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writes: i'm 18 he's 24. we go to college together and ever since i met him this fall i thought there was something about him.a couple weeks before winter break he started doing simple things and being a sweetie like playing with my hair, leaving all our friends at the pub to go with me to the atm (and he didn't need to use it, only i did), telling me he likes to be petted or saying "i'm glad you're back" when i got back from winter break.There are 2 interpretations to all this, i think: 1) he likes my company and having me has a friend OR 2)he fancies me.I really do fancy him and i'm afraid i'll just get my heart broken cus he won't give a damn or just want to be my friend.Any help at all?Thanksi know i've posted this before but i only got one answer and i'm really getting desperate! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit's his birthday on wednesday. he's turning 25. any suggestion on a cool gift/surprise?
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (16 February 2008):
 I'm sorry it didn't turn out the way you wished. But at least now you got an explanation and know it is not because of you but because of recent problems in his past.
It seems to me that either he really does like you a lot or he just want the ego-boost of being around someone who likes him. If it is the first thing he should get a grip of himself and get over his past soon to not miss out on a super girl as you.
I think that you shouldn't give up completely on this one but don't burn yourself out by being around him all the time. He knows now that you like him, no doubts there, now it is up to him to decide what he wants to do. If he doesn't make up his mind, try stop being around so much because it will only hurt your heart.
I laughed when reading you hear your homemates having sex, who haven't been through that torture at some point! It's really terrible! Put some loud music on and dance around your room. And I agree with Laura, some of them are probably even jealous at YOU for being free and single to do whatever you like without having to answer to anybody.
It shines through here that you are a clever, cool and brave girl, if this guy doesn't act upon your asking him out someone else will soon snatch you away from him, I'm sure!
Good luck!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 February 2008):
 You may think your friends having sex is great but you do not realize what is going on through their heads. There will be so many gamut of emotions and feelings that suddenly cropped up and they will have to handle all those new stress that they have created.
What if they became pregnant?
You should not rush head long into any relationships. Just take your time and enjoy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionevery single one of my friends is in a relationship right now and i can even hear my homemates having sex - great!arrg!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso apparently he just got out of a 5 year-long relationship and is taking his time off. fair enough, i guess, but i like him. i really do.and it's been a while and we keep getting along just great and there's always these private jokes and flirty looks or moves from both sides and it's just killing me! it's driving me insane cus i really like him. it's like the more i know he doesn't wanna be with me, the more i want him and the more i feel down about myself for basically just liking suffering!
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reader, Oblivia +, writes (20 January 2008):
I understand you must feel somewhat confused now. After what you’ve written I would definitely say you are right at least in your interpretation nr 1, he really does seem to like your company a lot and miss you when you’re gone. I would also have thought he fancied me if it had been me. You were brave to call him and ask, don’t regret that even if it would turn out he doesn’t want to go out, it is better to be brave and take a chance than to forever wonder “what if…”.
Be calm on Monday and see what he says. It might be you were not wrong to think he fancies you, but there could be other unfinished business in his past that he needs to deal with, things that have nothing to do with you. Maybe he too is afraid of getting hurt.
In any case, remember that if it would turn out he doesn’t want to date you, don’t let that bring you down. If he doesn’t see that you are the perfect girl for him, then it is his loss. Really.
Wish you luck! Tell us how it goes!
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (20 January 2008):
Yeah! If he fancies you , he would have jumped on your suggestion without hesitations.But this does not mean that you have no chance. It suddenly hit him like a hurricane and he could not respond with the right answer. He needed more time to decide.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok so i tried to ask him out yesterday after class but i couldn't get him alone and didn't want to raise attention by asking him to speak in private so i called him today and just asked him "what would you say if i asked you out?" and his first reaction was "oh god!" then he said that this wasnt the type of thing to chat on the phone about and that we could just speak on monday at college.
so bottom line: outlook not good.
please tell me i'm wrong!
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (10 January 2008):
Just be a friend and let the current carry you wherever it wants.Enjoy your friendship, live in the present. Be an optimist.
Have you heard of this adage? It is better to love and fail than not to love at all.
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