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writes:I have read on a few websites that the direction that someone's eyes move in tells whether or not they are telling the truth. It says when they move their eyes up and to their right it means they are constructing a response (lying) and when they move their eyes up and to their left it means they are remembering something (truth). In your opinion is this true with everyone? I've caught myself moving my eyes up and in both directions whether I was telling the truth or lying.On another site it says that when people use terms like "have not, will not, etc" it means they are lying vs. people who use "haven't, won't, etc." Do you believe this to be true?I asked my bf last night if he has ever cheated on me and he said "No, I have not." Does it mean he's lying since he said "have not" instead of "haven't."It might sound crazy but I'm now obsessing over this and thinking he's lying. I have no other reason to believe that he would. Should I worry about his eye direction and the way he words things or am I nit picking?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 November 2011):
You're nitpicking. The eyes moving up and down and the use of language are not symptoms of lying on their own. There are many other subtle signals out there. On their own, these mean nothing.
You need to start looking at yourself, because you sound very, very nitpicky!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2011): I dont think eye movements or the way something is said, is a very likely way of indicating whether someone is lieing.
I personally think you are looking too far into things, this then causes you to question your boyfriend and in turn this will cause more problems in the relationship.
Unless you see a specialist psychologist in lie detecting/forensic/detective type work, its all just speculation and own interpretation whcih is not good!!
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reader, mammaboo +, writes (22 November 2011):
 You need to stop this you will scare him away altogether,is he on trial here or do you actually want a relationship?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (22 November 2011):
 You're nitpicking. Supposedly there are some facial movements that can indicate lying, but it's FAR more complicated than "eyes move a certain direction." People study that stuff for years and still can't definitively say if someone is lying.
What I'm wondering is what prompted you to ask if he was cheating in the first place. That's not just a normal everyday conversation...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2011): Don't buy into this crap.Some people can lie to you and you won't even get it, they won't blink, and they won't stutter or hesitate. I can do this, I can even make up preposterous stories (tall tales we call them) and get people to believe them. But, I never lie to my wife.(I do tell her tall tales but I always reveal them to her by expanding on them ever so slightly as I go along till it becomes apparent that it is a pile of nonsense...it's an form of linguistic art where I come from)On the other hand, some people lie like crazy, about everything, even things that telling the truth about would be easier. Adult Children of Alcoholics do this, almost all of them do, until they get help.The big question you need the answer to is "what is wrong in my relationship that makes me think my bf is cheating".That is the question/information you should come here with.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (22 November 2011):
 If these things were even close to reliable, why would we have jury's and not just a video camera?
You're nitpicking.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (22 November 2011):
 You're nitpicking....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 November 2011):
 I don't buy into that.
sometimes my partner and i use the proper words vs the contrations...
and as for eye movement.. I've got a lazy eye.. it moves where it wants when it wants.
go with your gut.
why did you ask him in the first place? I would never ask my guy "have you ever cheated on me?" for two reasons
1. i don't think he has (in fact I KNOW he has not)
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2. he won't lie and I don't really need to hear what i know it my gut is the truth now do I?
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