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writes:My girlfriend and I are in love. We are virgins and have not had sex yet. I understand that Cunnilingus are very pleasarable for woman. What advice do you have about giving and receiving Cunnilingus? How will I know when it is a good time to give her one? Reply to this Question
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (28 January 2008):
 Ah! One of my favorite topics and, for any readers very shy about sexual things, this may be too graphic for you.
This is probably the most pleasurable experience a man can offer most women once they are comfortable about sexual stimulation from a man.
A good hot session of passionate kissing, and bit of fondling and sweet "nothings" should usually precede the following.
The mood has to be right, agreed as recommended below. But once she is receptive, comfortable and laying naked, you begin by using mostly the tips of your fingers, sometimes your full hands, to trace the curves of of beauty, from her nose and above to the tips of her toes.
You could be standing next to the bed, or kneeling beside her, but you want a position to very lightly stoke her entire body.
You are deftly and lightly feeling her, almost like a tickle at times, running your hands and fingers over her breasts, down her torso, skipping that special area for now, and moving your fingertips all up and down her legs.
Caress her feet a bit then work gently up her legs again - stop and give her thighs a massage - go on up, skipping the "area" again, and drag your fingertips up her belly toward the breasts again, stopping to gently squeeze the nipples awhile. Bend down and kiss and lick them, suck a bit and then back with the hands and fingers on her breasts.
Move smoothly to her face - run your fingertips across her forehead and run your fingers through her hair, trace her lips with your fingertips and bend back down to kiss her - caress her cheeks in your hands and kiss her again.
Then it's time to begin moving down, with a another stop at both breasts for kisses and nibbling, using the tip of your tongue now - reposition lower and lick downward across her belly with a flick or two of the belly button.
Reposition even lower and spread her legs a bit - your body position is now between her legs, lifting one of them straight into the air.
Kiss the back of her knee, like a French kiss, then with the tip of the tongue, lick lightly "down" toward her pubic area but stop. Repeat, maybe again. Then lift her other leg upward and do the same things. Spread her legs a bit more and lick the tender skin down both of her her inner thighs, stopping just short of her crotch area each time.
Lower her legs down to your side now, but spread them a bit more and begin kissing and licking the tender areas on both sides of her vulva (pussy) where her inner upper legs meet the torso. You are loving right next to her vulva on both sides, lifting her legs upward slightly to gain better access to these areas, moving down lower and getting closer.
Her knees are now bent, lifted with her heels on the bed next to you, one on each side.
Gently push her knees farther apart and lower your face down closer to her vulva. Using the thumb and index finger of one hand, from above with your palm on her mound just above the vulva, gently spread the lips apart and softly blow a whisp of breath up and down on her entire vulva.
Hold the position and, with just the fingertips of your other hand, softly trace first up, then down both sides of her labias (lips) two or three times.
Very lightly trace your fingertip(s) beginning below, moving upward, but avoiding the clitoris for now.
Once or twice, flatly place your entire hand over her vulva and softly caress it in a slow circular motion.
Remove and trace the labia again with your fingertips, then put your hand aside and replace the fingertips with the tip of your tongue.
Essentially repeat the process of tracing first up, then down her labias on both sides.
Spread the vulva farther open and lick up between the inner and outer lips on both sides. Begin to apply little flicking motions, side to side motions on occasion, and vary the motions from bottom up licking, flicking and some side-to-side motions for several minutes. Always gently, always still avoiding any direct lick of the clitoris for now.
It's time to take a brief plunge. Lay her legs widest apart and with those fingers from above, move down and spread the lips wide.
Withe the tip of your tongue, swirl her vaginal opening.
Swirl it again, then insert the tip inside a little. Pull out and swirl again and again, then insert your tongue deeper. Swirl the opening more then make very deep plunge or two, her vulva spread as wide as she can and your position very low to be able to thrust your tongue deeply.
Pull out and return to licking the labia, but begin licking further north, up and over the hood of her clitoris. Still avoiding direct contact with the clitoral bud, lick around it, up and down both sides nd flicking the shaft above.
Gradually begin to concentrate in this area, but returning to occasional tours all around the vulva. Go way down occasionally and lick the perineum (the flat area between her vulva and anus), but never rim her anus and return to her vulva. You would likely spread unwanted bacteria to her vagina.
Keep varying your techniques and motions. She by now, or long before, will be responding to these variations - continue to repeat the things that most seem to arouse her. Ask her wish things she likes, she will tell you.
Take another deep and shallow plunge or more into her vagina with your tongue, a few more tours around the vulva, and it's likely time to begin concentrating back to the clitoris.
She likely will be thrusting or pushing her pubic area up toward you by now - possibly moaning, even bucking upward.
Insert one or more fingers or your thumb into her vagina and gently yet firmly press your tongue, fully extended, against her clitoris and shaft area.
Fingers inserted two to three inches into her are often best, using a "come here" motion toward the roof of her vagina. This may stimulate her G-spot, a most sensitive area inside. This can also be accomplished with a thumb in reverse fashion and may be more comfortable for you.
When you find the G-spot, she will very likely respond intensely.
At this point, your woman is likely nearing orgasm.
Bring her legs down and closer to you (her orgasm will be best).
It's time to continue insertion with finger(s) or thumb, but be sure to keep your tongue firmly and consistently pressed flatly against her clitoris. Do not remove it, just hold there. She will be pressing hard against you. Do not stop - do not move!
With the hand still holding her lips at least slightly apart, you should also be able to begin pressing the palm downward on her mound (mons pubis).
Combined with yours fingers or thumb inside, this further stimulates her clitoral complex.
Hold the positions for her as she climaxes. It could last up to about three minutes for some women, often at least a minute. Stay there - hold on.
When it subsides, if she wants, she may ask to to do it again, after a minute or more.
It will not take nearly as long the second time, and you will have provided your woman a multiple orgasm. Another will likely occur during intercourse afterward.
DoubleM
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reader, BadAsh6705 +, writes (28 November 2007):
 I think that if you want to do her a good favor, you should first get her in the mood...maybe after a nice date out or dinner or a relaxed movie at home, first kiss her softly and get her worked up, then ask her if she would like to try it.
If she says yes, then just remember to be gentle and soft and go slowly. That is the best advice, I don't want to get too graphic....I don't do it myself, so it would be better to ask another man who has done it before, but in my experience it is better to try and be very delicate and go slowly!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007): Ok, I would say that most women like to make sure that everything is neat and tidy downstairs before oral sex!.
So I would recommend that you speak to your girlfriend and tell her that you would like to try it with her, then she will be ready and you'll both be confident about it.
ok good luck!
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