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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a month. He's very affectionate and likes to hold me, cuddle me and caress me. We've not slept together yet but I've slept in his bed with him and the other night we were both really turned on. I had to almost give him permission to touch my boobs and I gave him a hand job but he didnt go any further-despite saying that we could do something about being turned on.I gently guided his hand towards my groin but he just lingered around the top of my underwear. It seemed like he wanted to do stuff and i was giving him the green light, so what's wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for everyones help, uncle phil was right in that it seems it was just my signals were not clear enough for him.I took the advice of cd206 and basically put him where i wanted him and he vocalised that he didnt think he could go there. He doesn't have anyone else no and things have been fine now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for everyones help, uncle phil was right in that it seems it was just my signals were not clear enough for him.I took the advice of cd206 and basically put him where i wanted him and he vocalised that he didnt think he could go there. He doesn't have anyone else no and things have been fine now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008): maybe your not right for him or he is involved wuth someone else.
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reader, bayleex +, writes (16 February 2008):
 Maybe he got abit nervous. Its probably nothing to worry about maybe he would like to take things abit slower?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): Two guesses here:
He wasn't entirely sure that you were giving him the green light, seeing as you've always stopped short of having sex in the past
Subtle hints are all well and good, but there's nothing quite like a spot of verbal communication. In this day and age a guy has to be very careful about being accused of sexual assault, of reading the signs all wrong, no matter how obvious they may be. Perhaps he's not entirely certain of what you wanted him to do so next time tell him.
When you get to that point that you've just described why not remove your underwear yourself and tell him that you'd like to play mummies and daddies and what's on display is all his to play with in whatever manner he desires. If that fails to get the desired result nothing will.
The other thing might be that as you'd previously given him a hand job he could have ejaculated and been temporarily indisposed to take things any further.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 February 2008):
 He has his inhibitions about sex.
Is he the religious type where they don't believe in premature sex?
He did not want to take advantage of you or he feared that having sex with you may change the relationship.I am just speculating and you have to asked him or feel him out.
Maybe, the next time , you will have to be the more adventurous one and take off and he gets your message.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionin response to LJ001 and CD206, it took me most of the night to build up the courage, even though neither of us are sexually inexperienced.I'm not sure how much experience he has had, I think he's slept with more people than me but he has admitted his past sexual encounters haven't been very adventurous and I've done quite a bit in a short space of time.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (16 February 2008):
 Do you know how experienced he is? Maybe, when it comes down to it, he has no idea wht to do when given the permission to go there. As a one off I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just see what happens next. Also, there's nothing wrong with putting his hand where you want it to go!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): Yeah, well I can imagine why you're a bit confused, but maybe he just wants to take things slow, or is a bit cautious incase he is taking your hints the wrong way. He's probably just got your best intentions in his mind honey, so try not to be too annoyed by him. Give him a bit of time, but keep with the hints. For the first time or two, it can be really intimidating going down on your partner. When I first gave my long term boyfriend a hand job (not even blow job!), I hadn't had a lot of experience, so the male genetilia was pretty new to me. I had butterflies in my stomach and everything! It was amazing though, he was so supportive and kept checking I was ok. But back to the advice, don't be too concerned, I doubt anything is wrong. Just give him time honey :]
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