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writes:Anybody have threesome (MFF in my case) SUCCESS stories? You read about how most relationships fall apart after a threesome but surely this is because it was an attempt to save an already dying marriage? Obviously there would be some that couldn't handle it but they can't all end in divorce?!Maybe people rarely write about the good side!!!
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (19 February 2014):
 Well this is something I've had no experience with and no desire to do in real life (fantasy is different), but what I do have experience of is a male partner pushing for this when I've clearly stated "no". Hugely off putting.
So, I'd just like to advise that you don't push this with your partner if it's not her thing. Apologies if that's not the case!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 February 2014):
 I have never participated in 3-somes it's just not something I have fantasies about.
However, many of my friends (specially the male friends) have all had 3-some and the most successful ones were when EVERYONE involved were single. That way there is not problem NOT doing it again OR doing it again.
Personally, I think inviting a 3rd person into your sex life, when you are monogamous, is inviting trouble.
While it work for some ( like the first anon female who apparently does this once a week )(100 encounters in 2 years would be once a week roughly) I think the likelihood of it creating drama is higher then the likelihood anon claims to have.
I have several female friends who have tried them and they ended badly - but I think this was because they DID have 3-somes to PLEASE their BF, not because they actually wanted them.
I don't know any married friends who have done them. A 3-some wouldn't save a marriage.. that is a ridiculous notion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2014): I've had some but I was single and they were too.
My first was two friends who were a bit on the wild side. Always kissing in bars to show off, grind each other when they danced, you know the usual kind of thing.
The three of us ended up back in my place as I had loads of drink in my fridge and we decided to mix it up and have a little fun. I knew they were risk takers so I thought I'd question them and dare them to go further.
After that things got heated and as this isn't an erotica forum I won't go into too much detail.
I also had one in a tent at a festival, I was originally having sex with one girl in a tent and noticed the friend we thought had passed out was awake and watching, she smiled so I put my hand on her face and started sucking my fingers and then it escalated.
I've never had a pre-arranged threesome because I don't do threesomes while in relationships. One woman has always been enough for me and there is no chance in hell I'd ever want to see her shag another guy so I give her the same respect.
It's all well and good on paper and in the movies, but sex with emotions can lead to dangerous situations when you're watching your partner fuck or get fucked by another.
They don't ruin all relationships of course but it says a lot about a couple that they're not enough for each other or think only on a superficial level that it'll be cool. Regular no frills hetero couples don't fare as well as those with fetishes or philias. I bisexual woman will fare better with another female than a hetero woman who ends up feeling horrified that her partner paid more attention to the other woman. Both partners need to be able to enjoy the person.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 February 2014):
 Nope not all are to save a dying relationship.... mine wasn't. We were swingers before we got married. The lifestyle still killed my last marriage.
I am bisexual but i have opted to give up women so that both my husband and I are monogamous. I don't want to share him with anyone and he is ok with this. (he's always a bit sad since he MET me while I was married to my ex and I had "permission" to have a FWB with him. He assumed he would have the same freedom if we were a couple but he gladly accepts that we don't share.
I know of three couples that are long term in the lifestyle (all over 20 years) and yet NONE of them currently participate in it. And two of them are straight couples no threesomes just swapping.
Yes it can work. A couple can take on a unicorn and make her part of their life and their bed. But all three partners must follow the household rules and respect the primary relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2014): You are unlikely to find success stories on a problem page.
And it doesn't necessarily follow that if others did it un/successfully so will you.
If you feel that your relationship a)is strong enough and b) you are willing to take the risk (however minimal) of this not working out, then go for it.
Good luck to you both :-)
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (19 February 2014):
All threesome are great, until the sh*t hits the fan. What works for some, is not for everyone. There are a lot of bad stories for a reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2014): This is sort of a MFF threesome situation that my boyfriend and I enjoy. My boyfriend is a crossdresser and very feminine. Both of us enjoy watching the other have sex with a guy. He, while dressed enfemme, and I have had numerous threesomes with guys as the third partner. When doing it he never undresses and does the oral part while I watch and I get completely undressed and have intercourse with our guy while he watches. When all is done my boyfriend and I go home and have incredible sex with each other. We have been doing threesomes this way for about two years now and had maybe 100 encounters so far and for us it is great.
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