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writes:Earlier this week my 15-year-old son came home from school in tears saying that everyone had seen pictures of him in his underwear on the Internet.He claims a group of boys pretended to be showing off their mobile phones to one another, but were really taking photos of him getting dressed (he said he saw the flash).He says he feels unhappy and depressed when doing PE, but enjoys every other lesson (as the bullies aren't with him in any other class, except for Geography). He says he didn't do anything to provoke them at all.My son also said they've kept creating a website about him on school computers and said it's been deleted several times, he then said they re-created the site on a school computer with no password that is for everyone to use and he's embarrassed because he found the pictures on the site when he clicked on a page that said "GCSE English" it took him to the photos of himself. The page got deleted, but the bullies have kept re-creating it numerous times.He also asked the teachers if they could delete the logins the bullies used but the teacher said the computer accounts with no password can't be deleted because they're needed in some cases.He said he's told teachers, but they're not taking much interest, apart from one who's confronted the boys, but they just claim "it's not important, why are you stopping us having fun??"My son seems very withdrawn a lot of the time, and has began over-eating crisps and cakes.at the same time, he says he just wants to pass his GCSEs and go to college. he says he doesn't want to go just because of a few bullying kids.how can me and my husband help him??
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reader, DearCupid +, writes (10 November 2007):
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reader, faith scott boreanaz +, writes (10 November 2007):
 I feel so sorry for you and angry at the torment they've brought your son too. It seems the teachers are just as bad as the bullies. I've thought about the solution very carefully and heres my answer.* Go to the board of governors of the school, tell them whats happening and threaten to include the police and newspapers.* If your still not satisfied and it does continue then go to the police.*DONT GO TO THE NEWSPAPERS - this may bring your son more stress to know that people have read an article of how he was put on the internet in such a way.*I would also have suggested to pull him out of school until authorities notice which i did with my younger brother. But since his in his GCSE year, only do this if its desperately nessecary.(my brother wasnt in his GCSE year)If you do what i advise, it should stop the abuse however, we all have to be awere thatr its a cruel world so this is why i have to tell you this, * If the bullies / tormentors arent excluded from school theres a likely chance they'll continue and your son may get seriously hurt thats why you should also express this concern to the police, they may be able to offer you and your son more advice. i would say not to let your son hang out on his own, make sure he has some friends with him or a couple of months after.Keep me posted and i seriously hope this horrible problem blows over and you, your son and husband can get back to normal and move on. all the best and more, Faith.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): When I got bullied when I was 14, and refused to go to school because they made me miserable my Mum went in to see the head of year. He told her theres not much they can do, which is a lie.I suggest you go see his head of year and if they try to tell you that they can't do anything - they're lieing and being lazy. Remind them that every school should have an anti-bullying sceme (I think that's what it's called) and you will take further action if they refuse to help.I'm really sorry about what's happening to your son, and I can imagine how you must be feeling having to watch this happen.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (10 November 2007):
 PE is not important, loads of people bunked it, including me. No colleges asked me about it and I been interviewed by three colleges. Let him skip it, its not important. These boys won't stop, you dont even have to react yet bullies will carry on, I should know I was bullied.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): Being in that situation can be very depressing for a teenager. I would reccomend either calling the cops as that is cyber bullying and the kids will get punished. But if your child is stressing badly, maybe move him to a differnt school as he will be able to concentrate on his schoolwork and they might be more involved and caring to your child's needs.
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