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writes: My ex and father of my children says that he needs his time and wishes that one day we will return together later in life but there is too much water under the bridge (I agree), I love him and hate him at the same time but I miss him and want to eventually end up with him also. We split because he cheated and we realised that we grew apart. I just wondered if there are any success stories out there of love returning after a long period away from a partner.I am not waiting for him or anything but just wondered if there are happy endings.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (16 February 2008):
 Hello,
There are certainly many examples of people getting back with former significant others. Sometimes when people hurt us so badly we need time to put things into perspective. Right now you hate this man and you both agree that you are not good together. You've had a good live together, share children even, so there will always be a connection for you and there is no doubt that you love each other for many reasons.
Until the hate is replaced by understanding and forgiveness there really is no chance of a successful reconcilliation. Whether or not your life circumstances will bring understanding and forgiveness is uncertain. It really depends on what happens in your life going forward. My advice to you is to go on with an open mind. Life is full of possibilities. Learn and grow with each relationship and give what you can. You will no doubt have this question of getting back together always in the back of your mind but you can't live your life with only this possibility.
Kelly is right, lonliness will come but it really is only temporary if you continue to live your life.
Take Care.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 February 2008):
 You are a tormented individual .
You love him and yet you hate him.
You don't want him yet you expect him to want you.
You are not waiting ,
yet behind the back of your mind,
you hope he will return to you
and a happy ending and live happily for ever till the end of the world.
I hope you can slowly untie the knots in your life.
When he comes back to you , will you accept him with open arms or will you show him the exit door?
I cannot blame you because you are a woman and those hormones can make you crazy.LOL!
Finally, in answering to your question.
Yes! There are many successful stories and their love grew stronger . They were young and inexperienced and they were too judgmental ,unforgiving, rash ,immature, hotheaded and irrational.
We are only human and bound to make mistakes. Whoever does not make mistakes will never be smart nor grow up.
For success is build on the stepping stones of failure.
They wanted to act like God and punished all those who were wrong and condemned them forever without a parole.
YOU ARE TERMINATED!
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (16 February 2008):
 Hi Anom,
There are happy endings. Not sure if he is going to be the one to make it happen but it will surely come.I have heard of situations when people drift apart and come back together but it is not the same for everyone and i dont want you to keep this notion within and dwell on it because if it doesnt happen like so for you, you will be dissppointed and would have spent a long time of your life waiting and hoping.
You are still very young and have your children to hold on to. Let that be the focus of you well-being right now. how to make sure you children grow-up to feel loved by both parents even though you are sepeated. to be responsible and contributors to the soceity.
Loneliness will come but keep your mind open for anyone who you feel will give you indeed what you want from a man and be a superb father to you kids. Keep an open mind on this one.
plenty hugs.
Kelly.
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