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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. Before that, he was in a relationship for 10 months, and I was always his best friend. Toward the end of his past relationship, he was saying he loved me. When they broke up, we started going out. He started talking to his ex again. I'd fight with him. We'd argue because he wouldn't drop her as a friend. She calls him and texts him, and they talk on the phone. He says hes with me, but he won't drop her as a friend. Does that mean he still has feelings for her? (For the record, me and his ex girlfriend were best friends, but now we are enemies. We lost our friendship fighting over him. so it really bothers me when they talk. and he knows that. I even broke up with him once because he said he wouldn't drop her for me. when we got back together, it was still an issue. They wont stop being friends, even when she intentionally tries to break us up.) When she had a temporary boyfriend (while he was going out with me) she would call him and say I love you, and how he should break up with me and be with her. She tells my frinds that they're super close, but HE tells ME they're not. I dont know what to believe. I'm so confused. Does he secretly have feelings for her?
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reader, Cupcake  +, writes (23 February 2008):
 I was in an extremly similar situation but the only difference is I wasnt friends with my fiancee's ex. You need to get him to stop talking to her NOW. I was like you i didnt do much about it, eventually it got to the point where she would try telling me he was sleeping with her to break us up, It wasnt true, but when someone puts that in your head you can find ways to make it true and it puts alot of strain and heartache on your relationship. My fiancee's ex has not tried to contact him in the past 7months, he changed his number a long time ago once I put my foot down. Since he already knows you dont want them speaking, I think the only way to approach him not talking to her is to get him to change his number. If he doesnt Its possible he might lie and say there not talking when they are. You need to get him to stop, this is going to cause you heartache, put strain on your relationship and potentially cause trust issues.
I wish you luck!!!!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 February 2008):
 You should believe in your b/f and not her. We are not your b/f and cannot read what is inside his mind.
Even when you are so close to him and yet you cannot know what he is thinking about ,let alone us.
An ex is like an old blanket and sometimes you do think of your old blanket.
If you do not act confident and appear too suspicious of him with his ex ,then your fears will come true.
His ex knows your short comings and is trying to snatch him back from you . You need to do better than her to retain your b/f.
If you are going to fight with your b/f over this issue , you will lose this war and your loss would be her gain.
Fight against her and not your b/f. If she can do , you can do better than her.
That is the path you will have to take to keep your b/f.
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reader, ZoeElizabeth  +, writes (16 February 2008):
hey
just because he is friends with his ex and your best friend it doesnt mean he doesnt love you and want to be with you. many people stay friends with their ex's and nothing ever happens between them again. i respect that you are angrey at tyour ex best friend, however i also think that two friends falling out over a male isnt a great move. you boyfriend needs to understand how you feel though so mabey you should try and talk(not argue) about this situation a make sure you both understand where the other is coming from. trust is one of the most important things in a relationship and if there is no trust there is no relationship so try and make it up and return to being happy again.
good luck
Zoe x
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