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12 October 2011: While generally facebook is considered a fun way to keep in touch with friends and share photos, it can be a huge source of turmoil in a relationship. If I had a dime for every time I read "I'm worried because I saw something on her/his facebook..." ...
Is Pornography cheating?
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1 May 2011: The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
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Our constant fighting has killed the romance in our relationship!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for three and a half months, after just over a year of friendship. In that time, I have always tried to be a respectful, honest, and deeply caring partner. And, for the first part of our relationship (our ...
A. 23 September 2011: Four months is so little time to be fighting and bickering non-stop that you should move on. This soon in you should still both be infatuated with each other and in the "honeymoon phase." If even that can't help things, what's going to happen when ... (read in full...)
I have phobias about life!
Q. i have a strange question but sometimes it really does get to me so much i think i need help. i feel abit scared like a phobia of life and dont want to be here. wouldnt do anything silly i dont mean in that way i just mean i cant cope with things ...
A. 23 September 2011: If you're talking about fear of vomiting by sick you have one of the 10 most common phobias in the world, emetophobia. If you mean other kinds of sickness the treatment is actually the same. You really need to see a good counselor, someone who ... (read in full...)
Why would he suddenly make his facebook photos public?
Q. A guy removed me as a friend from his facebook list because he wanted no regrets and didn't want me to know about his actions. I got a really amazing makeover in the upcoming year. I know I shouldn't be searching him but ... I did. Anyway, he has e...
A. 23 September 2011: He removed you as a friend, that's all. He didn't redo his entire privacy settings just because of you. More likely? There are pictures of him and his friends drinking and partying and he didn't want potential employers to see.
Don't assume h... (read in full...)
Trying to get together with her but I don't want her to think I'm hitting on her!
Q. On starting university a girl who is something of an acquaintance has come up to my hometown. I wouldn't say that I was overly interested in her at present (I don't know her well enough to make that judgement) what I would say is that we think and ...
A. 23 September 2011: So you want to hit on her, but not let her know you're hitting on her so you can ensure there's no chance she reciprocates? I think you mostly are having problems with the fact that hitting on someone sounds unpleasant, but really it just means ... (read in full...)
The reality of an open relationship is not so good
Q. Hello - My husband and I have been married for 8 years. We have talked about an open relationship and I thought this was a good idea. I had sex with another man a couple of months ago. It was only one time and it truly was just sex. It was ...
A. 23 September 2011: You two need to sit down and redefine this. Open relationship does not mean free for all. You should be setting guidelines about what is and isn't acceptable. It's time to really have a talk about what you both expect of the other and what you both ... (read in full...)
I cheated on him, now he wants me to pay
Q. Hey! So, cheated on my bf and I know it was bad and all. So, please, please, please, no judgment. Trying to win him back. He says he loves me, but his trust is gone. Then he came over to my place tonite and tried real hard to have sex.I refused cos ...
A. 23 September 2011: No way, he does not plan on giving you a second chance. Sorry, but you got rid of trust. He's calling you a slut and wants to treat you like such to see you degraded/dehumanized as revenge. If you want to retain your dignity you need to just move ... (read in full...)
Lost my virginity and worried about the amount of bleeding
Q. Hey well i was wondering some thing, before i have used "toys" and i bleed after it some times and some times i dont but when i do its usually not very much. But tonight i had sex for the first time with my boyfriend and after awhile i noteced blood ...
A. 22 September 2011: It's pretty normal to bleed, more than you think. As long as the bleeding stopped in a reasonable amount of time and a lot means like a tampon full rather than multiple cups of it, it shouldn't be anything to worry about. Your toys wouldn't have the ... (read in full...)
How did he get Chlamydia?
Q. I have been with my partner for over 2 years, we have had a few tough weeks. he has been depressed as he has lost his job and feels a failure, which of course I tell him he is not. He has been a bit agitated for a few weeks,today he rang me and told ...
A. 22 September 2011: It's possible to catch without cheating. He could have been asymptomatic and had it from a previous partner, he could catch it from somehow getting fecal matter near the tip of his penis, there are a couple ways to get it. I'm curious as to why he ... (read in full...)
I"m not sure if the pregnancy test was positive or negative?
Q. I took a pregnancy test the other day. I'm not sure I waited long enough or what. I waited at least 3 minutes before I had to leave, but im still nervous about the results. It had two windows, in one window, there was a verticle line, and in the...
A. 21 September 2011: You have to read the instructions that came with the test. All of them are different.... (read in full...)
Why couldn't I get an erection?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 2 weeks now andwe have been sexually active for 2 weeks strait and she is almost addicted to having sex with me which is fine cuz I usually want it just as much as she does but the other night we were hanging out ...
A. 21 September 2011: It happens, especially when you're tired. Totally normal. Don't let it eat at your confidence.... (read in full...)
Three weeks into the relationship. What present would not "spook" seeing as it's early days?
Q. Hi All, A quick question something I haven't come across before early on in the dating process. I have been dating a girl for 3 weeks, we met online and chatted on the phone etc for about a month before this. We have since had 4 /5 dates. It's her ...
A. 21 September 2011: How about you bake her a cake and put some candles on it?... (read in full...)
Should cheating ever be forgiven?
Q. I moved in with my fiance, and after 14 months of being together our relationship came to an end after i found out he had been cheating on me for about 2 months every time he went to work outta town. It's now been 6 months and he is no longer with ...
A. 21 September 2011: I mean ultimately the decision is up to you. But a good partner doesn't turn to other people when the going gets tough. There will always be tough times, sometimes it will get bad, sometimes you won't always be 100% in love. But a good partner will ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble resisting the temptation ...
Q. Here is the situation. I have been with my girlfriend for a year and a half, although the past year has been semi-long distance since she moved an hour away to attend school. I love her very much but we aren't as intimate as we used to be and I only ...
A. 21 September 2011: Then stop hanging out with her, cut off contact. How would you feel if you knew your current girlfriend was "consumed" with how much she wants to have sex with one of her exes and still hangs out with him?
It's actually a pretty bad sign that not... (read in full...)
Car or bed?
Q. My boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time this weekend. We have two options, either in the back seat of my car or in my room while my sister is home. Which do you think would be a little better?...
A. 21 September 2011: I lost mine in a car and I REALLY wish it had been a bed. Do it in a bed, but wait until your sister is gone unless your house is really soundproof and you can lock your door.... (read in full...)
Broke off our engagement ...did I do the right thing?
Q. Just found out that my bf of four years didn't marry his ex gf because her divorce hadn't come through. He claims this is not the case and it was because they weren't the right match but turns out she was separated from her ex but still married to ...
A. 21 September 2011: You say you are listening to our advice, and are breaking up with him against every bit of advice here? I agree with below that you sound like you are suffering from extreme retrograde jealousy. No offense, but this is insane. Like Nime said, you ... (read in full...)
Should cheating ever be forgiven?
Q. I moved in with my fiance, and after 14 months of being together our relationship came to an end after i found out he had been cheating on me for about 2 months every time he went to work outta town. It's now been 6 months and he is no longer with ...
A. 20 September 2011: Sometimes cheating should be forgiven. Long term affairs should never be forgiven imho. Everyone makes mistakes, and sometimes those should be forgiven. For instance:
1. If the cheater confesses very quickly.
2. It was a one time thing.
3. They t... (read in full...)
Is giving custody of my baby to my parents such a bad thing?
Q. Im 19 years old and 6 months pregnant. I dont feel at all ready to give my baby the best life he can have. I love him with all my heart, but im just not ready. I want to give custody to my parents. They want a baby and would love their grandbaby ...
A. 20 September 2011: No, nothing wrong at all. It's a very mature and selfless thing to recognize that you won't be able to give your baby everything she/he deserves. Since your parents want a baby, it seems like a good way to turn a crappy situation into a tolerable ... (read in full...)
Where do I hide the condoms?
Q. My friends bought me some condoms (I have a new boyfriend- he's gorgeous and very sexy- they were joking around), but I want to hang onto them just in case anything does happen- better safe than sorry! Does anyone have any ideas as to where in my ro...
A. 20 September 2011: Somewhere not right out in the open, like a nightstand. Do your parents go snooping around or something? Or maybe as a little ironic joke you could hide them in a box of tampons. Kind of the last place anyone would think to look for condoms. If they ... (read in full...)
Broke off our engagement ...did I do the right thing?
Q. Just found out that my bf of four years didn't marry his ex gf because her divorce hadn't come through. He claims this is not the case and it was because they weren't the right match but turns out she was separated from her ex but still married to ...
A. 20 September 2011: No you're not responsible for what happened to him. But I'm failing to see what ANY of that has to do with you. Not to be rude, but shit happens. So he would have married someone else and you wouldn't have been in the picture. Guess what, he DIDN'T ... (read in full...)
My mother can't afford the wedding, my b/f's family can but won't help!
Q. Me and my fiance are planning our wedding. I've always wanted to get married in a cathedral, and have a ball-gown style dress, and of course marry the man of my dreams. Unfortunately...my mom who would be fronting the bill, can't afford how much the ...
A. 20 September 2011: Honestly, I've never understood the point of a wedding costing as much as a very nice new car or a down payment on a house. I know it's sad, but it's just a few hours one day. Do you want to remember the financial burden that day was, or how you had ... (read in full...)
I want to ask ex-boyfriend's sister about what she said, but am not sure if its a good idea
Q. It's been a little over a yr. now since my ex-fiance and I parted ways after 7 yrs. together. He did the dumping and soon after became heavily involved with someone else. Through out this whole ordeal I remained in contact with his family, ...
A. 20 September 2011: I personally wouldn't have put something that personal on FB, but that's just me. It sounds pretty obvious doesn't it, that his sister wants him to take you back. It's impossible to know if that's because it's what she wants or because he said ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is pregnant and our families are mad at us!
Q. I have been dating my gf for almost a yr now. She is 17 and I am 18. a few months ago we found out she was pregnant. Since we told our parents its been hell. Her parents were upset, her dad natural blamed me. Its been almost 2 months since we told ...
A. 19 September 2011: I think everything I was going to say about dealing with your parents has been said. You need to be apologetic, not argumentative.
I am wondering have you thought about other options, like adoption or abortion?... (read in full...)
Both of us like each other...but she has a boyfriend!!
Q. Hi all again, I've got a problem this time with a girl I really like. I met her about a month ago and we really like eachother. Even though I knew she had a boyfriend, I told her how I felt about her. She told me that she felt the same way about ...
A. 18 September 2011: I think you need to just back off and let her come to you. Either she will or she won't, but starting the relationship through cheating can't end well. You need to just wait and let her choose, either you or your boyfriend. Either she wants to be ... (read in full...)
When I confronted boyfriend about cheating he didn't say anything which to me confirms that he's cheating. Now what?
Q. how do i get over this: I had my boyfriend, and he cheated on me and when I confronted him he said he didn't do anything, then he didn't want to talk about it, he left. That only tells me one thing, that is it true and I don't know how to cope...
A. 18 September 2011: I know it's heartbreaking. But what will happen if you do go over to see him? What do you expect to happen? You need to distract yourself somehow. Bake a cake, watch a movie, learn to knit, go see your friends, whatever you can do to keep yourself ... (read in full...)
Suggestions for a short driving vacation from New Mexico?
Q. Our one year anniversary is fast approaching and we don't have a lot of money but want to go somewhere for a romantic 4 days. We live in southern New Mexico so we're not close to California or Florida. Any cool romantic places we go drive to ...
A. 18 September 2011: How about the Grand Canyon or Santa Fe?... (read in full...)
Haven't met yet, but she's told me something personal. Not sure what to think!
Q. Ive been texting this girl off a dating site (we haven't met in person yet) for over a month now and I really like her but I dont know how she feels about me. It is a bit hard to gauge emotion through text message. We talk almost every day and on ...
A. 17 September 2011: It probably means she's starting to trust you/feel comfortable with you. Why don't you just ask her out? You did meet on a dating site after all.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants her own nudes on her phone.
Q. Ok just a quick question, but first a little background. My girlfriend has in the past given me erotic pictures of her. and now she wants me to send them all to her phone. my questions is, why would she want this? ( im going to leave out the part ...
A. 17 September 2011: Sorry, that should read their houses. Not hers.... (read in full...)
Pregnant by fwb what do I do
Q. Hi everyone here is my problem I have a fwb didn't intend to I wanted a relationship with him he just wanted sex so that was that but here's my problem I think I might be pregnant but he doesn't want to be with me as we have talked about this before ...
A. 17 September 2011: I think it's highly unlikely that you're pregnant if you're taking the pill. So take a test to find out for sure.
If you are, it doesn't mean you have to be with him, or that you even have to raise a child, or even carry it to term. There are seve... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants her own nudes on her phone.
Q. Ok just a quick question, but first a little background. My girlfriend has in the past given me erotic pictures of her. and now she wants me to send them all to her phone. my questions is, why would she want this? ( im going to leave out the part ...
A. 17 September 2011: She meets people online and goes to her house? Even cutting off almost the whole question and leaving it at that, you should dump her. She's either cheating on you or thinking of it.... (read in full...)
One night stand, now I'm pregnant and uncertain of who the father is
Q. Im not sure who the father of my child is. My boyfriend and I had been having problems for quite sometime then last month I just couldn't take it anymore. I had met someone and one thing lead to another. We only had one encounter. Now I'm pregnant. ...
A. 17 September 2011: If you don't use condoms with your boyfriend, it was bound to happen. Unless the condom broke or failed somehow, it pretty much has to be your boyfriend's.... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 16 September 2011: Sorry I haven't checked in on this post in awhile. I'm so glad this article helped. I'm not a counselor, I work with a feminist group where I try to help out women who are in relationships with users. You weren't rambling at all, it made perfect ... (read in full...)
Why is it okay for boys to be boys but women have to behave?
Q. Hi all. A quick question. Why is it that most men think they can flirt with many women, think it's their God given right to appreciate many females because they are men, but not accept it if a guy flirts with their wives or girlfriends? I ha...
A. 16 September 2011: Because we live in a patriarchy, that's why.
Though I'm not a huge fan of her in general, Jessica Valenti's book "He's a stud, She's a Slut" is great shedding insight on this.
Also this quick blog post:
http://finallyfem... (read in full...)
Are we having a typical disagreement over intimacy?
Q. I might as well just bury myself in a hole right now. I came home after a long day today, and I wanted to be intimate with my partner (this is a rarity for me). Not so long ago, he complained that I am never instigating our intimacy. So, you could ...
A. 16 September 2011: Yes sort of, but you're taking this way too personally. Sometimes people aren't in the mood or are tired or what have you. This is why it's hard to instigate intimacy, because there's the possibility of rejection. From what I understand, you reject ... (read in full...)
I don't have friends and don't want any. Is that wrong?
Q. I am 38 years old and I don't have any friends other than my wife. I have one friend from high school I see once in a great while. He always wants to meet up and do something, but I have no interest. I get along with my colleagues at work, but work...
A. 16 September 2011: Facebook makes us overestimate how social and happy other people are because mostly it only shows the good side of things. So don't put anything in relation to facebook life. If not having lots of friends is what makes you happy, you don't have to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants our LDR to be an open relationship...
Q. My boyfriend and I had been dating about three months when our relationship became long distance due to circumstances beyound our control. It's been three months since I had to move, and we've only been able to see each other once since then. ...
A. 16 September 2011: That's not an open relationship, that's permission to cheat. He can't have it both ways. Either you both get to sleep with other people or you both stay committed. If he can't agree to that, it's time to end the relationship. Point out to him how ... (read in full...)
Is my vibrator too intense?
Q. I am a 59-year-old-widow. Due to an illness my husband and I did not have intercourse for the last 15 years of our marriage (no masterbation during that time . realy need something now) .After my husband's death, a woman in my neighborhood who was ...
A. 16 September 2011: You can desensitize yourself a bit to "normal" stimulation if you overuse it, but all it takes is a week or two of cold turkey no vibrator to regain it. If this one feels too strong, buy yourself a different one.... (read in full...)
True or False: Men always think the grass may be greener with someone else?
Q. This is a question for men to answer true or false. If you're female, do not answer. This is an unanswerable question by a woman. Here is the back story, or skip to the bottom for the question. Last night while watching t.v. a character we both...
A. 15 September 2011: Someone mentioned the family photos, it's so true. There have been a bunch of new studies and thing looking into Facebook and found that in general Facebook makes people feel bad about their own lives. They see everyone else posting photos from ... (read in full...)
Wife cant take her eyes of other men
Q. I have questions about my wife looking at other men. As an example, we went to a family event and my wife could not take her eyes of one of the other fathers. The guy was tall and more muscular than average. I know people look, but this was ...
A. 15 September 2011: Sounds pretty disrespectful. You should talk to her about it and tell her you feel unappreciated/disrespected. Sure everyone notices, but that sounds pretty ridiculous. It's certainly a bad thing when it starts eating at your self esteem.... (read in full...)
Friends wife exposing herself in window!
Q. How should i react to this....my friend lives across the strret from me with his wife. Lately she has begun to (vividly blinds wide open) expose herself to me at night in the window. The shower is directly in front of the window. She get's out she ...
A. 15 September 2011: She's probably not doing it on purpose and would likely be pretty horrified to find out you were doing this. I'd get yourself some curtains and take up knitting or some other hobby. Especially since she's your friend's wife.... (read in full...)
B/f had to move to another area and now I feel we are losing "us"
Q. I have been in a relationship for 2 years. All was well, until a few months ago my partner started a new job and had to move to another area. Now we see each other every 6 weeks. He has always been an optimistic, cheerful and outgoing sort of ...
A. 15 September 2011: Long distance can work out if two things happen. One is that there has to be an end in sight. You both have to be working to be together again eventually. The other is that you have to make the conscious decision to trust him (likewise for him) and ... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty about masturbating to girls I know?
Q. I'm 13, and I've been masturbating for a bit now, and I've decided to be ethical about it, and not use porn. So I've been imagining girls I know. It works, well! But afterword I feel guilty about it. 'Cuz one is someone I've known for a while. I ...
A. 15 September 2011: I think that's very normal to do. I mean so long as you don't tell her (or anyone) you're masturbating to her, I don't see the problem. Also that's totally awesome to make the choice not to use porn. Not to mention the dating benefits.... (read in full...)
True or False: Men always think the grass may be greener with someone else?
Q. This is a question for men to answer true or false. If you're female, do not answer. This is an unanswerable question by a woman. Here is the back story, or skip to the bottom for the question. Last night while watching t.v. a character we both...
A. 15 September 2011: I'd go with A as well.... (read in full...)
True or False: Men always think the grass may be greener with someone else?
Q. This is a question for men to answer true or false. If you're female, do not answer. This is an unanswerable question by a woman. Here is the back story, or skip to the bottom for the question. Last night while watching t.v. a character we both...
A. 14 September 2011: Sorry you said no women, but I'm going to answer anyways. This whole idea that men think and feel entirely differently about things based on their sex is ridiculous. Any man who claims that "all men cheat" "all men blatantly check out other women" ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 7 August 2011: First off, porn and prostitution are not hardwired. I will first address the whole oldest profession in the world argument. Yes prostitution has been around for a long time. So has war, rape, murder, torture, abuse, slavery, cancer, pain and ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 22 May 2011: This is a post about relationships and porn, not so much feminism and porn. I am more than happy to discuss pornography and feminism normally, however, I'd like to keep to the topic. I will post links instead. (this is relevant to why it is problema... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 20 May 2011: Actually I am excluding "niche" porn such as BDSM, as did the studies that found violence in the scenes. Those were just mainstream popular porn scenes. Violence included things such as gagging, slapping, hair pulling, etc... The point was largely ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 19 May 2011: There's a pretty big difference between noticing someone attractive and actively going out and seeking them out for the sole purpose of arousal. Everyone notices other attractive people. But I think most people would be offended if they were out ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 17 May 2011: Wow guys, I'm flattered! I'm glad I helped.
Smiliek: Hmmm I can't remember exactly what I said on that post (there was a lot to read through). I think what you're referring to is when I was discussing who is prone to addiction. Basically there ar... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 16 May 2011: @Cerberus: I would never tell someone who seems OK with it that it's harmful and she should be bothered when she isn't. People who come on here asking for reassurance are far more often than not asking for reassurance that they're not stupid or ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 16 May 2011: I do believe vibrators and porn are different though in the way the need exists or is created. Some women need them in the sense that even when they try really hard, nothing they do can make them orgasm until they get themselves a vibrator, which I ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 13 May 2011: Why would it be banned. Cigarettes are horrible for you, they aren't banned. Alcohol causes a ton of problems but it's not banned either. Who said anything about banning anything? Most things that are atrociously bad for you aren't banned. Usually ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 13 May 2011: Cerberus, your views change from post to post because you are rational and logical on most answers and give extremely good advice, and then when it hits porn you are irrationally angry. I find it extremely amusing that you think you are open to new ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 9 May 2011: In my last response what I said to Auntie Tracey is the longest part. I'd hardly say that's ignoring. There is a huge difference between a small vibrator and buying the most enormous dildo she can. Like porn no one needs an enormous dildo and since ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 6 May 2011: Odds, I see what you're saying, but when you get to the porn part it doesn't make a lot of sense. I think if two people have differing sex drives, every so often they are going to have to sacrifice. One person will have to give a bit more, one ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 5 May 2011: The scientific community also doesn't know smoking causes lung cancer, research suggests it. There are many studies out there that show no correlation or a negative correlation between smoking and lung cancer.
You'll note below I said as close to... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 5 May 2011: I just got sent these links today, so instead of trying to explain this I'll let someone else do it:
A website mostly geared towards addicts, but explains why/how it works:
http://yourbrainonporn.com/
(sorry for the long URL on this next one... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 3 May 2011: Dirtball, I wasn't missing your point. My point is that porn and sex are the same in a person's brain. So if someone asks a partner not to have sex with other people, asking them not to look at porn is exactly the same. Of course cheating is ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 2 May 2011: Dirtball they use something called fMRI (functional magnetic resonance imaging) to watch how the brain reacts on top of measuring the release of hormones and chemicals. It's been known for some time now that orgasm, especially orgasming to porn, ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 2 May 2011: "It's not an appropriate subject"
If absolutely everyone with internet access has looked at least a few times, it doesn't matter if it's appropriate or not. Talking about venereal disease is appropriate, but porn isn't despite impacting almost 1... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 1 May 2011: Men and women are not that different. They are far more similar than they are different (a meta analysis found that over 95% of studies out of several thousand on psychological differences found no significant difference). However, there were large ... (read in full...)
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