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writes:I've always been shy when it comes to guys... I have a real lack of confidence and I always seem to be the one falling for then but never the other way around. But recently I met this guy and I really like him and people say that he likes me too. Anyway, he asked me if I'd like to go ice skating with him, but as I REALLY don't ice skate, I said no... and the conversation ended there. Though I would really like to go out with him sometime. What should I do? The problem is I'm so shy and I don't think I could just come out with it. I know it's a stupid question but I would really appreciate some help with it. Thanks xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for such amazing responses Annalisa, Laura1318, and VeronicaSkye. I've decided to just swallow my fear and go for it. I'm just going to say that I'm sorry about turning him down but I would like to go somewhere else sometime. Cause as you've said I'm gonna miss out.xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for such amazing responses Annalisa, Laura 1318, and VeronicaSkye. I've decided to just swallow my fear and go for it. I'm just going to say that I'm sorry about turning him down but I would like to go somewhere else sometime. Coz as you've said I'm gonna miss out.xxxxx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 March 2008):
 You should have accepted and go out and have fun whether you don't ice skate or not.
It is not the same when you have him.
The next time he ask you out, if ever he asked again,go out.
He may take it as a rejection and may give you up.
You could suggest an alternative place if you don't like ice skating.
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reader, VeronicaSkye  +, writes (10 March 2008):
Well if you're too shy to even talk to him, I don't know if ANY advice is going to help you, except maybe to get some help or a book etc on overcoming your shyness. Also, keep in mind that he's obviously interested or he wouldn't have even asked you in the first place. Would you be too embarassed to say something to him like, "Hi [guy's name], I just wanted to tell you that the reason I said no the other day when you asked me if I wanted to go skating wasn't because I didn't want to do something with you, it's just that I don't know how to ice skate. So if you still want to get together maybe we could do something else sometime." That way you don't have to actually ask him out & you're leaving it up to him if he wants to ask you out again, at least that way he won't be thinking you don't like him. Remeber if you keep avoiding guys because your too shy or self-concious, you'll miss out on a lot of fun times & happiness, or even a shot at love. Remeber that you are a smart beautiful & desirable person & it's worth it to take the risk & step outside your comfort-zone.
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