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12 October 2011: While generally facebook is considered a fun way to keep in touch with friends and share photos, it can be a huge source of turmoil in a relationship. If I had a dime for every time I read "I'm worried because I saw something on her/his facebook..." ...
Is Pornography cheating?
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1 May 2011: The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
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Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 16 September 2011: Sorry I haven't checked in on this post in awhile. I'm so glad this article helped. I'm not a counselor, I work with a feminist group where I try to help out women who are in relationships with users. You weren't rambling at all, it made perfect ... (read in full...)
Found out he's looking at porn, feeling very insecure. what to do??
Q. I found out my boyfriend looked at younger women in porn and now I'm embarrassed to be naked in front of him. This is the first relationship I've been in where I actually felt GREAT about sex. I was excited by the sight of him and initiated re...
A. 19 August 2011: Glad I could help!... (read in full...)
Found out he's looking at porn, feeling very insecure. what to do??
Q. I found out my boyfriend looked at younger women in porn and now I'm embarrassed to be naked in front of him. This is the first relationship I've been in where I actually felt GREAT about sex. I was excited by the sight of him and initiated re...
A. 15 August 2011: I highly recommend the book The Porn Trap (I recommend it to everyone in similar situations). It may help you both better understand what the other is going through. It's meant to be read through as a couple. I hope it helps.... (read in full...)
Open eyed when kissing???
Q. This is a silly question but I keep opening my eyes when i start to kiss fellas is this right/normal or what?...
A. 14 August 2011: A quick peek is normal, but it's a little creepy to leave them open the whole time.... (read in full...)
I keep dreaming about having sex with him!!! How can I stop these dreams and get him out of my head???
Q. what the heck is wrong with me?? I cant get this guy outta my head. We were together but hes in the military so we called it a day as he was always going abroad. But we stay in touch. All I do is fantasise about sleeping with him. I think about it ...
A. 14 August 2011: Next time you wake up from one of those dreams, instead of texting him, take matters into your own hands so to speak and just masturbate.... (read in full...)
I don't mind him ejaculating on me, but I'd rather not be peed on
Q. Me and my boy friend like to do alternative things in the bedroom. We act out some porn scenes that seem interesting. The one that he wants to try, I'm not into much. He wants to ejaculate on my face, then urinate on me. I can handle him cumming on ...
A. 14 August 2011: Actually ejaculating on someone's face is designed to be degrading. The reason it's degrading is BECAUSE of the context, in that it's very similar to spitting in someone's face. Every other bodily fluid you can consciously do in someone's face is ... (read in full...)
Are people who look at porn more likely to cheat?
Q. Hey, I'm interested to know-do you think people who look at porn are more likely to actually cheat on their partner? I'm asking because I know my bf of 1 yr watches porn videos online every 3-4 days. It used to get me down, but so many people have ...
A. 14 August 2011: No, you shouldn't keep a closer eye on him. Porn won't make him cheat. But you shouldn't just accept something that makes you feel awful and insecure just because guys like it. Not all men watch porn, that's a lie designed to remove the personal ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is so tight I have trouble getting in and staying in.
Q. I need help!!!!! Me and my girlfriend are have become recently sexual, now i'm a good lover, don't get me wrong, but past foreplay i find it pretty hard to get "inside" of her. She tends to get really tight and then i cant get in, now i don't have ...
A. 14 August 2011: More lube, more foreplay. The average woman requires 20 minutes of good foreplay to be fully aroused, so try just keeping at it. If you want to speed that along a bit, ask her to get started on her own (it will go faster) and join in when she feels ... (read in full...)
I don't mind him ejaculating on me, but I'd rather not be peed on
Q. Me and my boy friend like to do alternative things in the bedroom. We act out some porn scenes that seem interesting. The one that he wants to try, I'm not into much. He wants to ejaculate on my face, then urinate on me. I can handle him cumming on ...
A. 14 August 2011: That depends on whether you enjoy being degraded I suppose. Having someone cum on your face can't be anything but intended to degrade/dominate/humiliate. Would you let him spit in your face, throw a beverage on your face, etc...? The only instances ... (read in full...)
Sensitive clitorus...
Q. Hello, i was just wondering... Sometimes when my bf is masturbating, rubbing or licking my clit i orgasm then my clit gets really sensitive and he can't touch it anymore... However, if i was willing to be tied up/in handcuffs/ bondage... What Woul...
A. 13 August 2011: Most people become hyper sensitive after having an orgasm. If it hurts, stop touching it. Why would you want to be tied up so he can continue while it hurts? It would just hurt I assume.... (read in full...)
Is it okay to not talk on the phone?
Q. Are there any couples out there who never have conversations on the phone and are okay with it? My boyfriend and I have been dating almost a year and we've only had one conversation on the phone. The other times we've talked on the phone were j...
A. 10 August 2011: Sure, why not? Me and my boyfriend only ever talk on the phone if we're away from each other (like on a trip) or like you said to make last minute plans.... (read in full...)
Why would my rectum be bleeding after using the bathroom?
Q. Dear cupid, my stomach has been hurting all day today and im sure its because of all the junk food i have been eating. Almost every hour im eating something new. Thats because im not eating food so little snacks like chips and ice cream bars do not ...
A. 10 August 2011: It sounds like a hemorrhoid from your diet that's been lacking in fiber. It's bad for you to eat a steady diet of junk food! Eat more fruits and veggies, even if you eat them frozen or in a can.... (read in full...)
Do women mind if guys feel their breasts during sex?
Q. Once I was with a prostitute and she seemed to feel uncomfortable because I touched her breasts. I don't know if all women are like this or if I had done something wrong. I understand that you shouldn't do anything to make someone feel uncomfortable ...
A. 10 August 2011: I think most women enjoy having their breasts touched during sex or at least feel neutral about it, but I think most would enjoy if for no other reason than it's fun feeling like the guy loves your body.
But prostitutes aren't "enjoying" being wi... (read in full...)
I get waxed frequently, but cant stand the ingrown hairs when it grows back!
Q. I keep my pubic hair nicely trimmed, but I'd really love to get more brazilians. I'd love to entice my boyfriend to visit (down there), as he hasn't in years. I get everything waxed off regularly and I love how soft and clean I feel, but when it ...
A. 10 August 2011: I used to wax, but I started getting ingrown hairs so bad that they were getting mildly infected. I fixed it, by stopping waxing (and using a good gentle exfoliator in the meantime). Once the hair grew back, I never once experienced any itching or ... (read in full...)
Shaving rash driving me crazy but not ready for wax! Help!
Q. Okay so, I've been shaving down there now for about 2 years!bi always exfoliate, I always use plenty of gel, I only do it once a week and use a new blade and afterwards I put aftershave on that keeps the skin cool ! But I still always get a shave ...
A. 10 August 2011: So stop shaving! If a guy doesn't like it, ask to see his perfectly waxed bikini line. Just keep it trimmed and clean, I'm sure a guy would rather see that than a stubbly itchy rash. I personally never shave or wax the area because it seems like a ... (read in full...)
Is there any explanation for this?
Q. I have this problem after sex, I feel like a constantly need to urinate, I go to the toilet to relieve the feeling and only a small amount of urine passes. So, I have tried to also suppress the feeling because I can't stay on the toilet all day, but ...
A. 10 August 2011: It's possible your G-spot is being hit a lot during sex, which in some women causes a really intense feeling of needing to urinate. Try a different position that would position him in a way that his penis doesn't hit the front wall of your vagina ... (read in full...)
He wants visitation but does not want to pay back child support.Does the father pay in these circumstances?
Q. My ex found out that a child I had a year ago may be his. He had a paternity test and my son is his. However, he knew I was pregnant with his kid but I told him I had a miscarriage early on. He saw me a month before I was due and asked about my bell...
A. 10 August 2011: Whether or not you lied he's obligated to pay child support, though probably not during the term that he had no idea it was his child. You will want to talk to a lawyer.... (read in full...)
When are men going to STOP being so selfish about porn and START realizing they are destroying the woman that loves them?
Q. Some women like porn and don't mind if their bf's look at it. This does not apply to those women. This is for the rest of us, the majority. Those of us that HATE PORN and HATE HOW IT MAKES US FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES. Seriously, after all the ex...
A. 10 August 2011: "I cannot understand why anyone would want to control the sexuality of their partner or supposed loved one."
Expecting a partner to be monogamous is extraordinarily controlling as well, but that's considered acceptable. Why is telling someone that... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has lots of female friends and I feel jealous
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months and I guess I'm in teenage love. When we're together it's perfect- I feel like he really does like...love me. He says and does everything right...but.he also has a lot of friends. Thats great- but ...
A. 9 August 2011: You can't control your boyfriend's friends or who's he's friends with. I think it would be reasonable to set some boundaries (but only if he tries to cross them), but right now it doesn't sound like he's doing anything weird or suspicious. Unless ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dumped me but still wants to be friends. I can't because I'm still in love with him
Q. Why wont my ex boyfriend let us part ways? he wont let me go:(? My ex bf dumped me saying he doesn't want a relationship. He broke my heart. I loved him so much. Is been 4months now and he won't leave me alone. No matter how long we go ...
A. 9 August 2011: Be assertive, if you can't to his face, write him a letter. Don't be apologetic (like don't say I'm sorry or anything like that), just tell him point blank that you can't be friends with him.
The fact that he told you he thinks about you when he'... (read in full...)
How do I spit out cum without it being awkward?
Q. Okay so... My boyfriend is always asking me to give him a blow job, and i love doing it for him... one problem, i tasted cum once and hated it... he says he doesnt mind, that i can start with a blow job and that he will tell me when hes close to ...
A. 9 August 2011: Why not just finish him with your hand if you hate the way it tastes? If you start feeling obligated to do this you may resent it and I'm sure he'd rather have blow jobs finished with your hand than no blow jobs at all.... (read in full...)
Is it legal for a 24 year old to date a 17 year old?
Q. Hi to all I've just found out that a friend of mine (24 years old male) is dating a (17 year old female) and just would like know is this legal or illegal and is this right or wrong as i really dont know myself what to say to them both....
A. 9 August 2011: It's legal so long as he's not in a position of trust over her (like a teacher, doctor, etc...). It's a little strange, but you can't really say anything about it. They won't listen and it will just make your relationship with your friend awkward.... (read in full...)
Why arent women hardwired to accept porn if all men are hardwired to watch it?
Q. If all men are "hardwired" to look at porn and women other than their girlfriends or wives then why aren't all women hardwired to be understanding and accepting of this? ...
A. 8 August 2011: He doesn't prefer porn to you, he continued to look despite the impact it was having because it's a very ingrained habit. He's probably been doing this since he was a young teen. And reinforcing the behavior with an orgasm every time. Imagine if ... (read in full...)
I didn't cheat, but my g/f insists I did. Did I?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend since October last year, but I started dating her around May. In june - july last year I went to Europe backpacking. During this trip I met with my ex girlfriend in Vienna for 3 days (she lives in Switzerland). This was ...
A. 8 August 2011: Even if you were together, having a friendly public meeting with an ex where there are other people present shouldn't be an issue. That's appropriate in a relationship, and you weren't even in a relationship.
That said, you should have told you... (read in full...)
Every time we have sex now it hurts. Why is that?
Q. So. A few weeks ago me and my bf were havin sex and it hurt. And it has never hurt before it was lower abdominal pain. An almost everytime we have sex it hurts idk what it could be. Any suggestions...
A. 8 August 2011: If you're fully aroused and lubricated and it still hurts, you should see a doctor. Sex should never hurt. The first thing that I think of when I hear this though is that your cervix is being hit during sex. Does it get worse in deeper positions ... (read in full...)
When are men going to STOP being so selfish about porn and START realizing they are destroying the woman that loves them?
Q. Some women like porn and don't mind if their bf's look at it. This does not apply to those women. This is for the rest of us, the majority. Those of us that HATE PORN and HATE HOW IT MAKES US FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES. Seriously, after all the ex...
A. 8 August 2011: I'm not surprised at the hatred the OP is getting, but that doesn't mean she's wrong. Over half of women flat out do not want porn in their relationships, and a large portion of women who are OK with it still feel hurt by it. Porn is really wrecking ... (read in full...)
I wanted to cheat with him knowing he has a girlfriend!
Q. Hey I'm T and I am 18. I have this friend that's recently appeared back into my life after we ran into each other... he is a gorgeous guy and we can talk for hours. He's with this really crazy girl and he hates it - he doesn't want to be with her ...
A. 8 August 2011: You're not a bad person. You didn't cheat, he did. From the way it sounds he's been planning to cheat. However, keep in mind it's the oldest thing in the cheaters' book to say that either they're miserable with their current relationship, in an ... (read in full...)
What can I use other than sex toys for masturbation?
Q. What things can I use to make me orgasm during masturbation. I don't have any sex toys since im too young....
A. 8 August 2011: You don't want to be focusing on things to insert, you should try to figure out ways to stimulate your clitoris first as that's the main place women orgasm from. A lot of women find massaging shower heads work well, or just laying under the bathtub ... (read in full...)
Should older women stop taking birth control pills??
Q. I think I want to start having kids by beginning of next year. Me and my boyfriend have talked about it. I am currently on birth control and I am 30yrs old. Had a convo with girlfriends who told me I have to stop taking such pills at this age. This ...
A. 7 August 2011: The official opinion is that due to blood clot risk women should talk to their doctor about continuing the pill after the age of 35. There is no evidence that continuing to take the pill at any age has a permanent or lasting effect on fertility.... (read in full...)
What does an itchy red irritated belly button mean is wrong?
Q. My belly button has been itchy the past couples days. Today I noticed the inside of my belly button is red and irritated. Should I be worried?...
A. 7 August 2011: It's possible to get skin infections/fungus from moisture in there if you don't towel it off after showering. Or like harleygirl said, you could have an allergy to certain metals (like on a belt or the button of your pants).... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 7 August 2011: First off, porn and prostitution are not hardwired. I will first address the whole oldest profession in the world argument. Yes prostitution has been around for a long time. So has war, rape, murder, torture, abuse, slavery, cancer, pain and ... (read in full...)
I worry about having children because my boyfriend's family have different illnesses
Q. I have been going out with my bf for about 2yrs and 3months now, we live together and all. we arent going to have kids for a while as we are both not ready. im 21 and he is 27. the other day i brought up kids with him..and i said i was abit worried ...
A. 6 August 2011: I think any family is going to have a risk of different illnesses. If it's not the mental problems, almost every family has SOMETHING. If we were talking something like Huntington's that would be different (also because you can test for it). It's ... (read in full...)
I started my period and gained 5 lbs???
Q. Hello! I started my period a few days ago, and all the sudden I'd gained nearly five pounds! Which has never happened. I'm becoming worried that it won't go away! I feel so self conscious, and it's really noticeable. My jeans don't fit! My stomach ...
A. 5 August 2011: Lots of peole get bloaty (sometimes visibly) around their periods. It can happen before or during. It will go away, but Midol could help as it contains a diuretic.... (read in full...)
Why arent women hardwired to accept porn if all men are hardwired to watch it?
Q. If all men are "hardwired" to look at porn and women other than their girlfriends or wives then why aren't all women hardwired to be understanding and accepting of this? ...
A. 5 August 2011: It's interesting how men frequently criticize women for it being silly or crazy to be insecure about an image, which everyone knows is fake, yet no one criticizes porn users for being extremely aroused by fake images. Both strong feelings, but only ... (read in full...)
What gives women the right to judge men for having been to prostitutes?
Q. Every time a man complains about a woman's sexual past he gets told he has no right to talk about it. But a lot of women will judge a man if they hear that he has slept with a prostitute. It's hypocrisy. If the past can't be held against one ...
A. 5 August 2011: Let me clarify. Rape is sex by force or coercion or lack of consent. Paying someone to do something is coercion, therefore paying someone to have sex is coercing someone to have sex.... (read in full...)
His penis is to large and he hates it making our sex infrequent, what can I do?
Q. I'm 26, my boyfriend's 28, we've been together for a month now. He's a lovely guy; kind, caring, decent. However, we've only had sex infrequently. Reason why? His penis is too large and he HATES it, absolutely HATES it; he says women should "...
A. 4 August 2011: He needs to go see a doctor to figure out why any sexual activity including masturbation hurts, as just being very large shouldn't cause that.... (read in full...)
My mum says my boyfriend's dad doesn't like me!
Q. I am in a relationship with a guy whom my Mum dislikes. We have been together for almost four months and things are going generally well between us. Only his dad lives around the area and we have met a few times - once for dinner and twice at his ...
A. 4 August 2011: I think your mom is just trying to separate you and your boyfriend/breed animosity. If he was excited he would show his family. He clearly considers you sort of part of that family or he wouldn't have even thought to show you at all. If he didn't ... (read in full...)
I want to draw a nude woman (not for sexual reasons), but I'm afraid to ask
Q. I am an 18 year old art student, and far from sad or weird. What I have always wanted to do is draw an undressed girl live, preferably someone I know, but have never had chance to do it. I want to ask someone, but am afraid of sounding creepy. Would ...
A. 4 August 2011: Go to an art class for life drawing, check around your school for a life drawing class (or even just online to see if there's one in your area). It's very creepy to just ask someone to model for you. I've asked very very close female friends to ... (read in full...)
The girl he likes on this competition show has a strong resemblance to his ex wife, should I leave him over this?
Q. Me and my bf watch this competition show. we usually pick our favorites. i noticed that the girl he picked has a strong recemblance to his ex wife. when they dont show her enough on the show he starts complaining that they dont show "his girl" ...
A. 3 August 2011: I don't like to use this phrase because everyone is entitled to their feelings, but you are really overreacting. Unless he's saving tons of photos of her and stashing them under his bed, I see absolutely nothing to worry about. She may resemble her, ... (read in full...)
Pregnant during your period?
Q. Can I get pregnant during periods?...
A. 3 August 2011: Unlikely but possible.... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my friend get out of her abusive relationship?
Q. I have a friend and she is in this on again off again with her abusive boyfriend. this wouldn't be an issue if this wasn't going on 10 times in a row. her boyfriend would hit her, smack her, say that they are breaking up just make her cry, call her ...
A. 3 August 2011: People in abusive relationships often develop a kind of Stockholm Syndrome where they have undying dedication and love to their abusers. It's not her fault and it's really barely even her choice. It's unclear why this happens, but basically it's ... (read in full...)
Girls/women who have had sex: How much did it hurt the first time?
Q. I'm a virgin and I'm pretty worried about having sex for the first time. I definitely have a hymen that will need to break. When I use a certain kind of tampons that are too big, it hurts like holy hell trying to get them out - I've worried about ...
A. 3 August 2011: Actually the hymen breaking part isn't generally the part that hurts. It will only hurt if you're not thoroughly turned on. If you are REALLY turned on, like close to orgasm, and use some lube, it's possible to not hurt at all. The main reason the ... (read in full...)
Is this cheating?
Q. Is it cheating to make a profile on a dating site and chat to singles,with the intent of meeting? I cought my gf doing this and she said it was just to pass time, because she is at home all day doing nothing (I'm the only one that works). What...
A. 3 August 2011: So basically is the intent to cheat, cheating? Not really. But it's very not good. When I'm bored all day I watch a movie or TV. I don't go bolster my ego on dating sites. She had to consciously go to the site and take a significant amount of time ... (read in full...)
What gives women the right to judge men for having been to prostitutes?
Q. Every time a man complains about a woman's sexual past he gets told he has no right to talk about it. But a lot of women will judge a man if they hear that he has slept with a prostitute. It's hypocrisy. If the past can't be held against one ...
A. 3 August 2011: I don't believe that absolutely every instance is equivalent to rape, but that in most instances paying someone who wouldn't otherwise have sex to do so is certainly in the rape spectrum.... (read in full...)
What gives women the right to judge men for having been to prostitutes?
Q. Every time a man complains about a woman's sexual past he gets told he has no right to talk about it. But a lot of women will judge a man if they hear that he has slept with a prostitute. It's hypocrisy. If the past can't be held against one ...
A. 3 August 2011: You've read some interviews with people who have economic stake in making sure prostitution is portrayed positively? My job involves working with many women who are ex-prostitutes, some of whom were so traumatized by this "job" that they can barely ... (read in full...)
What gives women the right to judge men for having been to prostitutes?
Q. Every time a man complains about a woman's sexual past he gets told he has no right to talk about it. But a lot of women will judge a man if they hear that he has slept with a prostitute. It's hypocrisy. If the past can't be held against one ...
A. 2 August 2011: Using a prostituted woman is completely different from a woman's past sexual history because it shows a complete disregard for women. A man who visits prostitutes is not someone who respects women. Some stats: 70-90% of prostituted wome... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 22 May 2011: This is a post about relationships and porn, not so much feminism and porn. I am more than happy to discuss pornography and feminism normally, however, I'd like to keep to the topic. I will post links instead. (this is relevant to why it is problema... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 20 May 2011: Actually I am excluding "niche" porn such as BDSM, as did the studies that found violence in the scenes. Those were just mainstream popular porn scenes. Violence included things such as gagging, slapping, hair pulling, etc... The point was largely ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 19 May 2011: There's a pretty big difference between noticing someone attractive and actively going out and seeking them out for the sole purpose of arousal. Everyone notices other attractive people. But I think most people would be offended if they were out ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 17 May 2011: Wow guys, I'm flattered! I'm glad I helped.
Smiliek: Hmmm I can't remember exactly what I said on that post (there was a lot to read through). I think what you're referring to is when I was discussing who is prone to addiction. Basically there ar... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 16 May 2011: @Cerberus: I would never tell someone who seems OK with it that it's harmful and she should be bothered when she isn't. People who come on here asking for reassurance are far more often than not asking for reassurance that they're not stupid or ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 16 May 2011: I do believe vibrators and porn are different though in the way the need exists or is created. Some women need them in the sense that even when they try really hard, nothing they do can make them orgasm until they get themselves a vibrator, which I ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 13 May 2011: Why would it be banned. Cigarettes are horrible for you, they aren't banned. Alcohol causes a ton of problems but it's not banned either. Who said anything about banning anything? Most things that are atrociously bad for you aren't banned. Usually ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 13 May 2011: Cerberus, your views change from post to post because you are rational and logical on most answers and give extremely good advice, and then when it hits porn you are irrationally angry. I find it extremely amusing that you think you are open to new ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 9 May 2011: In my last response what I said to Auntie Tracey is the longest part. I'd hardly say that's ignoring. There is a huge difference between a small vibrator and buying the most enormous dildo she can. Like porn no one needs an enormous dildo and since ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 6 May 2011: Odds, I see what you're saying, but when you get to the porn part it doesn't make a lot of sense. I think if two people have differing sex drives, every so often they are going to have to sacrifice. One person will have to give a bit more, one ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 5 May 2011: The scientific community also doesn't know smoking causes lung cancer, research suggests it. There are many studies out there that show no correlation or a negative correlation between smoking and lung cancer.
You'll note below I said as close to... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 5 May 2011: I just got sent these links today, so instead of trying to explain this I'll let someone else do it:
A website mostly geared towards addicts, but explains why/how it works:
http://yourbrainonporn.com/
(sorry for the long URL on this next one... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 3 May 2011: Dirtball, I wasn't missing your point. My point is that porn and sex are the same in a person's brain. So if someone asks a partner not to have sex with other people, asking them not to look at porn is exactly the same. Of course cheating is ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 2 May 2011: Dirtball they use something called fMRI (functional magnetic resonance imaging) to watch how the brain reacts on top of measuring the release of hormones and chemicals. It's been known for some time now that orgasm, especially orgasming to porn, ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 2 May 2011: "It's not an appropriate subject"
If absolutely everyone with internet access has looked at least a few times, it doesn't matter if it's appropriate or not. Talking about venereal disease is appropriate, but porn isn't despite impacting almost 1... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 1 May 2011: Men and women are not that different. They are far more similar than they are different (a meta analysis found that over 95% of studies out of several thousand on psychological differences found no significant difference). However, there were large ... (read in full...)
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