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How can I check my virginity?
Q. I m doubted that i have broke my hymen during self pleasuring.bt i dnt remember that I ever seen blood during self pleasuring.how can I check my virginity?...
A. 1 November 2009: Just because your hymen was broken does not mean your are no longer a virgin. Unfortunately, virgin is a term some people have twisted, so it can have multiple meanings, but really, it's someone who has yet to have sex. One girl I dated was a ... (read in full...)
Drama break ups!
Q. I had a boyfreind then he broke up with me and got back with one of his ex girlfriends and said that he was just using me till his ex girlfriend got back from hoiday, but i still think deep down inside he stills likes me i think hes girlfriend has ...
A. 1 November 2009: I'm sorry to say this, but they're both right. I'm sure you two were happy, but if someone who supposedly liked you is going to be that cruel to you and say that he was using you, then he's not worth it.
If you really still hope that there migh... (read in full...)
second base scenario
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for almost 7 months now and we are getting closer than ever. She recently told me that if i wanted we could go to second base. i don't know what to do, i'm only 14 but i love her more than anything. i'm ...
A. 1 January 2007: dude, only go as far as u feel comfortable going. I will tell u that every first time will probably always be awkward between u and ur partner, but if u love her as much as u say u do, and she loves u the same back, there is no doubt in my mind that ... (read in full...)
He smokes and I can't be around him due to Asthma! What can I do?
Q. hey i really need some help... im in a relationship with a great boyfriend but he has just started smoking (he's 13 im 16) and i cant be around him when he smokes because of my Asthma and to top it off ive had an argument with my parents and as a ...
A. 10 November 2006: About ur weight, (atleast i think so)it is strongly influenced by emotions and how hungry u become in a certain period of time. Forcing urself to eat more is a start, just be sure u dont get sick from it :P.
About ur boyfriend though...
Just me p... (read in full...)
What do I do about my ex who maybe wants me back?
Q. I know im young and naive(16),,,but I felt my girlfriend was the love of my life,,,but she completly ignored me all of the time! I feel as though i need her,,,and as though she needs me,,,but dont know what to do about it??!! She wont even speak to ...
A. 9 November 2006: dont worry about it. just chill for a sec.
think about it: how close r ur friends to her??? im guessing not very, so dont take their words for granted.
Try talking to her more often if u have to. Obviously ur feelings arnt going to let you... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and pregnant! Can I legally move out and be with my bf?
Q. can a pregnant 17 year old legally move out with her 20 year old boyfriend...
A. 5 November 2006: i think depending where u r (like if ur not in US), then maybe. idk
all i know is that u have to be out of high school and/or 18.
where do u live (no specifics, but maybe state or country would help)... (read in full...)
I want to tell her how I feel, but am scared of rejection. What should I do?
Q. i met my best friend back about 9 months ago. we were both in relationships, but immediately had very strong chemistry. after talking about it, we decided that ignoring it would be best, as we both had ties elsewhere. we became very close friends ...
A. 8 October 2006: Well...i think it is worth a shot. I can understand exactly what u feel with rejection, but let me tell u this: i am currently dating my best friend, and it took me 4 tries to have her say yes, and neither i or her am regreting this. Along with ... (read in full...)
Do girls prefer the confident or shy type?
Q. hey girls! do you prefer a confident person or a shy person who tends to think about people's feelings....
A. 8 October 2006: okay, im a guy.....but w/e.
all the girlfriends that i have had in the past really love the sweet and sensitive type (YAY ME ^.^), but when it comes down to some things, being confident and taking charge in certain things can really help!
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How can I rediscover my identity?
Q. How can i rediscover my identity? I adore my boyfriend but I miss being single so much that it's really getting me down. I want to spend the rest of my life with this guy, and i've gotten far enough into the relationship so that were beyond the ...
A. 8 October 2006: hey there.
Okay, there's something goin on here that happens all the time (so dont worry); your mind and ur heart are talkin at the same time and u dont know which to listen to.
Your heart, of course, is saying how u need to spend ur time wi... (read in full...)
How can I ask her to the school dance?
Q. Hey! I am a shy 17 year old guy and i want to ask this girl to a school dance. how should i approach her and what should i say? we get on fine at school and she seems to be a plesant person....
A. 8 October 2006: hi there!
first off, i wanna say i really really like u now cuz i know im not alone in the world for being shy :P
second, probably the best thing to do is to just talk to her, get to know her more, and if u guys happen to talk about the dance at... (read in full...)
Could I be bi and if so my friends won't accept me....
Q. I've been thinking for a while now about the posiblility that i'm bisexual. I know im not gay cos im attracted to guys. But, my mate had a house party a few nights ago and we all got really drunk. We were all laughing and carrying on when my mate ...
A. 12 September 2006: once uve taken a swig of beer (or w/e it was), whatever you do could be as simple as acting stupid or as extreme as u making out with the same sex. Bisexual? maybe.
When your thinking about being a bi, you have to know wut u like and dislike.... (read in full...)
I feel guilty...Should I take her back?
Q. I got dumped a couple of months ago. It was like any end to any relationship not to get into details. I felt pretty crappy about the whole thing, i felt like i lost apart of me, and months after the offical dumping. The girl came up to me and told ...
A. 12 September 2006: well, its a little hard to take back wut u said, cuz she could be over you by now :-\.
But your guilt i think is just cuz u turned her down and feel like u may have hurt her feelings about as much as she had hurt urs. dont let that get to ur head ... (read in full...)
He deserted me with no by or leave, but I heard he was in an accident and now I feel no matter how much he hurt me I should call him ??
Q. Hello All, I have a problem about an ex-boyfriend/lover who I totally loved, but who ended up being a total b*stard to me... I have posted a problem about him before (when I was trying to get over him), but now I have a new dilemma, and wou...
A. 10 September 2006: DEFINATELY CALL HIM AND SEE IF HE'S OKAY!!!
Listen, you may or may not have "those" feelings for him anymore, but atleast u wish u two were still friends, right?
I wouldnt phrase it as "i forgive you", cuz that usually ends up in fights and an... (read in full...)
I was ready to propose to her two weeks ago-now she's with another guy. How do I deal with this?
Q. I have posted here loads about me and partner, been together over three years, got baby etc, and she left cos feelings are gone, doesnt feel the same, not interested etc. She been at her mums a week, and i stayed at house for issues i have already ...
A. 26 August 2006: Listen, you need room to breathe and think straight. Y not leave her incharge of the house and you go away to a friend's house (who is willing to let u in for a few nights) so that you can think straight of what you really want.
From what I can tell... (read in full...)
He doesn't trust me, he calls me a liar, he's jealous, he rants and raves...what can I do about this guy?
Q. Hi I am in a relationship with a guy for nearly a year now. when we first met we both had just come out of serious relationships. we were pretty casual at first but now it's pretty serious. the problem is the way he treats me and speaks to me. if h...
A. 25 August 2006: OKay, you have done absolutely nothing wrong to deserve this. I think the best approach for you is to talk with him and say that he has to trust you more and that he should because you love him and you wouldnt want to hurt him or do n e thing to ... (read in full...)
I masterbate to pictures of both men and women! Is this normal?
Q. Hi Im 15. when i masterbate i sometimes look at pictures of women but sometimes men is this normal? i dont actually want to do anything with men but i do with women. id be glad of any replies. thanks...
A. 25 August 2006: This is perfectly normal. Your hormones are making u this curious, and just because your lookin at the pics doesnt mean you r into that kind of stuff.
Just remember that these are your hormones talkin, not your mind. your hormones just dont car... (read in full...)
Any advice on how I can help my Aunt through her first, big heartbreak?
Q. PLEASE HELP....I am lost. I am a 23 yr old bi female, my aunt (55 yo) just came out to me as a lesbian. We are from a very religious family, and I am the only one in the world that she has told. To make things more complicated, she has NEVER had ...
A. 25 August 2006: man, things like these are never easy, especially coming out to ur family. Saying to my parents that i was bi (i really am, so i can understand wut ur aunt is goin through) wasnt easy, and they still chose not to accept that part of me.
One t... (read in full...)
I feel rejected and alone...can anyone help help me
Q. im having a really hard life at the moment. My brothers are leaving home to travel for a year, i will miss them so so much. To top it im moving schools and everyone has already forgotten about me :( i feel so rejected and alone and no one ...
A. 25 August 2006: awww, i feel your pain. Have you tried to talk to your friends at your own school?
I know how you feel about this. I had to trade schools and start anew at a place i wasnt even used to (damn catholic school :P). But trust me, just be yourself and ... (read in full...)
Are all men really only after one thing ?
Q. Hi. are all men after one thing? I'm a youg 27 odd year old and I'm too afraid to sleep with a guy for the simple fact that they are using me. My father brought me up to believe all men were after one thing. from learning this I don't plan on let...
A. 25 August 2006: It sounds like you have met some decent guys out there with the whole long term relationship bf u had/have. The trouble is just finding a guy out there who respects your insecurities (which some wont and some will).
About your dad, i think the only... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin at 38 years old...do I tell this to my new guy?
Q. I have just met the man of my dreams, but i dont know whether i should tell him i am a virgin at 38 as he might think i am some sort of weirdo or something or will he work it out for himself, also as he is thin i am over weight he has not mentioned ...
A. 24 August 2006: Well, maybe after a while of dating him you should tell him, or atleast untill he asks. I am no expert on this, but coming out too fast or too strong can sometimes scare a person off...not that this fact is too strong anyway. But you get my point. ... (read in full...)
Is it my personality they're interested in, or is it just sex?
Q. Every time that I start talking to a boy, it seems as if they always seem to bring up sex, but they also talk about other important things as well. I was wondering should I take it into consideration that all these boys want to do is have sex with ...
A. 24 August 2006: Jeeze, i am the only one who has a problem with what the others say. I AM A GUY AND NOT INTERESTED IN SEX!!! :P
But seriously, depending on how old they are and how attractive you are, maybe they just cant help to think that. :P
Just remember... (read in full...)
Yearning for her attention
Q. i really like a girl she is a year older than me we were really good friends then my friends told her i had a crush on her and then they asked her out for me she said no and now when she is alone she acts kind with me but if she is with a friend she ...
A. 24 August 2006: This is exactly what happened with me and my girlfriend...but a year and a half earlier (yes, ive had a crush on my friend for over a year).
Whenever we were alone, we would act like best friends and see what was going on in our lives. But when she ... (read in full...)
He needs time to get his head together so is there a chance for us to be together again?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up a month ago and I just saw him this past weekend for the first time. It was awkward at first but then as the day went on we were acting like a couple again. At one point we were telling each other that we still loved ...
A. 24 August 2006: There is definately a chance for you two to be back together. One thing you could do is ask him if there was anything he could talk to you about for help so you could get an idea of what exactly is going on. if he says no, then give him some space. ... (read in full...)
I love her so much that when we are apart it hurts so much, how can I deal a bit better ?
Q. Is it possible to love somebody TOO much? I am engaged to a girl, she has made me the happiest I have ever been in my life. When we are together, I am in heaven, but when we are apart, I am like a lost puppy. When she is not around, I become moo...
A. 24 August 2006: Dude, i know exactly what your going through. I have a girlfriend here who i miss so much even though i had just left her place (sounds crazy, but its true).
But listen, you need to distract your mind somehow. How? i dont know, but she cant be ... (read in full...)
Im worried that I have left it too long before being intimate with someone again and scared that now I never will be....
Q. I lost my virginity when I was 16 to my boyfriend and i havnt slept with anyone since i broke up with him. That was 3 years ago!!! furthermore, ive only kissed 2 people. The problem is that because im so self conscious about myself, whenever i have ...
A. 24 August 2006: Sex is a huuuuge thing to do. Maybe not to some people, but it is for me.
I feel that having sex isnt really all important in life. Maybe your worrying about the sex your getting becuase you feel alone and feel like thats the only way to get a guy?... (read in full...)
How can I get things back to just friends...?
Q. me and my boyfriend broke up which im perfectly happy about , although i wish i could still be his friend ,and i dont understand why he doesnt like me , although going out didnt work we used to get along so well , and i wish things could still be ...
A. 24 August 2006: I too have this same situation. I wish I could be friends with my ex except for one thing: trusting her. I could trust her as far as i could throw her. but maybe what u might want to consider is to talk to him more, be more friendly around him. if u ... (read in full...)
We've gone for counselling to help our relationship, but I'm falling for the counsellor!
Q. My partner and I are having sex counselling at Relate. It is going quite well, but I think I have fallen in love with the counsellor! I know about transference and it maybe only this but I am very attracted to him, (almost immediately-his sense of ...
A. 24 August 2006: I think that you think that the cousnelor would fill in the gaps that ur partner leaves out. This = nono.
He is there to help you and guide you, and i think that with that you are mistaking the lines between close friend and boyfriend. its happ... (read in full...)
My ex is ruining my new relationship and ultimately my life!
Q. I am a 27 year old guy and 2 yrs ago I was dumped by my 8 months pregnant girlfriend after 5 yrs of being together. She told me there was no chance of getting back together. So after 2 months of trying it was time to give up. About 4 months a...
A. 24 August 2006: Okay, ur past gf, jealous (:P).
Listen, tell her to back off. and if that doesnt work, then maybe a restraining order is needed. This is almost like what happened with my ex-girlfriend (although she was never pregnant)
As for your current gir... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my work colleague!
Q. Im 19 and I think ive fallen for one of my close friends who's also a work collegue. I literally cant stop thinking about him and get jealous whenever i see him talking to other girls. I feel like im going to burst if i dont tell him but im worried ...
A. 24 August 2006: One thing you could do is hit on him maybe and see if u get a flirty response? or better yet, ask him out one night as friends and see if he gives u any hint as to his feelings about you.
Me, ive dated two of my closest friends in my life. On... (read in full...)
My husband of 30 years took one of our cars and hid it from me!
Q. I reside in california and married 30 years. We have three vehicles, my husband took one of our vehicles and stated it is in a safe place. I want my vehilce returned, what can i do?...he wont tell me where it is...both names on registration..can i ...
A. 24 August 2006: i agree with the comment above: why would he do that? find that out first and then ask one of us about it. Was there a fight between u two at the time? Has he been acting liek this at any other time? More info is needed, but if he wont tell you, ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to have relationship expectations?
Q. Is it right to have expectations in a relationship?...
A. 24 August 2006: of course it is right! its all that n e love-seeker would dream of; having a relationship that went the way you wanted it to work out and having some1 to love you and take care of u when you were down, all that good stuff. So to expect things from ... (read in full...)
What constitutes the 'ideal' relationship?
Q. Hi All, This is a quick question... Can anyone give me their view on what constitutes the ideal relationship partner? Is mutual love, respect and commitment/loyalty enough?? Thanks tons, Miss Doubtful x...
A. 24 August 2006: For me, its everything u have just described. love, respect, commitment, loyalty....but most important is trust. you need to be able to trust what your boyfriend says (once u know him better and can actually trust that he will be loyal to you), and ... (read in full...)
Found some texts to another girl on his phone, is he cheating ?
Q. i think my boyfriend is cheating on me because i found texts off another girl on his phone saying "hi babe sorry about last night i'll make it up to you love ya" but when i confronted them they said i have nothing to worry about they are good mates ...
A. 23 August 2006: Dont worry so much yet as to whether your bf is cheating on u. i know a lot of guys who just say that to girls even when they would never be more than friends. however, it is a topic of discussion for u and ur bf if they were in a past relationship. ... (read in full...)
I told my boyfriend that I wasnt excited about our relationship anymore, now hes very distant and I regret it... Please help!!
Q. Dear Cupid, I recently made the mistake of spilling some feelings I had to my boyfriend. What was going on was, since we've been together for quite awhile, I was feeling a little bored with our relationship and not very excited anymore and I told h...
A. 23 August 2006: i feel it is important that you be as close to your partner as possible, like telling him whats going on in your life so he can help (atleast thats how its worked with all of my relationships). I think that you need to sit down with him and tell him ... (read in full...)
Girls Gone Wild!!
Q. Ok back in 2004 I was on the show girls gone wild in Miami, Florida. I loved it. Being with girls, having sex with girls. But now that I don't see them that often as I used to, How do I find a girl to get with? There it was so simlpe because every ...
A. 23 August 2006: try a gay bar (i know you will get that a lot, but what better of a way to see if ppl are bi or gay?), and if that doesnt work, then maybe online? being a bi, i wouldnt know what guys r gay or bi and its always hard especially when you like someone ... (read in full...)
The dreaded ex!!
Q. she dumped me 11 months ago for her married boss with 3 kids and i was devestated. Now im trying my best to move on but she keeps texting me virtually every week and finding any excuse to try and strike up some sort of conversation between us,i have ...
A. 23 August 2006: As for now, you should try to create more space between you and her. Being friends after a relationship is always a good thing, but not right after it. either delete her messages as soon as you get them or tell her off and that you will talk to her ... (read in full...)
My brother gets away with everything and its really not fair! What should I do ?
Q. hi am 14 years old and i am fed up with my brother who is 16 he always swears and my mum hardly does anything about it a part from shouting at him but he still does it again. But recently i hid my brothers game and my mum told me to give it back but ...
A. 23 August 2006: First off, I hope your feeling better!!! I know what your dealing with (cuz coincidently, i am an older brother of a girl of age 14 {not you, of course. my sister doesnt know this site and i am nicer to her now}). In the past I would always give my ... (read in full...)
What a boy wants
Q. hi im 13 and i am just learning about boys and how basically all they think and care about is sex and women. i am now really upset cos thts all boys want :( so they have no respect for girls tht means :( i hate it! i hate tht that is all they care ...
A. 23 August 2006: Okay, huuuuugge stereotype. But its not your fault for thinking that that is all they want. To me, there are three types of guys in life: 1) those who are pretty much horny all the time and will always have their mind in the gutter/ 2)Those who just ... (read in full...)
I enjoy getting off to lesbian porn, but dont actually fancy women !!???
Q. am i gay? i am 19 im attracted to guys and love having sex with guys but i keep havin lesbian fantasies and it turns me on to watch lesbian porn but im not attracted to girls, i am so confused........
A. 23 August 2006: Just because your turned on by lesbian sex doesn't mean that you are one. sometimes deciding whether your straight, bisexual, or gay is about how u feel about them not only physically but emotionally as well. i have seen girls do wild things in my ... (read in full...)
I don't like my boyfriend having contact with his ex-wife!
Q. I am 24 years old and have been in a relationship for 5 months and am 10 weeks pregnant by this man. My boyfriend is great, he treats me like a queen, is happy. We are having a baby and we are planning to get married sooner then later. The downs...
A. 23 August 2006: okay, insecurities...ya, everyone has them. And the best way not to have drama is to not start them yourself (DUH! but wait, im getting to my point). But, whether by accident or on purpose, if u have the insecurities, more than likely your already ... (read in full...)
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