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12 October 2011: While generally facebook is considered a fun way to keep in touch with friends and share photos, it can be a huge source of turmoil in a relationship. If I had a dime for every time I read "I'm worried because I saw something on her/his facebook..." ...
Is Pornography cheating?
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1 May 2011: The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
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How do I call without coming off as clingy and paranoid or stalkerish?
Q. My friend hasn't been online at all, anywhere, for about a week, which isn't like him. I texted him yesterday and he hasn't replied. He lives in another state so I can't exactly just pop over to his place to see if he's all right. I'm trying not to ...
A. 12 August 2012: Just call him, why would that be stalkerish? You don't need to say you haven't seen him online, just say you wanted to see how everything's been going. I'm sure he'll appreciate knowing you're thinking of him.... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable to ask my husband for this one thing to make my sexual experience better for me?
Q. i'm at a point where i don't know what to do. i'm not really enjoying sex and even though i get the urge to i never really have, it's quite literally an anti climax. it's not my husbands fault, he's very ready and willing but i can't orgasm through ...
A. 11 August 2012: Yes he's being unreasonable. It's ridiculous for him to use you as a masturbation sleeve and then feel angry when you try to get some sensation from it. Does he realize that a vagina is not an inside-out penis? It barely has any nerve endings. Shame ... (read in full...)
Will using a dildo make first time sex any easier?
Q. I want to use a dildo before i have sex for the first time to avoid pain, possible bleeding and so that he'll be able will fit (and not know that i'm a virgin). Some of my friends had bad experiences with their first time- like their BF got a p...
A. 11 August 2012: No it won't. Your vagina does not change after you have sex. It does not become stretched or opened, it will be exactly the same as it is right now. The reason sex often hurts the first time is because the woman is not aroused enough. The more ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend looked at porn because I talked to ex, will he keep doing it?
Q. Hello everyone. I need some advice. Yesterday, I came home and there was a light blinking on my boyfriend and I's antivirus thing. I thought it was no biggie, so I continued watching my show on Netflix. Finally, I got annoyed, and clicked on i...
A. 11 August 2012: It's not about reading too much into it, either you're OK with porn or you're not. Most women are not, but some are. Not being OK with it doesn't make you insecure, nagging, ridiculous or uptight, it just makes you one of the majority of women who ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to climax during sex, is it because of his size? the position?
Q. Alright, so getting straight into it, my boyfriend and I have been sexually active for about 5 months or so. He is what I personally consider my first proper boyfriend, as my 'real' first lasted a very short time because of abuse, but we were not ...
A. 11 August 2012: First off, it should not hurt ever. Continuing to have sex won't make it hurt less. Your vagina does not become stretched out or more open as you more farther away from virginity. The only time it changes is either temporarily through arousal or ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend looked at porn because I talked to ex, will he keep doing it?
Q. Hello everyone. I need some advice. Yesterday, I came home and there was a light blinking on my boyfriend and I's antivirus thing. I thought it was no biggie, so I continued watching my show on Netflix. Finally, I got annoyed, and clicked on i...
A. 11 August 2012: I'm sorry you are feeling so hurt by this, many women feel this way. I have MANY links about this and what to do on my profile (just clink on my name and they are in the blue box). I highly recommend you look at them. I don't think it's reasonable ... (read in full...)
Would you give your girl a second chance after she cheated on you?
Q. hello everyone, i'm confused but reached the end when i'm with dearcupid. Men will you forgive your girl of 4 years, after she cheated for the first with no reason and confess to you. And then tells you how much she loves you, can't live with out ...
A. 10 August 2012: Depends what happened. A one time mistake with a relative stranger, she told you immediately, then if you can get past it then do it if you want to. If it's a long time affair, she lied, no.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can't ejaculate during sex but can masturbate
Q. My boyfriend can't ejaculate when we have sex - I know it sounds weird because every other guy I've been with has come pretty quickly... and he can come when he masturbates, it's just when we have intercourse. He tells me he enjoys making love with ...
A. 10 August 2012: Sounds like he may be over-masturbating. It's possible to desensitize himself to sex with too firm a grip or just overdoing it with frequency. A hand provides a much stronger grip than a vagina does. He should take a hiatus and see if that helps ... (read in full...)
My cheater boyfriend doesn't trust me even I never cheat..
Q. So..I have been dating with this guy for over one and a half year. He is 30s and I'm 20s. Age is not a problem for me as I love him and used to prefer mature guys. Basically he has quite a lot of affairs - around one every three months..anyways ...
A. 10 August 2012: Why are you still with this man? He treats you like complete garbage! I know it's sometimes hard to leave the worst relationships, but you deserve better than this man.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants sexual play involving her butt and I can't do it
Q. My girlfriend is great. I really love her not to mention her intelligence, sense of humor and...amazing looks. The other day we were had some shower sex that turned into regular sex -- recently she's been into 69, so that's what we did. To be ho...
A. 10 August 2012: If you don't want to do it, don't! You shouldn't feel guilty. Explain to her that you love her but aren't willing to eat fecal matter and risk infection because it feels good for a few seconds. Personally I think risking e.coli is not a smart thing ... (read in full...)
How can I orgasm from penetrative sex?
Q. well me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half now and i love him and our sex life is fantastic as he is the first partner i have had that has made me orgasm in anyway, i can orgasm easily through oral sex and also when we do ...
A. 10 August 2012: Does your boyfriend feel like he needs to orgasm from stimulating his scrotum and only his scrotum? Then why do you feel a need to orgasm from penetration alone? Women really don't have nerve endings in our vaginas. It's definitely NOT a pleasure ... (read in full...)
Why is it painful when I orgasm during my period?
Q. dear cupid, soo, i'm one of those girls who refuses to have sex while she's on her period. of course, just because i refuse to do it doesn't mean that i never get the urge to do it. whenever that happens, i satisfy the desire by masturbating (th...
A. 9 August 2012: Menstrual cramps are the muscles contracting painfully, orgasms are some of the same muscles contracting not painfully. Since it's some of the same muscles, it can make the cramping a bit worse by causing more of those contractions. I have this ... (read in full...)
Am I mean? Should I share more of my money with my girlfriend?
Q. I am 32, my girlfriend of four years is 27. I have a degree and believe in hard work and applying myself to achieve my goals and live well. My gf is not financially motivated and does not want to progress at work, she just wants to get by which is ...
A. 9 August 2012: What if you two made an appointment with whoever manages your finances to talk over a spending plan? You are already paying an enormous amount to her, she just doesn't seem to realize how much you are contributing. I think if you go into your ... (read in full...)
How do I minimize my daily masturbation?
Q. i am 20 years old and i have not been in a relationship ever. what i am going to share and ask with you is important for me. i am in a habit of masturbation once daily . i want to stop doing it. i need advice how can i control myself to minimize it ...
A. 9 August 2012: You need to distract yourself and keep busy.
However, masturbation is not harmful at all, it's a normal and healthy bodily function.... (read in full...)
How do you break up in a long distance relationship?
Q. I have a guy im in a long distance relationship with and i want to break up. Whats the best way to do it without hurting him....
A. 8 August 2012: There's no way to break up without hurting someone. Just say it as nicely as you can, either over Skype or phone (NEVER over email or text). Just tell him you care a lot about him, but the distance just isn't working out for you. And I agree with ... (read in full...)
What do you do in your bedroom? I need some idea's!
Q. Hi! So im just curious about how others or what others do in their bedrooms. I wouldnt say im trying to spice my sex life, but i would like to try something new that i havent thought of. I dont get much out of dressing up so its more for him. But i ...
A. 8 August 2012: I vote giving each other massages. Spending at least an hour naked and giving each other full body massages (not genitals) and just being slow and relaxed is amazing. Then you can slowly begin adding in sexual things, and move into slow relaxing ... (read in full...)
Do I wait until he makes a move?
Q. i have a guy friend who i really like a lot, but im so confused about his mixed signals. He flirts with me like crazy, and calls me up just pick him up and just drive around. I have a car and he doesnt so he calls me up for a ride. how do i know if ...
A. 8 August 2012: He might, he might just be shy. Why don't you just make a move first?... (read in full...)
Great sex stories?
Q. Hi, just wondering, what's the best sex you have ever had? Where was it at? Who with (friend, spouse, etc)? What made it so great? Was it a special, intimate moment? Also, what was your "first time" like? I just think it's interesting hear...
A. 8 August 2012: First time was awful. I met up with someone I'd been friends with benefits for for a few years and we drove up to a secluded park to make out. I hadn't planned to do it, but I just felt like it/wanted to. But since he knew I was a virgin and neither ... (read in full...)
Is it love or lust for this coworker?
Q. I think I am in love, but I am unsure and would like some advice. A guy at work, who I only talk to on the phone because he is outstationed, asked me over the phone if I was going to be in the office the following day. I replied that I would be ...
A. 8 August 2012: I doubt it's love, but it does sound powerful. Just go for it, what do you have to lose?... (read in full...)
Is checking partners phone wrong
Q. So there has been a lot of talk in magazines etc about Jools wanting to check Jamie Oliver's texts....and I have to say whilst it's wrong I can kind of understand it... My boyfriend has always been very private about his phone, to the point that h...
A. 8 August 2012: There's snooping, but there's also over the top secrecy. When one person is hiding their phone from the other, to me that's an indication that there's a problem. Like you said, what is he hiding? I don't snoop on my partner, but part of the reason ... (read in full...)
Are my parents right about it being to late for me to get back into sports?
Q. After watching the olympics I have felt really inspired to get back into sports! When I was younger I used to love sports that I actually was on every sports team at my school and I was really competitive, I remember every year I would always win ...
A. 7 August 2012: No they're being ridiculous. The vast majority of athletes never make it to any kind of large scale competitions. Of course it's not too late. You're still a teenager, not 80. So you took a little break. Who cares? I was watching the Olympics last ... (read in full...)
To much time apart in a fresh relationship?
Q. So recently I started going out with this amazing girl. The only problem is that ugly away she went on vacation and I missed her for that two weeks, but we could talk so it was cool. But right when she got back her parents suddenly surprised her ...
A. 7 August 2012: It won't ruin it if you don't let yourself go nuts about it! It's just one month. A few weeks into my current relationship my boyfriend went on a college trip to a remote place for 2 weeks and we couldn't talk at all and it felt awful. When we ... (read in full...)
Cell phone etiquette, She answers messages during intercourse!
Q. My girlfriend's idea of turning off the cell phone while having sex, is to just put it on vibrate. The noise totally takes me out of the moment and is getting extremely annoying. I ask her to please turn off the phone to allow us to have some ...
A. 7 August 2012: There seem to be some people who are totally dependent on their phones. As in, I'm not sure they can actually use willpower alone to stop. This is so far beyond rude, it's obsessive borderline addict behavior. The way you're describing this, I'd ... (read in full...)
My best friend's girlfriend didn't like our friendship and now he won't talk to me!
Q. I had a Friend who was one of my best friends. In fact he was more like the little brother I never had. About a month or so ago, he got back with his ex, who had cheated on him in the past. He said at the time, he felt like he was making a huge mi...
A. 7 August 2012: Yes she is jealous and insecure, but I do agree that calling someone's boyfriend sweetheart or babe is crossing a line. No it doesn't mean you were planning to cheat, but she's not in your head and she doesn't know what you are thinking. I know to ... (read in full...)
Will oral sex have prepared me for regular sex?
Q. Basically, im a 19 year old virgin and a guy. I guess in my younger teen years I had low confidence and never got round to getting a serious girlfriend or having sex. Now that im 19 I feel like im missing out and I really, really want to start ha...
A. 6 August 2012: Yes probably, you shouldn't worry about it! Just don't move too quickly and it shouldn't be an issue.... (read in full...)
I feel guilty about going on holiday with my female friend!
Q. hi, i have been with my partner for five years we have just come back from vacation abroad (greece) i wanted to go on holiday in 5 weeks time to spain with my best girlfriend also. The thing is he's not happy about it and he says I'm being selfis...
A. 4 August 2012: That's a bit insane. You've been together for five years, you should be able to go off on your own without a war breaking out. It's not as though you're even going with a guy, it's your close female friend. He's being totally unreasonable. It's ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has mites, and still wants to be intimate!
Q. My boyfriend recently told me he had mites, or some sort of bug on his skin which he isnt sure how he got. I am rather freaked out, especially since he said it will be gone in a few days. However, I looked online and it said what hes got is highly ...
A. 4 August 2012: He needs to get to a doctor to get this sorted out and until then he needs to be behaving like he has the plague. He is being selfish by not waiting until it's cleared up. He is essentially saying you should be miserable for a long time so he can ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how to clear acne?
Q. I've had acne for 7 years now and it's really knocked my confidence and i've never had a boyfriend because of it. I've tried high street products such as clearasil, clean and clear, freederm and neutrogena but they haven't helped atall. I've also ...
A. 3 August 2012: Have you tried any products containing retinol? You can also take it in pill form, but that makes you sensitive to sun. High strength (prescription) retinol is very good for clearing up skin.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my girlfriend that I need a break?
Q. Hi I have a question about how to tell my girlfriend I need a break or more space. .I've being feeling very trapped for the past two months. . I've being with her for four years and we just moved into a apartment together and I thought it would be ...
A. 3 August 2012: Instead of making a hasty decision, since 4 years and living together is a very serious thing, I think you need to sit down and have a serious discussion. If you are concerned that this is going to turn into a WWIII fight, then book one appointment ... (read in full...)
I feel left out because I don't look like the other girls!
Q. i feel left out of the group. all the girls at my school are curvy with big butts and chests and theyre proud of it. me on the other hand im skinny with a small butt and chest everyone thinks im really pretty and everything but yet i dont believe ...
A. 3 August 2012: Beautiful comes in all shapes and sizes. A big chest can't trump a beautiful face and most guys I know would prefer a beautiful face to big boobs. If you feel it's necessary, you can always buy a padded bra. They even make padded underwear for butt ... (read in full...)
How do I leave my wife with the least grief possible?
Q. i don't find my wife attractive nor am i in love with her anymore. I don't want to lose my kids and i am not brave enough to confront my wife and tell her i want to leave (be able to do it with the least grief as possible)" Please, this i...
A. 3 August 2012: I agree with YouWish. It's not fair to your wife or to your family to walk away without notice or even giving it a chance. There is no way you can even soften this, it will be devastating. You owe it to your family to at least give counseling a shot ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I'm pretty enough to marry him, especially compared to his ex!
Q. Hi there! I'm about to get married to this guy I love. We share his computer and he told me from day one he keeps every single pic from his past in there- you know, he's a bit artsy and all. While browsing through is pics I saw he still has pics...
A. 3 August 2012: I can understand why you would feel "second best" or something if his ex was the one who broke up with him, but don't. We are our own worst judges. Clearly he sees something wonderful in you and wants to spend his life with you, not her. Think of it ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I'm pretty enough to marry him, especially compared to his ex!
Q. Hi there! I'm about to get married to this guy I love. We share his computer and he told me from day one he keeps every single pic from his past in there- you know, he's a bit artsy and all. While browsing through is pics I saw he still has pics...
A. 3 August 2012: I can understand why you would feel "second best" or something if his ex was the one who broke up with him, but don't. We are our own worst judges. Clearly he sees something wonderful in you and wants to spend his life with you, not her. Think of it ... (read in full...)
Was there really an IPod or was he just trying to make an excuse to talk to me?
Q. Two weeks after a guy I went on a couple of dates with decided we should stop talking because he thought I was going to be too high matenence he decided to text me out of the blue and ask if I left my iPod in his car when I've only been in his car ...
A. 3 August 2012: I highly doubt he wanted an excuse to talk to you, I'd just take this one at face value. Someone left an ipod in his car. Just respond "No." and leave it at that.... (read in full...)
They say size doesn't matter but it really does!
Q. Okay so me and my fiance have been together for over three years now and I have a slight issue. To put it bluntly, i have a below average penis size. Sex was great at the start of our relationship and still is in my opinion but I'm pretty sure that ...
A. 3 August 2012: Very few women orgasm from penetration. A vagina is not an inverted penis, we have very few nerve endings in there. If you prefer numbers 25% can orgasm from penetrative sex while 85% can orgasm from oral sex. If you think you're not leaving her ... (read in full...)
Do I have another infection again?
Q. Hi there, I have an odd, (or hopefully not so odd) question to ask. For a while (past twelve months) I have had quite a strong smell coming from my vagina. I can smell it every time i go to the toilet on my underwear or even sometime when i move my ...
A. 3 August 2012: Some women are more prone to vaginal infections than others, and it sounds like you unfortunately might be one of them. Time to go see your doc again. Some women have a stronger smell than others, but what you describe sounds like an infection. You ... (read in full...)
Do most people view threesomes like this?
Q. dear cupid, in the past, my guy has hinted around about wanting to have a threesome (with him being the only male involved). coincidentally, this has actually happened three times...hahaa. he did it once last year and twice last month. each time...
A. 2 August 2012: The reasoning is that he wants his way and thinks that by being sexist he can make certain that only he gets what he wants. Have you pointed out to him that calling women sluts makes him a sexist? Especially when directly stating that men engaging ... (read in full...)
Does this happen to anyone else during orgasm?
Q. Hey i was wondering if this happens to anyone else when they orgasm. Im still a virgen i have a bf iv been with over a year though, I noticed when i have an orgasm i have a strong emotional feeling for who ever happens to cross my mind at the time ...
A. 2 August 2012: It's normal. When you orgasm you release large amounts of happy chemicals and bonding chemicals, but without a steady flow of those hormones you will lose the sensation.... (read in full...)
What exactly does "passionate sex" mean?
Q. Hi Everyone! So im seeing this new guy who is 8 years older then me,i am in my early 20's.Were getting on great and really enjoy being in eachothers company. The only thing that i am really worried about will be when it comes to our first time s...
A. 1 August 2012: Almost no guy cheats because his girlfriend is bad in bed. They cheat because they like the sense of power, because they are being "neglected" emotionally, because they need to feed their egos, there are many mental/emotional reasons but bad in bed ... (read in full...)
Am I weird that I have multiple girls I have a crush on and all at the same time? Does this happen to other guys?
Q. Is it weird to have crush's on different girls at the same time? I am a 13 year old guy and I want to know of it is a little weird to have multiple crushes all at the same time where I like different girls. I like girls and I have had lots of crush...
A. 1 August 2012: At your age? No, it's pretty normal for a teenage boy to be attracted to lots of girls. Don't worry about it, just make sure that if you date one of them you try to keep this in check.... (read in full...)
If I started dating to spice up my marriage would that be cuckolding my husband?
Q. AS a joke my husband took and posted few photos of me on the internet. Over time he received loads of request for more and after telling me what he did it became a real turn-on for us both. I later started a web-site and the request for more, gifts ...
A. 1 August 2012: Even if you weren't married, this could be extremely dangerous for you. It's doubtful the men who visit your site will view you as a real human being rather than a fantasy or sex object. This could end VERY badly for you.
As for your marriage... (read in full...)
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