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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months and I guess I'm in teenage love. When we're together it's perfect- I feel like he really does like...love me. He says and does everything right...but.he also has a lot of friends. Thats great- but most of them are girls. And this summer he wants to meet up with them- one-on-one. Including his bestfriend who happens to be his.ex girlfriend who told me she had feelings for him. Another may or may not have feelings for him. But there are more.I act like I'm okay with it but I am jealous and worried and now very insecure. I feel like I should be the only girl in his world. But I.know I can't tell him to ditch his friends or not go. I just feel really bad inside though. What can I do?xx
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX +, writes (10 August 2011):
 I know exactly how you feel~ my boyfriend of nearly a year has got loads of friends who are girls and this makes me feel so jealous (i get jealous easily) and insecure. He also occassionally meets up with some of them one-on-one which worries me as i think there is one who does have small feelings from him and she's recently single. However, as many people have told me, as long as you can trust him then you shouldn't worry about it as he's entitled to have other friends who are girls. Also i agree with what's already been said~ he chose you and not the other girls. Also his ex is an ex for a reason :) If it bothers you, then maybe you should bring it up with him?
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reader, person12345  +, writes (9 August 2011):
 You can't control your boyfriend's friends or who's he's friends with. I think it would be reasonable to set some boundaries (but only if he tries to cross them), but right now it doesn't sound like he's doing anything weird or suspicious. Unless he's given you a reason not to trust him, it sounds like he just happens to bond better with women (not in a romantic way necessarily). Also remind yourself that them having feelings for him doesn't mean he has feelings for them. Remind yourself he loves YOU, he's with YOU. If he wanted to be with them, he would have been. But instead he chose you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2011): man i feel the same way
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (9 August 2011):
 You feel insecure because he had a more romantic relationship with girls before you. Some of them might still be carrying around feelings for him.
BUT.
He chose you. Do not worry yourself to death about it and simply enjoy being with your bf.
Guys have friends that happen to be girls. Let go the past. Do not worry about the girls and listen to what your bf says about YOU and HIS feelings.
You are the one with him and the other girls are probably jealous of YOU.
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