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writes:Me and my boy friend like to do alternative things in the bedroom. We act out some porn scenes that seem interesting. The one that he wants to try, I'm not into much. He wants to ejaculate on my face, then urinate on me. I can handle him cumming on me but the other is not for me. Has anyone else tried this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): By the way, everyone blatantly saying anything that potentially brings pleasure is "wrong" on this site instantly gets a poor rating from me. Opinions are fine...opposition is not. This is no place to be closed minded about sexuality or relationships....I guess that was my opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2011): "As for the urination, that is completely wrong. Unless you enjoy that too, and if you do, then who am I to judge?"
WHAT... first 'beingblack' says it's COMPLETELY WRONG, then asks "who am I to judge"... whatever...
I has a college GF that wanted to pee on me, we took a shower, she pissed all over my chest (not on my face, not in my mouth). It was warm, she got to check it off her list and I don't think we ever did it a second time... no one was hurt or degraded... Didn't do much for me, but I agreed to be a good sex partner and did it for her! That's part of being a good partner... if it doesn't hurt or isn't dangerous, then TRY to accommodate your partners desires.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2011): You need to decide what you are willing to do for him.
If you want to allow him to cum in your face or pee on you... by all means, allow it.
However, if you don't want to do these things, don't do it.
Sadly, some men will never be satisfied and, once the novelty of him cumming and peeing all over you is past, he may want more and more bizarre things.
Porn has succeeded in taking the most intimate part of love and making it a selfish act. Very sad.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (14 August 2011):
 A gf told me that her bf asked during sex,
"Can I cum on your face?"
She replied, "Can I sneeze on your penis?".
She was getting over a upper respitory infection too.
Needless to say, he stopped asking. Funny how HE was grossed out.
If you are not comfortable with something, even for "one try" then say no. You do not need to be the petri dish for all of his sexual experimentation.
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reader, bunnyblueeyes  +, writes (14 August 2011):
 I don't agree that letting your partner ejaculate on your face is degrading, a lot of girls find it just as sexy as their partners. But I do think yurine is a different matter. No matter what 'cute' name you call it, urine is the waste your body throws out, WASTE being the operative word. Not even a little bit sexy to me. And if you're not comfortable with it either then tell him so.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (14 August 2011):
 Actually ejaculating on someone's face is designed to be degrading. The reason it's degrading is BECAUSE of the context, in that it's very similar to spitting in someone's face. Every other bodily fluid you can consciously do in someone's face is degrading/malicious, so why is ejaculating in the face suddenly different? Here's a famous quote from porn producer Bill Margold about it:
"I'd like to really show what I believe the men want to see: violence against women. I firmly believe that we serve a purpose by showing that. The most violent we can get is the cum shot in the face. Men get off behind that because they get even with the women they can't have."
And the reason men enjoy it is because it feels dominating/degrading. There is nothing that could physically feel better about it. Quotes from men on why they enjoy it:
"It felt...like I was in charge. Like I dominated her sexually, and she loved being dominated. It felt raw and animalistic...and very masculine for me."
"It was the happiest moment of my young life. There is just something about blowing a load in a chick's face that makes you feel like a man."
"there is something extreme or emotionally satisfying about cumming on a woman and seeing it on her. I wouldn't liken it to a dog marking a lamppost, but it may be a male dominance thing"
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reader, Beingblack +, writes (14 August 2011):
 What pleasure would you get out of allowing someone to ejaculate on your face? If it pleases you because it pleases him, then go for it, if that isn't the case, tell him no.As for the urination, that is completely wrong. Unless you enjoy that too, and if you do, then who am I to judge?It seems like he is pushing to get his own way, and has watched and BELIEVED far too much porn action.Poor little boy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2011): It's known as water sports and it's not that rare. It's also not only about men doing it to women. A lot of men like a woman doing it to them and prostitutes will drink something such as an effervescent vitamin drink beforehand, to give the pee color.There's nothing wrong or degrading about it so it comes down what two consenting adults agree to be done. If you don't want to do it then you shouldn't do it (same as any other act). So, just talk to your partner about it and tell him it doesn't interest you at all.
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reader, arialovesthegays +, writes (14 August 2011):
Urinate on you? Why on earth would he wish to do that? That just seems wrong on all levels!! that is just disguesting and how is that sexy and how is that from porn
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (14 August 2011):
 Do not allow what you do not want done. Draw the line. Period.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2011): Tell him "NO" about being peed on. Tell him absolutely "NO"
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2011): Plenty of people have tried it and of those who have it's usually only the men who enjoy it. That's because they get the easy part. The women just get the discomfort, mess and clean up afterward.The thing about the vast majority of heterosexual porn is that it is designed for men and it doesn't depict men swallowing bodily fluids, being beaten, urinated on or having anyone climax in their faces. In fact it doesn't portray men doing anything even remotely adventurous or inconvenient. They're just doing and having done to them those things they like or want. The women are the ones stepping outside their comfort zones and trying things foreign to them. Unless you like the idea of your boyfriend being able to relax after sex while you're left with clean up duty (your face, body, hair, the sheets, towels and brushing your teeth and gargling with mouthwash) then I strongly suggest if you do allow him to ejaculate on your then it should be below your chest. A definite NO to the golden shower or swallowing any bodily fluids. And HE can wipe the gism off you. You are not the make a wish foundation. Just because he has a desire, doesn't mean it's your duty to fulfill it. If you do decide to acquiesce to any uncomfortable or distasteful acts at the very least make sure he works hard to earn it before and reward you afterward. No freebies. Ever. Please just say no to both.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (14 August 2011):
 I disagree with Person12345 completely. Actions are not inherently humiliating or degrading, it's all about the context in which they are done in.
For example, sex is not degrading, but rape is. The difference is only -consent-.
Watersports, as it's known in the BDSM circles, is an extremely common kink and many people enjoy it. However, if you do not want to do it, you need to explain to your partner that you are not interested in it, and tell him that you won't do it.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (14 August 2011):
That depends on whether you enjoy being degraded I suppose. Having someone cum on your face can't be anything but intended to degrade/dominate/humiliate. Would you let him spit in your face, throw a beverage on your face, etc...? The only instances where people pee on other people is to humiliate them or mark them as "dominated." There is no way either of these things can be an act of respect, he obviously gets off on degrading you.
You shouldn't do anything you don't want to or feel comfortable doing. Just say no if you don't want it. You're not under any obligation to do things that make you uncomfortable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2011): Urinate on you? Why on earth would he wish to do that? That just seems wrong on all levels!!
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