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writes:arrghh ok so I've been recently getting to know a guy at my school. He told me he liked me and got me roses for valentines. So far he's been nothing but sweet to me, we're really getting along.but I've heard things about him, he's very promiscuous and is known to have many one night stands. I'm a virgin, but I'm going over his house tomorrow night, I'm scared he's invited me round, expecting something from me. I really want to go over, but I won't know what to do if he's pushy tomorrow.what shall i do?x
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (25 June 2008):
 How are things?
It is probably too late, but I would recommend to meet for drinks in a pub or something like that and go home afterwards.
If you do go to his place, say before you enter the door that this is as long as you don't have sex, and explain you don't believe in having sex on the first or second date, it's too soon. That type of thing.
Don't feel rushed, take your time over the weeks.
Although when it comes down to it, you might feel more at ease knowing he knows what to do, so to speak.
That is providing you are still together after a few weeks.
Fiona x
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 February 2008):
 It would be more appropriate to meet in a public place than the home.
When you go to his home, it could mean that you are willing to go all the way with him. He may get the wrong signals.
There is also the risk of being forced to do what you do not want to.
You accept invitations to their homes only when you know them for quite sometime and can trust them.
If he becomes pushy and you don't enjoy it, you can push him away.He may or may not feel offended. If he does not get the message, then you leave immediately.
You are in a tricky situation. He maybe manipulative and you ended up doing something you had no intentions off and later regret it.
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reader, iAintYourAunt  +, writes (16 February 2008):
 If he's pushy take a stand and let him know you want to be loved not used. A million lads can give you roses but you can only give one your virginity. Please pick one who will hopefully last a lifetime and not be with another next weekend. You obviously need to know this guy better, if you have heard the truth, he may not be mature enough. Especially if you don't know if he always uses protection.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): Why put yourself in a situation like that? If you are a virgin and want to remain one, then why would you go over to his house? Act like the young lady that you have protrayed yourself to be to us. Don't go over there! He gave you roses? how many of the other one night stands has he given roses too? Is this what you want?
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reader, mildred09 +, writes (16 February 2008):
well, at the end of the day only do anything if you really want to. if he has already gave you roses ect he must like you and put alot of effort in to you! but remember if your not ready don't do it, you will be tense and will not enjoy it. good luck
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