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writes:I am dating a 21 year old i am 15, we have been dating for 4 months, we really like each other and we have a special connection. He has not tryed to get me into bed he respects my choices my mum didn't like us dating a first, but now all of my mum's side of the family respect my happiness and have accepted him into the family. My mum and dad broke up when i was two. I hardly see my dad but he does not like my dating a 21 year old neather does his family. My boyfriend does have a bad criminal record but this is in his past his mum has noticed the change in him since he has been with me. I just don't know what to do to make my dad be happy for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): yeah hi, i dont think you should be dating a guy thats so much older than you, i dont blame your dad for never accepting because his scared. Especailly because he has a crimal record and the fact that your just 15 your dad still see's you as his little princess so your just going to have to show to him that you are not a little girl anymore that your grown up and can handle being in a realtionship with a adult.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 March 2008):
 Most dads want their daughters to be happy .
Your dad would not want you to be sad.
Initially , he may not accept that idea but in time he will
come around seeing your happiness is more paramount.
He has been an absent dad and sorry, whether he likes or not
he has no control over you.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (10 March 2008):
 Try to see it from your dad's perspective; I'm sure he wants only the best for you. Daughters are precious (sons too, of course!) and deserve to have wonderful friends and a wonderful future. A fellow with a criminal record is going to look like a bad bet for ensuring your future happiness, especially if he's of age, and you're not quite yet.
It will take time and patience to convince your dad that this boyfriend won't get into trouble again and drag you with him. Don't argue with your dad about this too much! And do try to understand what your dad is worried about.
Good luck!
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (10 March 2008):
 Read back your post. Can you blame your Dad being worried about him. Even if he only had a criminal record, and thats bad enough. But the age gap is of a concern to any parent, of a 15 year old girl.
The only way of getting your whole family to except this guy, is for him to prove that he does care and respect you. And that will take time. But the good thing is that if he sticks around, you yourself will know how much he cares as well.
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