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writes:What's more important?• a career that pays $10k more than you currently earn... With greater responsibility and pressure.Or...• being in a loving relationship, building your own home and having a future with somebody that loves you? Your wages together are above the average. Reply to this Question
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (23 November 2011):
I'm currently in a loving relationship. Neither of us would give that up for an extra $10K per year even though that would almost double our current yearly income.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (23 November 2011):
Love comes first for me. Because I've always looked at money as a means to an end. What's the point of having all that extra money if you don't have the special person to share it with, build a home and family together with, and make happy with thoughtful gestures/presents. As long as I can make it with the combined incomes, love comes first. But of course having both would be even better.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (23 November 2011):
 For me, B has always been important. The money is not so important, but an interesting job is.
For other people it's probably different. People like all kinds of thing.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (23 November 2011):
 There are so many things weighing on that, we can't tell you which is more important. Like, have you and your partner talked seriously about marriage, would this job offer you more options to advance, would you actually like the job more, etc... If you have to move for the better job can't your partner move too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2011): I was raised by a Mom that was in the home. I am so thankful she was there to guide and influence and be my friend and counsel when I needed it; especially in my teen years.I am 39 yrs and have 19 and 17 year old teen daughters and will say being married so young and having children younger turned out to be a blessing for me as I have youth, energy, and money as I work now- and its like I have EVERYTHING.I am glad I didn't put off having children til a later date/time. I have a young soon to be 3 year old and MAN! Son is my world but WOW am I so not meant to be having children as I am older. This little guy is a rocket bundle of mass energy and I am thankful I have his two older sisters to help out.In the end, its defnitely a personal choice, a YOU decision. You just have to figure out what will bring you long lasting happiness.For me, it was easy. I wanted to be married and a kick ass Mom and made that proimse/dream at the age of 5. I have had no regrets I married young and have a young family.;)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 November 2011):
 depends on if I'm currently earning 30k or 60k...
personally at this point in my life, I make decent money I'm going for love...
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 November 2011):
 That depends on you and your values and preferences. People aren't always just as happy when given the exact same things, people are happy with different things in life. For some money and finer things in life, materialistic goods, are important. For others they do not matter.
Base your decision on what you think is best in the long run. What will you regret more? What pressures you to do either things, and what do YOU personally want and value?
Building a future with someone is risky business... it might not happen. Having a job and being independent is more solid in that respect, although no one can promise you that this particular job is the "right" job for you.
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reader, moon river +, writes (23 November 2011):
 depends what will make you happier in the long term
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 November 2011):
It's not for us to say what's more important. It really is up to you. People have different ideas on what they want from life, and now is the time for you to really think about what you want from your own life.
If you want the career, then go for it. But be prepared for the fact that it could affect your relationship (perhaps even beyond repair if you don't split work and home time equally), and that in turn could affect chances of children/time with children/friendships. The route to the top of a career is often very lonely. Of course, this is offset by the fact that later in life, you'll have a good lifestyle.
Or, you can choose the family route. You have an above average income together, and there is a good chance of you having a home, having children (if that's what you want), having a future with someone you love.
You have to decide now what is more important to you. Don't worry what others say. You must do what is right for you. If you want the career, take the chance with it and go for it. But be ready that you might lose out on family and friendships. If you want family/future with house and such, then stick to the current career and go the loving relationship way.
One will be more important to you right now than the other. And you must choose.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (23 November 2011):
 Option B I think - but my question is why cant you have both? Would you have to move away for option A?
I am a big believer that you can have both, in fact I have both myself - a great guy and a future with him, and a job I love that is paying me very well with lots of progression opportunities in the future.
If having option A meant you would lose B, then dont do it, find a way of having both in your life. Whether that means working harder in your current job to get a promotion, or finding a different job that pays more in your local area etc...there will be a way to have both.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 November 2011):
 In my 20s, option A. In my 30s, option B.
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