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writes:I am in a almost 2yr realationship. My partner has taken a 2wk trip with his ex since I have been with him. He shortly after that broke up with me to go back to her. After he tried that for awhile he came back to me, relizing that she was not what he wanted. When he came back to me I told him there was to be limited contact with this women. Well now 1yr 4months later they talk regulary and he goes to great lenghs to keep it a secret from me. Is this man worth my time? Please in despert need of help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): Ever heard of 'common sense'? You must think with your head, brain, mind and with common sense. I would walk away from him and leave him to his own devices/desires. He obviously does not care for you a great deal, but yet....you still give him a chance and have this fantasy that all is going to be okay...well it's not!
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reader, iAintYourAunt +, writes (16 February 2008):
 If he's seeing her because he has feelings for her, he isn't worth your time. If he's seeing her because they have a child together or they're also great friends, you need to take that into consideration. The fact he broke up with you to take her back? Not looking good on him. Possible he thought he wanted her then realized it was a mistake, but the chance looks slim. Sneaking around is not good if he has to see this woman, you should not only know but be present. I believe in people being mature.
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reader, polarkite +, writes (16 February 2008):
 Right off the bat, it sounds like this guy is using you for emotional stability. He really doesn't deserve you. If he wants to be with you, he needs to be honest. Otherwise what is the point?Obviously, he has positive attributes, but making your life hell and emotionally cheating are pretty big negatives. So what do you think? I won't tell you what to do. I only suggest that you consider your options.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 February 2008):
 Can you live without him?
If you can , then it would be easy .Just walk away from him and forget everything.
Life is not that simple. You cannot choose and pick what you want from a person. He comes with the good as well as the bad.
Sometimes , we need to accept that there are things which we can change and there are things which we cannot change.
If you think he does not contribute to your welfare or he is just excess baggage, then you have a right to throw him out.
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reader, speedcat +, writes (16 February 2008):
Im pretty good for giving people the benefit of the doubt, but in this case im sorry he does not AT ALL seem worth your time! How about you leave him for a change of pace see how he likes it. I know its hard but you really need to have a little self respect and show him your not willing to put up with this. Having friends is one thing hiding conversations from you with the girl he ran out of your life with is another, seems to me your second choice and you dont deserve that, you should leave and not look back. Feel no pity for him as he has felt none for you. Good luck.
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reader, sue88  +, writes (16 February 2008):
well no he's not, i may sound harsh here but believe me i no what i'm talking about, in my opinion no he's not, if you have asked him not to see her for the obvious reasons he should respect your wishes and do so if he wants to be with you.i'm not being funny here but is he still seing her? he may well be.best of luck and let me know what you decided,suex
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