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writes:So, I'm a 19 YOM and I went on my first legitimate date on Friday. Was girl I'd known for a while, thought she was cute, just never thought I'd date her. Anyways, I ask her out last minute, we go out and have a great time. She seemed to have a great time, anyways. Smile always on her face, and I've known her for a long enough time to think that I thought she actually did, too. So, I drop her off and ask her if I can kiss her. She gets a small smile, blushed, and says yes. I say I had an amazing time and she says "I did too, we should do it some time soon again?"My response was of course, to which I got "I'm off Mon/ Tues, so... just let me know when you'll pick me up".So, ended on a pretty solid note, right? I text her Sun and say I have a small confession that that was my first kiss. Pretty sure this is where I scared her off. She says "I'm sorry, but that is really weird". Send a couple more texts and she asks a couple questions about it and then topic changes. I normally flirt a lot, so I set something up to give her a compliment and she didn't fall for it, but I say it anyways and I get "I knew that's where you were going, so I didn't ask". Ask why it's a bad thing that I thought she's beautiful and says "it's not, I just don't like it when guys always do that". Alright... so, that'd pretty much where we stopped talking Sun. Didn't talk to her yesterday.So, shoot an early text this morning and she says "would you be mad if we reschedule?" Say I guess not and she says sorry. Blah, blah. Ask why and she said she got DD'd for her sister tonight. Ask if we can go earlier and get that it's too late already. Basically just responded to that with "Alright, I guess. Was looking forward to it, but it's all good :) like I said, just hit me up whenever you're free. If you don't wanna, I get that too, just let me know" And haven't got a response. So, basically I'm thinking she's scared off, starting with the first kiss ordeal. Basically, I just want to know what everyone thinks? Just hold off a week or so and see then was my thoughts... Good idea?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 February 2014):
 I agree with SCV - call her.
And when you ask a girl out, don't leave it hanging. ASK her out, set a time and date (and give her at least 3-4 days notice) don't see I'm free these days so call me. THAT is NOT asking a girl out.
She did blow you off to be her sister's Designated Driver or so it sounds.
I don't think it was the kiss. Maybe she just felt you were coming on to strong for someone who hasn't kissed a girl before?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 February 2014):
 I think you need to stop having a texting relationship.
IF you like her, pick up the phone today and call her and ask her out for the weekend specifically saturday night. IF she says she is busy then ask her to suggest a time. IF she says "whenever" or "i don't know" well then yeah she's blowing you off...
DO NOT do this by text. CALL her and ask her.
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reader, DragonMan  +, writes (19 February 2014):
 Greetings,
If you truly scared her off by being your first kiss then I would say there are something she isn't tell you. You did nothing wrong, after all there is and will be a first for everything won't there.
I would give the space, wait a week and see if she texts you or text her once after the week.
If she won't answer then you'll need to learn to walk away.
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