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12 October 2011: While generally facebook is considered a fun way to keep in touch with friends and share photos, it can be a huge source of turmoil in a relationship. If I had a dime for every time I read "I'm worried because I saw something on her/his facebook..." ...
Is Pornography cheating?
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1 May 2011: The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
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Unhygienic session of anal sex.. Will I get sick?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together for a year now and finally had anal sex. I've had anal sex before but they've always taken place in the shower (with my ex of five years) so it had always been clean and super enjoyable. Well, it kind of ...
A. 2 December 2011: It's unlikely you would get sick, but unfortunately it is possible. Ingesting human fecal matter can cause e.coli infections. BUT it's really, really unlikely. There's fecal matter and e.coli all over the place and we eat small amounts of it all the ... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a "leg-fetish"?
Q. I understand the whole foot-fetish thing, but is there a specific fetish toward 'legs'? A female friend and I were discussing what we were in to and I told her I'm a sucker for a killer set of legs, which she said is a foot-fetish. However, I'm not ...
A. 2 December 2011: A true fetish is very rare, something like 1-2% of men have them. If you truly had a fetish for legs you would be unable to be aroused or orgasm without thinking about/seeing/touching legs. You must just like a good set of legs. That's not exactly ... (read in full...)
Has anyone had any problems with taking the morning after pill (norlevo) ?
Q. Anyone have any problems from taking the morning after pill.. {NorLevo}.. Do you think its ok to take this medication in a emergency? ...
A. 1 December 2011: The side-effects are generally just more acute versions of birth control pill side effects. I've taken it twice and one time had no side effects, the second time it made me a little moody for a day or two. If you need to take it, you should ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to urinate in the bath and shower?
Q. How many people urinate in their bath or shower? My boyfriend says everyone does and expects me to trust him if we bathe together. What shall I do?...
A. 30 November 2011: Urine is sterile, and flushing the toilet uses a ton of water. Peeing in the shower is easier and saves water. Why WOULDN'T someone pee in the shower? More people should as a water saving thing. Though peeing WHILE you're soaking in the bath is a ... (read in full...)
Having sex again after 12 days really hurt! Why?
Q. Me and my boyfriend hadn't had sex for 12 days- couldn't get a house to ourselves. We finally managed today, and it hurt like a *****. It was the same sort of pain I felt when I lost my virginity. It felt like I was being torn down there and brough...
A. 30 November 2011: Sounds like you weren't turned on enough, either not wet enough or too tight. This is more likely to happen when you're apart because you're probably a bit more impatient about getting down to it. You can prevent this by having more foreplay (the ... (read in full...)
What vibrator should I get?
Q. Hi everyone this is a question for the women lol I was thinking of buying a rabbit vibrator as I can't have a orgasm on my own which rampant rabbit vibrator is best do you think I was thinking of getting the thrusting one is this any good thank you ...
A. 30 November 2011: If you're willing to spend a little as an investment, the one generally considered the best in the world is one called the eroscillator. ... (read in full...)
Why do guys find it easy to orgasm, but many women never do?
Q. You always read about women having problems with this. Yet never any guys. Why is this? Is it because it's more taboo if a women does?...
A. 30 November 2011: There are many reasons. One our orgasm is not required for reproduction so ease of orgasm was never a factor in evolution. Though it seems that the female orgasm does serve a function (there is evidence is "resets" some of our hormones and mood ... (read in full...)
Has anyone tried HCG diet drops?
Q. I am wanting to try the HCG diet drops. I was wondering if anyone has tried them before? did they work? where is the best place to get them? I want to get as much information as I can because it seems to be really good....
A. 29 November 2011: Like everyone said, if diet pills worked no one would be overweight. The only thing diet pills work to do is cause serious heart problems. There's a reason there is only ONE diet pill in the entire US that is FDA approved for safety, and it's not ... (read in full...)
How effective is a condom?
Q. Hey everyone just want to know how effective Condoms are? I have recently had the implant in my upper arm removed after 3 years im getting it back in soon, But just for the time being is it ok to use condoms ? Any advice is very grateful thank ...
A. 29 November 2011: Nothing other than abstinence is 100% but it's around 95-97% effective. Many couples use them as their sole method of birth control. If it does break or slip off, you can always take emergency contraception. They are very effective and are fine to ... (read in full...)
My insecure girlfriend!
Q. Help please I want to save our relationship from ending Me and my girlfriend have been together for over 2 years and 4 months and are considering marriage Right now we want a court wedding because of financial issues But recently today she th...
A. 29 November 2011: What "minor" things have you lied about? If you're talking about saying something like that a dress looks good when it doesn't, that's one thing. If you're talking about lying about your whereabouts, phone conversations, internet habits, that's ... (read in full...)
My g/f wants to diet but I'm afraid she'll go back to old ways of binging and purging
Q. My fiance is becoming increasingly unhappy with her weight. She isn't fat at all, but she thinks she is. She is 5'11" and weighs 140lbs. She's actually quite slender. But tonight she had a really bad break down about it and decided to start a ...
A. 29 November 2011: You're right a promise from her isn't enough. Not because you can't trust her, but because an eating disorder is a mental disorder that cannot be overcome just through her thinking about it hard enough. It's one thing for a thin person to try to ... (read in full...)
My wife stares at other men when we are out together. What to do?
Q. My wife is 10 years younger than me. I'm 38 and when we go out I find her staring at other men. I try to tell her it bothers me but she just denies it. Should i even bother going on in this relationship?...
A. 25 November 2011: If by staring you mean walking into poles, tripping over things, losing her train of thought and becoming completely unable to function every time a hot guy walks past, I would still say don't end things. But if that is the case, then you need to ... (read in full...)
What is the main cause of juvenile delinquency and drug addiction?
Q. What is the most common cause,in families of juvenile delinquency and drug addiction? My sister kids are all dropped out of school, and into drugs and crime. It's a real frightening situation from the outside. I'm talking about serious drugs......
A. 24 November 2011: There is no single cause. Addiction definitely has a genetic component though. So if someone in your immediate family has addiction problems, you should be extra cautious using those substances.
As for help, you should talk to your sister and ask ... (read in full...)
Should I dump him despite the fact he's given up the porn??
Q. I have a problem. My boyfriend of nearly seven years has watched and masturbated to pornography throughout behind my back. He has also lied to me when I have caught him out. He even continued to do this whilst I was pregnant and after our baby ...
A. 24 November 2011: Have you pointed how ridiculous that is to him, not us, but clearly explained to his face how hypocritical he's being?... (read in full...)
Should I dump him despite the fact he's given up the porn??
Q. I have a problem. My boyfriend of nearly seven years has watched and masturbated to pornography throughout behind my back. He has also lied to me when I have caught him out. He even continued to do this whilst I was pregnant and after our baby ...
A. 23 November 2011: Wait so even when he says he'd give you an ultimatum if you were using, he continues to use it? That's bs.... (read in full...)
TMJ and blowjobs, is that even possible?
Q. Ok, so I was just sitting in my room, thinking about ways to please my boyfriend, when I realized that with TMJ (Temperal Mandibular Joint, pretty much the right side of my jaw is messed up and I cant open my mouth very wide), I'm pretty limited in ...
A. 23 November 2011: You can take just the head of his penis in your mouth and suck/lick (especially if you flick the underside where the head meets the shaft with your tongue) and use your hands on the shaft (either a gentle twisting motion or just up and down like a ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend thinks I'm checking out girls when I'm not!
Q. I need serious help with my girlfriend she constantly thinks I'm checking out girls when I'm not Even if I do I don't ogle and do it rudely She thinks that's it's a sign that I don't love her that I don't want to be with her that And her friend...
A. 23 November 2011: Two things. One how long have you been dating? I ask because I know with my boyfriend as soon as the honeymoon phase started losing potency and we discovered "whoa, there are other people on the planet?" it was actually really rough to see my ... (read in full...)
Career vs Love - what comes first?
Q. What's more important? • a career that pays $10k more than you currently earn... With greater responsibility and pressure. Or... • being in a loving relationship, building your own home and having a future with somebody that loves you? Your wag...
A. 23 November 2011: There are so many things weighing on that, we can't tell you which is more important. Like, have you and your partner talked seriously about marriage, would this job offer you more options to advance, would you actually like the job more, etc... If ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to date my 5th cousin?
Q. ok is it wrong for me to be dating my 5th cousin.i told my mom and she says that is my choice of who i date but is it wrong?...
A. 22 November 2011: A 5th cousin? That's so distant that it's not even blood related as far as I'm concerned... You even keep track of family that's that distant? If you want to date her, go for it.... (read in full...)
Does the contraceptive jab protect from STI's, does it hurt and should I tell my mum I'm having sex?
Q. i have asked my mum to book me an appointment and she has...the appointment was for me to get the contraception impact done. I am having in up in my arm on thursday, but my mum asked why i wanted it :\ i said to her that i cant handle having periods ...
A. 22 November 2011: No hormonal contraceptive offers any protection from STIs. The ONLY contraceptives that help prevent STIs are condoms and abstinence (which isn't really a contraceptive, but it's the only surefire way to avoid STIs). The implant does not protect ... (read in full...)
I want to talk to this stunning woman on the train but don't know how!
Q. Ok most days going into work I see the most stunning woman on the train, and I can't seem to get to talk to her. I've tried the old sit opposite and try and make eye contact and smile stuff, but she's always got her head buried in The Times (or on...
A. 22 November 2011: No, unfortunately it doesn't change it. We don't think you're doing anything wrong or that you're being creepy, it's just a bad place to meet someone.
Tisha's idea is a great one though, it's worth a try.... (read in full...)
Should I move in with b/f? Feelings are conflicted
Q. I am on placement in the city and he is in his graduate job so we are both hardworking adults in our 20s (I am 21 he is 22). He keeps mentioning us moving in together when I graduate, even looking at places we could potentially live (this would be ...
A. 22 November 2011: 2 years away???? When I discussed moving in with my boyfriend 9 months away people said it was too early. You should tell him it's too early to know where you'll be in 2 years, but you'll be excited to talk about it then.... (read in full...)
Should I worry about my boyfriend's response or am I nitpicking?
Q. I have read on a few websites that the direction that someone's eyes move in tells whether or not they are telling the truth. It says when they move their eyes up and to their right it means they are constructing a response (lying) and when they ...
A. 22 November 2011: You're nitpicking. Supposedly there are some facial movements that can indicate lying, but it's FAR more complicated than "eyes move a certain direction." People study that stuff for years and still can't definitively say if someone is lying.
... (read in full...)
STI test, did I do something wrong?
Q. So I went to have an sti screening today, just because I wanted to put my mind at rest. It involved taking a vaginal swab test and a blood test. When I did the swab she just told me to put it as high as it went, which made me worried I wouldn...
A. 22 November 2011: What kind of quack of a doctor would make you do your own swab? You should get a new doctor and have them do the swab themselves with the speculum in and such.
I can't say why it bled or caused stinging, since your urethra and vagina are separate... (read in full...)
What was this - friends with a little bit of benefits?
Q. I have a question about friends with benefits (FWB). My wife and I watched the movie 'Friends with Benefits' about 2 weeks ago. This past weekend we were at some of our friends home, and the topic of this movie came up. I just casually said, yep, ...
A. 22 November 2011: You had no right to publicly disclose your wife's sexual history without her permission. You should apologize profusely, flowers or something nice couldn't hurt either.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel aroused when you do pelvic floor exercises?
Q. Girls, I know this sounds like a bit of a dumb question, but is it normal to feel sort of aroused when you do pelvic floor exercises? I don't think I've quite got the hang of them yet as I've only just started, but sometimes I have to stop because ...
A. 22 November 2011: What's the point of squeezing your orgasm muscles if it DOESN'T turn you on? Don't you do those exercises for better sex/orgasms? Lots of women can orgasm just from squeezing their muscles in the right way. So no, not abnormal. Not like anyone can ... (read in full...)
She didnt tell me she loves me before she went to sleep and now I'm really hurt, am I overreacting?
Q. Hi. My girlfriend and I were texting each other late at night like we usually do, and joking around and everything. She told me she was tired and night. She always tell me 'night babe I love you'. I asked her if she was mad at me and she said no, ...
A. 21 November 2011: You're overreacting a lot. Sometimes people just forget, especially if it's over text. If it happened frequently and you were actually talking on the phone, it would be one thing, but over text, I think it's bound to happen sometimes.... (read in full...)
I just don't want to be treated differently because of my gender
Q. hey all those who are there... im having a little issue with my partner at the moment... all my life i've been treated differently because i'm female and it really bugs me, i don't understand why all women are put under the same category like...
A. 21 November 2011: Are you seriously trying to suggest that the group most commonly raped has privilege over the group doing the raping because 3% of the time (that's the actual statistic) the law sides with the victim? And you realize that a large chunk of homeless... (read in full...)
I want to talk to this stunning woman on the train but don't know how!
Q. Ok most days going into work I see the most stunning woman on the train, and I can't seem to get to talk to her. I've tried the old sit opposite and try and make eye contact and smile stuff, but she's always got her head buried in The Times (or on...
A. 20 November 2011: Someone on the train who gets in and immediately buries their face in a book or something is sending a very clear message, don't bug me. Like Celtic Tiger said, women are always very aware of who is around us and if they're paying attention when ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend french kiss me?
Q. Now I don't want to force him into doing anything. I just thought that I needed to say that first so I don't get remarks about how rude it is to do that cause I agree but........my boyfriend kisses me, but we don't use any tongue action like "French ...
A. 20 November 2011: Knowing that I think it might help if you described to him exactly what you want. Say, "I REALLY love it when you do *blank*" and then show him exactly what you mean.... (read in full...)
If a girl has kissed say 12-13 guys in two months, what kind of girl does that make her? Would you want to get involved with her?
Q. If a girl has kissed say 12-13 guys in just about two months, what kind of girl does that make her? Would you want to get involved with this girl, or is it better to not go there? I ask because I met a girl who I got talking to in a club and I ask...
A. 20 November 2011: The number of men a woman has sex with does not affect the quality of person she is or her value or something. If you like her, go out with her. She probably was just excited to be in London.... (read in full...)
I'm 13, he's 17 we met online, is it wrong?
Q. okay so I know i'm still young and all but yes so here I go. okay so a little while ago my friend showed me this website were I could meet new people and things like that, so one day I decided I would go and try it out ,so I did. I didnt expect t...
A. 20 November 2011: Exactly like soon567 said, there is NO OK reason for a 17 year old boy to want to meet a 13 year old girl. He may seem sweet online, but that's the thing about the internet, you can be anyone you want to be and you don't even need pretend to be an ... (read in full...)
My sister was exposed to TB. She lives with us, should I be concerned?
Q. My sister went to the doctor the other day for some tests and she was told that she has been exposed to TB,she is staying with me and my three young boys are there,should i be worried,am confused please help. ...
A. 20 November 2011: Does she actually have it, like have they done the chest x-rays and such? Or was it just a positive TB test? Until you know for sure if she has it, you're going to want to keep your distance. It's not highly contagious, but it is spread through ... (read in full...)
Are there engagement rings for men?
Q. hello everyone seen as its a leap year next year I am planning on proposing to my bf of 2 years it will also be his birthday a few days later I'm just wondering if there are engagement rings for men. thanks all ...
A. 20 November 2011: Not officially there isn't, but you could just get him a nice ring and make it one by accompanying it with your proposal. But you don't have to get him a ring, you can get creative! Like, get down on one knee, and open a nice box with a cookie or ... (read in full...)
I met someone online but everyone is always concerned for my safety!
Q. I think it's terrible how a minority of wicked people can forever tarnish something which could be used for the good. I met the love of my life (and I'm not using those words lightly) online in August 2010. It wasn't a dating site, just one for ...
A. 19 November 2011: Your friends are right. While online dating can be a great way to meet people, it's the ideal place for sexual predators to lurk. "I know in my heart that I'll never become another statistic though." You cannot POSSIBLY know this. I know a lot ... (read in full...)
Can my new Facebook friend be trusted? Should I send him the picture he wants?
Q. I met a guy on Facebook, he said he likes me, he is really nice and sweet. But there's something weird about him, he wants me to send him my picture but he doesn't want to give me his phone number. He said he is just being careful and I'm being ...
A. 19 November 2011: No don't do it. Block him. This guy SCREAMS at best creeper and at worst sex predator. Block him and run for the hills. He wants a nude photo and he won't even give you his phone number. Not because he's trying to be safe but because he's not... (read in full...)
I would love to have a boyfriend but have never been asked out
Q. It makes me sad because all of my friends have had their first boyfriends, first kiss, their first time having sex and even a couple have kids but that's not something to brag about. I have yet to experience any of these things and it gets me down. ...
A. 19 November 2011: So ask a guy out! This is 2011, not 1950. It's just as scary for them as it is for you. If you like someone, say so! Ask them to a movie, ask them to coffee, whatever. I didn't have a real boyfriend until I asked one out. Also gorgeous women a... (read in full...)
He doesn't take care of me when I'm sick
Q. Something is bothering me a bit. I am currently very sick, and yesterday I was much worse. I was at my boyfriend's house when suddenly my symptoms got really bad. I begged him to drive to the winn dixie right next to his house to get me some ...
A. 19 November 2011: Depends on why. If he's not going it because he's germ phobic that's one thing. But not even so much as getting you a glass of water? That's just being a lazy asshole. I wouldn't jump to dumping him, but you should probably talk to him about it once ... (read in full...)
I just don't want to be treated differently because of my gender
Q. hey all those who are there... im having a little issue with my partner at the moment... all my life i've been treated differently because i'm female and it really bugs me, i don't understand why all women are put under the same category like...
A. 19 November 2011: "all my life i've been treated differently because i'm female and it really bugs me," This, it's called living in a patriarchy. You are part of an oppressed group as a woman. If you don't like it you can either move to another planet, or join a f... (read in full...)
Braces! rubberbands! I feel so ugly. All my photos next year will be ruined. And I'm a dancer. What can I do to get through this?
Q. I'm 16 years old, and in my 3rd year of high school. I recently just got braces on, not to straighten my teeth (they were already straight), but, to fix my bite. I have to wear rubberbands and all of that. I can't stand to even look at myself anym...
A. 19 November 2011: My mom had to have braces for SIX YEARS. Do you think that kept her from being asked out by the most popular guy in school? I used to be a dancer too, lots of the girls had braces. I don't mean to be mean, but canceling performances because you have ... (read in full...)
He moans about giving me oral, am I being unreasonable?
Q. Do I have the right to be upset? Thank you for all advice and for your time! I appreciate it all so much!!! I have been dating my boyfriend for six months. About two and a half months into our relationship we began to become intimate. I go d...
A. 18 November 2011: I would never suggest someone do things they're uncomfortable with, some guys do just hate giving oral and they shouldn't have to. But this guy sounds lazy and self-centered. All he cares about is having sex and getting off and getting unlimited ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend french kiss me?
Q. Now I don't want to force him into doing anything. I just thought that I needed to say that first so I don't get remarks about how rude it is to do that cause I agree but........my boyfriend kisses me, but we don't use any tongue action like "French ...
A. 18 November 2011: Probably just the way he kisses right now. My boyfriend is the same, open mouthed sometimes, but no tongue unless I initiate it or ask for it. While you're kissing why does he have to initiate use of tongue? Have you tried just sort of tickling his ... (read in full...)
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