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male
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anonymous
writes:This past weekend I was approached at a party by a girl from my college that I have known about since last year. She is very attractive and is personally way out of my league. I came up with some bullshit excuse as to why I don't really talk to her and how I didn't want to talk to her at the party. She somehow became more interested in me and I finally gave up the act after thirty or so minutes and started to compliment her and she came out and said that she has had a crush on me for a while. I somehow get her out to the dance floor and we start to dance and make out. She tells me she has to find her friends so she puts her number in my phone and leaves the party. I didn't text her until the next night and after some time she texts me back wondering where I am. She comes to the party and we start talking again. We start talking a little about our lives and other personal things. Then just like the night before we go back out on the dance floor. We dance and make out for a while but she seems to keep getting separated from me. I keep seeing her talk to another guy and every time she keeps coming back to me saying 'oh don't worry about him, let's go dance'. Towards the end of the night I start talking to her friend and she told me that she professed her love for me the night before, I wanted to ask her if it was a drunken loneliness or if it was just a coincidence that it was also valentines day. She couldn't answer me because she was pulled away by another guy. I try to find my dancing buddy and see her talking with the same guy. I get disgruntled and she sees me. I walk away from the dance floor and go outside to take a bathroom break. Next thing I know, she is leaving the party with the same dude she was talking to. She tells me that she was just walking in the same direction as the guy and that she will see me later. She yells out "bye!" I don't respond. Another time "Bye!" I still don't reply. She walks back home with the guy that she claimed was just drunk and that he was hitting on her. I start to walk home drunkenly and text her that I don't even know why I tried. I was mad and frustrated and she didn't respond.I haven't talked to her since that Saturday night and it's Tuesday night now. I sent her a quick text message today but she didn't respond. Basically I don't know what to do at this point. I feel like we had a legitimate connection and I know that we won't talk again until this weekend. If even then. My friends tell me that she went around this past weekend talking with and dancing with about five other guys as well. I just don't want to get hurt in this situation and I don't know what to say to her when I see her this weekend. One of the thoughts of what to say to her was "I don't care if you want to dance and flirt with other guys on the weekend, I just don't want to be another guy that you flirt with." Any sort of advice as to what to do in this situation will be a massive help. I would like to talk to her and I don't want to just 'move on' because she is a very cool and special person from the tid bits that I've talked to her before last weekend and when I talked to her during the weekend. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2014): she seems like a user to me, and she seems like someone who likes to f with people's brains. drop her, you can do better, buddy!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 February 2014):
 so if you see her daily then next time you see her say
"wanna go for coffee on xx/xx/xx?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your response.
One point is that I know that she received my text from Tuesday because on my phone, the message has been "seen at..." and says the time and day that it had been seen.
I don't know if it will seem too needy if I call her and I see her on almost a daily basis.
I also know that sending her that text was wrong of me.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 February 2014):
Don't text CALL. sometimes text messages do not get through.
I got some texts IN NOVEMBER that my husband had sent IN AUGUST... .how freaky is that?
this girl took the bull by the horns because SHE LIKES YOU and wants to get to know you... just because some other guy is going after her does not mean you would be "one of her guys"
if you sent her nasty texts you were wrong.
YOU like her
she likes you
she's given you the clear "Go for it" signal.
make it so.
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