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writes:Hi! So im just curious about how others or what others do in their bedrooms. I wouldnt say im trying to spice my sex life, but i would like to try something new that i havent thought of. I dont get much out of dressing up so its more for him. But i would appreciate any comments, esp technique, positions, new things to try. Idk just ideas lol thanks!
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reader, Becker0109 +, writes (9 August 2012):
MidtownToDowntown said, "We would always touch one another under the table while the other was talking to someone. Not full on feeling up, just really high up the thigh, sometimes a quick squeeze up higher. Sometimes we'd leave the bar early because we'd be so ready go, but once we got home we'd always wait 20 mins before having sex, we'd do oral and "everything but." when it gets to the stage that you're practically gagging for it, it makes the sex all the more intense."
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Excellent advise. many couples are too afraid to show an interest this way. Too bad because it's a great starter!!
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reader, agonyauntsanonymous +, writes (9 August 2012):
agonyauntsanonymous is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe usually have sex 4-5 times a week sometimes more, occassionally less as we have kids ages 2 and 15mos and we both work. The thing is i am looking to keep my self wanting it. When i want it i really want it when i dont i do it but it doesnt feel that great. He does not give me oral sex he doesnt like it he never has, i do it and swallow but its more for him. I love him very much and we dont have a bad sex life i just think it could be better. It hurts when he tries to stimulate me, its just not his strong suit even though ive tried to teach him. I have to touch myself in order to cum but thats ok w me. Im just trying to get ideas specific things to try so i can enjoy sex more
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reader, Becker0109 +, writes (9 August 2012):
"A woman who is always up for sex is way better than one who occasionally does something mind-blowing but probably isn't totally into it."
person12345, This is excellent advice. A woman who has sexual passion for her man will keep him fed so that, in most cases, he'll not wander. A decent man that is full doesn't need any other woman's meal of chicken nuggets when he has a willing and passionate "meal" waiting at home.
But if you want one thing, teach him how to Oral you. Remember, his "member" is him, not a "thing" attached to him. As person12345 said, "Most guys like a woman who will keep giving oral." I might add: Be sure to finish the task at hand as you learn each other. Men are very visual as much as women are turned on by their "ears."
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reader, person12345 +, writes (8 August 2012):
 I vote giving each other massages. Spending at least an hour naked and giving each other full body massages (not genitals) and just being slow and relaxed is amazing. Then you can slowly begin adding in sexual things, and move into slow relaxing sex. It's amazing feeling (sort of the basis of tantra I think).
The most important thing to keeping your sex life "spicy" is to keep yourself interested. A lot of women worry a lot about whether their guy is satisfied at first and then forget about themselves. Eventually that will turn into a lack of interest in sex. So the number one thing you can do is figure out surefire ways for you to get off and to enjoy sex so that you will have an appetite for it. A woman who is always up for sex is way better than one who occasionally does something mind-blowing but probably isn't totally into it.
It also doesn't hurt to occasionally do something crazy, like have sex in a semi-public place. And oral sex. Most guys like a woman who will keep giving oral.
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reader, MidtownToDowntown  +, writes (8 August 2012):
I'm all about the foreplay. Some days you feel more adventurous, other days not so much. It all depends on how comfortable you are.
My ex and I were really terrible on nights out. We would always touch one another under the table while the other was talking to someone. Not full on feeling up, just really high up the thigh, sometimes a quick squeeze up higher. Sometimes we'd leave the bar early because we'd be so ready go, but once we got home we'd always wait 20 mins before having sex, we'd do oral and "everything but." when it gets to the stage that you're practically gagging for it, it makes the sex all the more intense.
My current bf and I like using flavoured lube sometimes, Anne Summers do ones like candy floss, mint chocolate, etc. some can be quite sticky, which always leads us to the shower ;) sometimes restraining one another is exciting. I don't own whips and chains or anything, but a belt it fine, or I just use my hands when I'm on top. Just let him know who's boss...
Both my bf an I are doing post graduate studies, so we mix sex and studying while preparing for exams or dissertations. We'll do up quiz cards to help us study and quiz each other. For every answer you get wrong, that's one item of clothing you've to put ON, every answer you get right, item of clothing off. It's exciting watching the other strip, and by the time you're waiting for the other to remove their last item of clothing you're sitting on your hands..
Hope this gives you some ideas! :)
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