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writes:Basically, im a 19 year old virgin and a guy. I guess in my younger teen years I had low confidence and never got round to getting a serious girlfriend or having sex.Now that im 19 I feel like im missing out and I really, really want to start having a bit of fun. There's just one thing stopping me...and thats my worry of finishing quickly!I've had oral sex before which was amazing, so im hoping that's prepared me a little bit for the warm wet sensation. Im just really worried about how long im going to last, especially since girls my age seem to be pretty experienced by now.Will the oral have prepared me at all? any tips would really help, this one thing is the only thing holding me back!Thanks.
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reader, chaijam  +, writes (25 August 2012):
I'm a 19 year old female who doesn't fit into your stereotype of women your age. We're not all the same! :)
Don't overthink it, enjoy yourself and make it enjoyable for her too.
All the best,
J
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reader, Becker0109  +, writes (9 August 2012):
You have great courage to say the truth about what you know. Oral sex, if it was with a girl, can certainly teach you how to please your wife. Most guys just want a blow without knowing how to please their woman. Take your time & grow together with her. No where does it say that the guy is the "expert" in the sexual area. Just be open to "respond to her" body movements and over time, you and she will dance great!
A woman like a man with slow hands and one who doesn't shoot too fast. Pleasing her is number one!
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reader, Hennessy1989 +, writes (6 August 2012):
 I agree with double m, please her first and then it's not too much of a deal how long u last, and you will probably last a lot longer than you expect, don't panic, relax, enjoy it and remember u only get better, practice makes perfect
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (6 August 2012):
 Well, I didn't start that way - receiving oral sex first. But yes, intercourse will feel much the same, though not as intense. I'll agree with "person12345," don't worry about it. In my opinion, the "good" guy attempts to please the woman first, whatever that takes, then it will not matter much if you don't last long during intercourse. Most of us don't go much more than ten minutes, or less. Sometimes, much less. Give the woman a lot of foreplay, then oral if she likes it, and try to get her "off" first.
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reader, agonyauntsanonymous +, writes (6 August 2012):
Well how long ago was that? I dont think oral sex would prepare you entirely. Then sensations, for women are quite different and my bf said its different for a man too. If you do find a nice partner or gf, im sure she would understand if you finish quickly the first few times. If you are really worried you can masturbate a half hr to an hr before so then when you actually have sex you arent as eager to release and you have to work for it a bit more. But just make sure you find some one thats important to you and someone you trust.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (6 August 2012):
 Yes probably, you shouldn't worry about it! Just don't move too quickly and it shouldn't be an issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2012): Oral is definetly a good start, however, every girl is different and when you find one that is right, you will each lean what turns the other one on. If your worried about not lasting, don't worry it would be your first time and you'd be surprised at what you can do. You MuST have confidence in yourself otherwise you'll freeze up. The first time is never the best, you will get better as time goes along. You won't be good your first tine, and if you had a good girl shell understand that. And I wouldn't recommend goig for a girl you know has been with a lot of guys. You being nineteen, whoever your pick really shouldn't have much experience either. But keep practicing he little things before you go all the way
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