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writes:If a girl has kissed say 12-13 guys in just about two months, what kind of girl does that make her? Would you want to get involved with this girl, or is it better to not go there?I ask because I met a girl who I got talking to in a club and I asked her if she was going to this bar after and she said probably not, I don't want to for a while. I asked her why not and turns out she got with one of the guys behind the bar last time and it was awkward for her. I persuaded her to go anyways, luckily he wasn't working, but in the que one of the guys recognised her, smiled and said hi. Her friend then said 'Didn't you get with him on halloween?', she replied looking quite embarrassed by her friends comment.. 'No that was someone else'. So I without thinking said, 'how many guys have you got with since you've been in London!?' She hesitated and said not many, about 6'. So I thought oh that's not bad, then she paused and finished with 'if you times that by two'...Am I being stupid, or is 12 guys within just about two months a high number? I can understand the load of guy attention she gets and why they like her, she's incredibly stunning and so much fun to be around! But what does that say about her and the person she is... would you get involved with this girl? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2011): She could be insecure or the excitement limited her impulse control. Personally, I had my summer of craziness as a teen. I learned it was wrong and never did it again. I would not date a man who held that against me. Everyone goes through an experimental phase. As long as she doesn't have herpes on her mouth and you really like her, let the past stay in the past. It seems she's embarrassed by her behavior. But if you're gonna throw it in her face, leave her alone bc then you're being unfair.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 November 2011):
 Kissed 12 guys or "got with" aka "had sex with" 12 guys? Big difference.
She sounds like a party girl. If you are a party-boy then it's a good match. If you aren't up to that life-style of partying and not taking things too seriously, then she's not for you I guess.
Just remember that the number of people you get with/kiss doesn't determine if you will cheat or not. As long as she's been single then she isn't a cheater.
But I'd think.. such a girl isn't someone who takes intimacy too seriously, and likes to explore and have fun. It could take some time getting to know her before you will know where you stand, and it could be difficult to get her attention as she gets the attention from so many other men as well.
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reader, soon567  +, writes (20 November 2011):
Move on, you know it was more than a kiss! Her past is her, some people change as the grow but most stay the same. If you get with her and know it doesnt take much to get with her then dont bother her about it later.If she saw anything wrong in her action she wouldn't have done that. Let say it was a harmless kiss. Would you want a spouse hanging on men when ur not around. Everyone telling you what she doing when you're not there.Her past is her past, but it doesn't mean that you have to accept it. There can never be trust in this, so just let it go.'Some women you bring home to mom, then their other women you bring home to dad' Which one that you have? You know dad, he wants to go first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2011): For me that would be a deal breaker. Her behavior says a lot about her moral values.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (20 November 2011):
 Hi,
I agree, it doesn't matter what she did in the past. What matters is how she's with you now. Before you start judging her, get to know her better. Do not waste your time thinking about those things, instead put your energy in having fun, enjoy being her friend. Only time will tell...
Good luck
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (20 November 2011):
 I'm guessing you've both just started uni. In that case the number is going to be higher, because everyone is going out and meeting new people.
I don't think it matters... if she'd slept with 12 in 2 months then ok, thats pretty extreme, but its just a kiss in a club which most likely meant nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2011): Well, you obviously find her sexual habits unattractive. So save yourself some heartache and don't start dating her.
It has nothing to do with judging anyone. It is a compatibility difference. You are not treating her like a worthless human being just because you decided not to date her. We all reject tons of potential partners for reasons that are much less "fair" than their own actions.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (20 November 2011):
 The number of men a woman has sex with does not affect the quality of person she is or her value or something. If you like her, go out with her. She probably was just excited to be in London.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2011): What does it matter how many times she has kissed guys or how many guys, it's nobody's business but her business. It's just kissing, the most important thing is who she is. It makes her the kind of girl who has had fun, and is comfortable within herself. I personally don;t randomly kiss people, my friend on the hand did. I know for a fact that she is the most amazingly loyal person and when she is involved with someone she is with them completely and only. Stop being such a prude and concentrate on who she is as a person. If a girl met a guy who had kissed a number of guys in 2 months would that make him a tart or anything else your thinking it may say about her. It isn't about what she has done before she met you, but how she is with you and how you both get along with each other. Concentrate on that, and forget anything else.
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reader, babygirllovej  +, writes (20 November 2011):
 Maybe she was lonely and wanted to make new friends but went about it the wrong way. If you like her so much I wouldn't judge her on this. Take it slow and get to know her before you judge her character.
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