... (read in full...)
Do I keep blocking him or unblock him? I think how I've moved on is the best revenge?
Q. I had a few posts here and got really good advice. My ex dumped me nearly a year ago. We talked a few times. I initiated contact most of the times. I couldn't let go and get over him because we planned to get married before we broke up and he's my ...
A. 18 February 2014: oh and to add: the fact that you HOPE he regrets dumping you tells me you are NO WHERE NEAR over him or healed.... (read in full...)
Do I keep blocking him or unblock him? I think how I've moved on is the best revenge?
Q. I had a few posts here and got really good advice. My ex dumped me nearly a year ago. We talked a few times. I initiated contact most of the times. I couldn't let go and get over him because we planned to get married before we broke up and he's my ...
A. 18 February 2014: Stop living your life to please anyone but yourself.
Put his pictures and his letters in a sealed envelope and put it in the bottom of a drawer you don't go into. IGNORE IT For YEARS....
do not unblock him...
do NOT worry about wh... (read in full...)
Husband has many female friends. They don't want to be friends with me, just him. Am I overreacting in being upset?
Q. My husband got a lot of female friends that called him at least 5 times a day for advice and to talk, he told me to talked to them cause they are nice and he wants us to be friends too but when I tried to reach out for them (add them on Facebook) ...
A. 18 February 2014: Agreed. Tell hubby you are FINE with all his lady friends AS LONG as you meet them and are friends with them too.
IF he tries to set it up and they refuse that should tell him something. And it should give him reason to end the friendship. ... (read in full...)
I got involved with a male colleague who's not single. Now he's cut me out of his life. How do I move on and forgive myself?
Q. Hi all I'm not asking for niceness but I feel extremely low. I stupidly fell for a guy that was attached, we were good friends and he helped me through a lot of personal stuff, he was with a girl he bought a house with. He told everyone at work...
A. 18 February 2014: I forgive you for being lonely and making a bad choice of someone else's man.
I forgive you for being lonely and trying to see the good in a bad man (he lied and cheated on his gf with you)
I forgive you for being lonely and making the choic... (read in full...)
I'm worried about him being a dad to our daughter!
Q. my daughters father is still going through a messy divorce. been seperated two years, divorce is over a year and three months now. our little girl is 3 months old. he has shown mixed signals of his interest in her. i feel like he uses me as a ...
A. 18 February 2014: Nope you are not wrong.. he's not there for you or her.
If you live together start finding a place to move if it's his home.
Once you do not live together, get some court ordered Paternity and then garnish his wages for child support ... (read in full...)
He's intelligent and confident and I'm worried I couldn't keep up!
Q. I am really attracted to someone - I know he likes me too. The problem is that one of the reasons that I like him is that he is absolutely amazingly intelligent, extremely knowledgeable on loads and loads of topics or, if he isn't, you feel with ...
A. 18 February 2014: Yep I think you need to become more self-confident.
IF he seeks you out and wants to be with you LET HIM be the one to decide if you are good enough for him... clearly he seeks you out so you provide something he likes.
stop putting yo... (read in full...)
How can he love me and want to share me?
Q. I have met a man who seems wonderful in every way. We have an incredible connection on so many levels yet I have a question. He has said to me that if I feel the desire to have sex with another man in his presence he is ok with that. Even turned on ...
A. 18 February 2014: I get it. Truly. He may very well love you but he also may be one of those folks who is turned on by watching his partner with others. It does not mean he does not love you IMO.
for those that don't get this turn on it can seem that we... (read in full...)
How to save a relationship from being destroyed by depression?
Q. My boyfriend and I have officially been together two months today. I know that may not seem like a very long time, but things became serious very quickly. We met in September and it was love at first sight the moment we walked into class (he is a ...
A. 18 February 2014: i agree with KC
I think that a "break" is just a nice way to ease into a full blown break up and you two are just dragging it out.
you were his excuse to end it with his ex gf... you are the rebound, the transitional girl... and while yo... (read in full...)
My friends want to move abroad without their young-adult children
Q. Am interested what you think of this situation. Some friends of min are bith 52, and have 2 kids: girl of 18 and boy of 20. The parents want to emigrate from england to spain on a permanent basis. The kids dont want to go with them. But the p...
A. 18 February 2014: I could not do it. My mother hated moving to Florida when my children were 8 and 10 but we put the boys on the plane every few weeks to fly 2.5 hours to see mom-mom and everyone survived.
I am sure this move is not spur of the moment and w... (read in full...)
Should I go to see my online friend even though we face distance and cultural differences?
Q. Hi, I am new to this site. I am from India and I love a girl in Romania. She recently got out of a relationship. They were going out for 7-8 years; even though she loved him, he never loved her. I suggested her to break the relationship. I might ha...
A. 18 February 2014: You are NOT in love with this girl; you are infatuated with her. There is a big difference. You may THINK you love her but until you meet face to face and get to know each other LOVE and making plans for the future should NOT be happening.
You o... (read in full...)
I have the most amazing partner in life, can I stop having random dreams about my ex?
Q. I'm 22. To cut a long story short(er), last year I broke up with my ex after having discovered he'd cheated on me numerous times during our 3 year relationship. To make it worse, I had no clue nor did he do anything that raised my suspicions, ...
A. 18 February 2014: Don't overthink it... dreams are not what we really feel.
they may be stuff jumbled up in your subconscious but they are not the bearers of truth.
and you can't direct your dreams... if you talk in your sleep and your current partner asks... (read in full...)
He lied, and his real age has freaked me out!
Q. Making this short because I just recently found out. I don't know how to tell any of my friends about this either but I've been dating this guy I work with for about 2 months and all this time I thought he was 25 because that's what he told me. He ...
A. 18 February 2014: thanks for the follow up.. he's correct... telling the truth after a lie is hard... and owing up to your own aging is hard too.
BUT your comment "my friends are pissed too" is misplaced.
YOUR FRIENDS have no room in this relationship. I... (read in full...)
Selfish in-laws and husband's a pushover with them. How can I speak to him about this?
Q. Thank you fir reading in advance. Sorry I know it is long. Me and my partner have been together for 4 years and have 2 children together, the youngest of which is 6 weeks. My partners family have not seen our youngest yet as they all live in...
A. 18 February 2014: Sageoldguy lives up to his name today...
he said tell them this: "We can't wait for you to see our new addition... but - at the moment - finances are tight, so we'll "pass" on coming to visit you... and will keep the baby around, and look for... (read in full...)
His penis doesn't really stand up!
Q. Im 24 and Me and my boyfriend recently just started having sex, and I noticed that his penis doesn't really stand up. He can be fully hard but it still kind of flops over. I don't know if this is normal and he doesn't really seem to care about it. I ...
A. 18 February 2014: normally in very young men erections are hard and they "stand up" and hug the belly of the man.... AS they age the erection becomes less belly hugging and more straight out...
if he smokes or drinks that could affect blood flow and hence th... (read in full...)
I like a woman I've met. What should my next move be?
Q. It all started at a friends script reading party late December 2013. I met a girl there and we hit it off pretty well. We ended up talking for about an hour and she asked me to come to her play, I said I would and got her phone number. I called ...
A. 18 February 2014: She asked you for coffee... she's interested.
I doubt you blew it by saying you don't do coffee (you could have tea or soda at the coffee place since most places have things OTHER than coffee too)
BUT she's made it clear she's very bus... (read in full...)
I don't see my boyfriend as long term material and I wonder about my ex FWB. Any ideas what I should do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about a month now. Actually, we have dated before, over a year ago and it lasted about 10 months back then. We remained really good friends while we were not together, even though I was dating someone else. Afte...
A. 18 February 2014: yes it will probably end with your boyfriend eventually and either you will remain friends or you won't. Personally I think it odd to remain friends with a former romantic partner other than causal contact. You can say you are friends but in ... (read in full...)
Help, I think I might be gay or bisexual.
Q. I think I might be gay/bi...HELP!? I'm a 20 year old female and I am so confused it's driving me nuts! I can't seem to enjoy sex with a man at ALL, I've been having sex for 4 years now and haven't had an orgasm once with a man. I can do it myself...
A. 18 February 2014: just because you don't have an orgasm during sex with a guy does not make you gay or bisexual.
MOST women do not orgasm from straight intercourse. (less than 30%) It would be like asking a man to orgasm from having his scrotum stroked. It's jus... (read in full...)
Was it wrong to accept an expensive gift from my male gay best friend? I think it's made my boyfriend jealous or uncomfortable.
Q. My gay male best friend whom I have known for a year recently took me out for my birthday. He took me to a restaurant that neither my boyfriend and I can afford, and also gifted me a Burberry scarf ($400 value). I had already known which ...
A. 18 February 2014: I think like I see it has the best response.
your friend gave you a gift and a dinner he could afford that he clearly put thought into.
I think your boyfriend is not insecurely jealous in thinking that you like your friend more but tha... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is acting sneaky with his laptop and phone!
Q. I live with my boyfriend of 5 years and have always trusted him but have been noticing recently that he acts sneaky with his phone and laptop. If I come into the room he will swipe everything off his page so that I can't see he also always makes ...
A. 18 February 2014: Nope he's hiding something.... and that something is the "work friend"
if it's new behavior then it's even more concerning.
I would not go through his phone or his laptop.
I would tell him that you believe that there is something up w... (read in full...)
Who am I to criticise his looks?
Q. I am 5'4 and quite short. I generally date guys of 6' and have always been very drawn to tall dark haired men 5'11 and above. I have met someone who is really nice and we get in really well. I am finding it hard to adapt to the fact he is quit...
A. 18 February 2014: You have nothing to be ashamed of.
You have "a type" you prefer tall dark men... no crime there...
you are not criticizing him or his physical attributes. you are just saying they do not appeal to you... trust me they will appeal to someo... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to feel this way, to feel invisible?
Q. So, I am currently in my second to last year of high school. Junior Year (11th Grade), man time has flew by. The town I currently live in isn't exactly a place I like. My family and I moved here 6 years ago (6th grade) because we simply needed a ...
A. 18 February 2014: think about all the very popular people. The folks at the very top... THEY have peaked already. PEAKING IN HIGH SCHOOL IS THE BEST THEY ARE GOING TO HAVE...
You have your whole life ahead of you and in the long run you will be more balanced... (read in full...)
Husband belittles me in front of friends and family. I want to leave him, but is there any way I can correct the situation?
Q. I became very resentfull toward my husband. The main reason is that he complains to people about me. He doesn't complain to everyone but certain people. Like this couple that we don't see very much often, may be every couple months. Usually ...
A. 18 February 2014: I hear you 100% and I understand.
Sometimes people are just clueless about how their feelings affect their behavior and words.
Last night my husband was being snarky and nasty at dinner... and when we got home I asked him "are you angry a... (read in full...)
He lied, and his real age has freaked me out!
Q. Making this short because I just recently found out. I don't know how to tell any of my friends about this either but I've been dating this guy I work with for about 2 months and all this time I thought he was 25 because that's what he told me. He ...
A. 17 February 2014: if my math is right.. then you are 19 to his 37... 16 years.
which if you were 30 and he was 46 would not phase me at all...
The bigger issue is he lied. The fact that HE lied to you and you trusted him is nothing to be ashamed of.
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I'm panicked about our age difference!
Q. Just need your opinions and advice. I met an older man online 2yrs ago and we've hit it off. I was not ready for a relationship at the time due to fear of being hurt again mainly but I'm over that now. I felt like I'd led him on but was honest about ...
A. 13 February 2014: OP it sounds like you have a good handle on this.. ENJOY It as long as it lasts and when folks STARE (and they will they used to stare at us and i"m only 13 years older than hubby) just put your arm through his lay your head on his shoulder and ... (read in full...)
I'm panicked about our age difference!
Q. Just need your opinions and advice. I met an older man online 2yrs ago and we've hit it off. I was not ready for a relationship at the time due to fear of being hurt again mainly but I'm over that now. I felt like I'd led him on but was honest about ...
A. 12 February 2014: OP I have to tell you, that while I am a big supporter of Age gap relationships, as the OLDER partner (by 13 years) to my spouse, it's hard even with our much smaller gap.
As for children, I'm nearly 54 and maybe it's different for men but at 4... (read in full...)
I'm panicked about our age difference!
Q. Just need your opinions and advice. I met an older man online 2yrs ago and we've hit it off. I was not ready for a relationship at the time due to fear of being hurt again mainly but I'm over that now. I felt like I'd led him on but was honest about ...
A. 11 February 2014: just be cautious and guard your heart...
you are an adult
he is an adult
what others think is not important.
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