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writes:My wife is 10 years younger than me. I'm 38 and when we go out I find her staring at other men. I try to tell her it bothers me but she just denies it. Should i even bother going on in this relationship? Reply to this Question
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reader, Believe what you see  +, writes (2 June 2017):
Its not good.. if she's checking out other men then there's a reason why Hate to say it but what does she do when your not around.Get rid of her. she's no good
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reader, sbuxton3  +, writes (26 November 2011):
she not like you anymore.... she stare meen she want them inside her !! when i stare I want ! i undress with my eyes and wish hard penatration.. she no good
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2011): this isn't trivial, because you feel a deep sense of disrespect and insult. however, first ask if you're being over-sensitive? everyone looks at other people of the opposite sex from time to time. could this problem be solved if you could toughen your ego a bit so as to not be so bothered? And by that I mean really work on your confidence so that you truly feel less threatened by her staring at other men, not just pretending to be cool about it while inside you're still upset.If you really can't change your feelings on this matter, and she refuses to change her behavior, then this is a serious matter because it means that she's refusing to do something that causes you deep hurt. the next thing I think would be to try and improve your communication and other aspects of the relationship so that she may feel more inclined to be considerate of you.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (25 November 2011):
 If by staring you mean walking into poles, tripping over things, losing her train of thought and becoming completely unable to function every time a hot guy walks past, I would still say don't end things. But if that is the case, then you need to tell her it bugs you and make sure she listens. Everyone looks at other people though, it seems like a really trivial thing to end a marriage over, even if she was doing it in a really rude way.
If you mean she checks out other men, don't you check out women sometimes? She may be married, but she's not blind or dead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2011): I think its time to turn the tables on her. Next time you go out together, purposely stare at another attractive woman until your wife notices. If she gets upset, tell her this is how you feel when she stares at other men. Hopefully that will get the point across. If she doesn't get upset, keep doing it til she does. (I did this to a past boyfriend of mine and it worked). I know this is a rather immature approach, but I feel your wife is being immature for staring to begin with. It's one thing to take a quick second glance as its completely natural to notice attractive people of the opposite gender, but ogling/staring is unacceptable in my opinion. And to do so right in front of you is downright disrespectful on her part.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 November 2011):
 so you would end your marriage over your wife staring at other men...
does she stare so hard they notice?
does she lick her lips and say "yummy" under her breath?
is she slipping them her phone number?
are they older or younger?
I'm 51 my boyfriend is 38.. he looks at other people, so do I.
we comment on them to each other...
i gotta know more of what she is doing and why you think it's enough to end your marriage....
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2011): It depends in what way she looks at them and most importantly how she would react if you did the same. Have a look at a pretty female, and if she reacts aggressively, or says you should be looking at her not other wonen, the chances are she is judging you by her own standards. If she jokes or says yes she's pretty, then chances are she's no intention behind it. Unless she is drooling or sneakily getting their numbers dont end it with her. its no deal.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 November 2011):
 Please define staring.
Staring,like really staring - leering ,drooling over them, undressing them with her eyes ?
Or just looking at them ?
I ( and tons of other people !) like to see beauty around me and I am attracted to all that looks good. So I will look at beautiful cars that I don't wish to drive, at beautiful houses that I don't wish to rent, at beautiful dresses that I don't wish to wear, and at beautiful men that I don't wish to approach and even less to sleep with.
As long as she is not actually staring them down, or winkig at them or something like that- you have nothing to worry about.
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