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... Send *ine a private message | | | *ine's profile:hiya all! well my name is Tine and im from Belfast, in Northern Ireland... the place isnt exactly the best place in the world, with all the trouble but its where i call home. I'm 23 and unfortunately i don't know it all, however i've had enough experiences to make me the person i am today. I've had my heart broken on several occasions, and i'm sure i've broke hearts myself - no1 is perfect!
The one thing that makes me happy is seeing others around me happy too and i feel that my work is never done unless i know absolutely everyone around me is feeling 100%.. what kind of person would you be to let all those around you fall down?? At the minute i am working full time but also at college studying to be a Social worker, not just for kids though, for the elderly also, i have a lot of time for them.
I absolutely love giving people advice on anything really and i do admitt that i don't know everything, nobody does but as the days go by i learn more and more and as i learn i pass that knowledge on to others and it gives me a buzz to know that i have made someones life better, even if its just by the slightest bit!! Also one quality that i have that my friends love is that im honest and straight talking, if you ask me a question the only way i know how to answer it is honestly. And i find that i am the one my friends and family come to first for advice. so hopefully that should help you lot out there!! |
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The men I fancy tend to be straight and very rarely gay - why?
Q. I would like to have your opinion on the fact that the men I fancy tend to be straight and very raerly gay and what does it say that I am into men from the age of 16 right up to the age of 79? Your views are welcome!...
A. 24 December 2010: then i agree with Welsh Uncle Dave, if you want to actualy find a gay partner then the best way to do it is on a gay dating site..
or if you don't wanna take that leap into dating how about just becoming friends through a gay chat room, metting ... (read in full...)
The men I fancy tend to be straight and very rarely gay - why?
Q. I would like to have your opinion on the fact that the men I fancy tend to be straight and very raerly gay and what does it say that I am into men from the age of 16 right up to the age of 79? Your views are welcome!...
A. 20 December 2010: maybe you aren't going out to the right places to find a gay partner, do you go out to gay bars or is it just any bar in general??
it is such an open range of ages there, so maybe it just the wrong places or maybe it's the more macho straight... (read in full...)
He promised to be a better man but I still have doubts about him.
Q. Do i stay with him or not? He cheated on me a month ago,i was angry and could not believe that he would cheat on me.When he was not working i use to take care of him, he used my car to go see the other lady.when i ask him why did he cheat, his an...
A. 14 December 2010: if you are still having doubts give him an ultimatum, either phone this girl and tell her that he doesn't love her or get out and never come back.
trust is a hard gain once it has been broken, so i don't blame you in the slightest for feeling ... (read in full...)
Why does she say such hurtful things when drunk?
Q. why does my girlfriend get drunk and starts telling me i don't do anything for her and adds my sex sucks, why does hurt me this way? ...
A. 14 December 2010: you need to speak to her when she is 100% sober, if she thinks there are flaws in your realtionship she should be open minded with you while she isn't under the influence, instead of when she has had the dutch courage of alcohol.
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Hair on my thighs - how much is too much?
Q. So I've noticed that I have thickish, black hairs on the backside of my thigh, and I was wondering if a women would mind during sex? What's a women's perspective on body hair in general? My butt has hair, but it doesn't seem like the jungles of ...
A. 14 December 2010: it is ok for a guy to have hairs on their legs, i think women would worry a bit if they didn't!
personally i don't mind it, but if its a case where you are feeling a bit self conscious about it, trim it a bit.... (read in full...)
I'm thinking about leaving my husband if he doesn't stop looking at porn
Q. I have been married for 5 years now and my husband and I are both young only in our 20's and have 3 little girls I found his porn 6months into our marriage and we have had problems every since he says he's gonna quit and never does and now just gets ...
A. 14 December 2010: onl you can decide if its wrong or not, do you really think this will break your relationship if he continues to do this..
chances are he will never stop looking at it, he's probably been doing it from he hit puberty, it might just be a habit of... (read in full...)
Boyfriend say he's fat and now doesn't participate during sex
Q. ok so my bofriend and i have been having some sexual issues. He has recently put on some weight and feels fat. He used to try and start on me by turning me on first but now he wont have sex with me unless i start wich is very annoying becuse ...
A. 13 December 2010: its just an excuse and it'll be one you'll be hearing time and time again unless you put a stop to it now.. there are many ways in which he can participate that doesnt involve 'much' work although it takes 2 to tango, and i wouldn't be too long in ... (read in full...)
When you cheat does it mean you really don't love your partner anymore?
Q. hi i just have a very simple question, i have been with my bf for 4 years now but i have recentley cheated on him for the first time ever and i am very confused about my feelings but i just wanted to know: when you cheat, does it really mean that ...
A. 13 December 2010: i don't think it means that you don't love your partner it just means that temptation of someone new is too hard to resist sometimes.
other than this time have you ever questioned your love for them??? if so then maybe there are a few things y... (read in full...)
She's cool and doesn't deserve my games
Q. Been fwb with this girl from work 4 3 months. She's new I flirted, she crushes on me and I'm flattered but tell her I get kinda lazy in relationships, so she agreed to fwb. Well damn she got to me with her amazing blowjob skillz, and to top it ...
A. 13 December 2010: i agree with 'the walking dude' and say that she must be some part of your type otherwise you would never have started having sex with her in the first place..
do you think you have already started falling for her, hence the reason you keep goi... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and want to keep it but my fiance wants abortion
Q. I'm 20 years old , I have a 13 month old son ... My fiance has two children , we just found out three days ago I am pregnant.. At first I didnt know what I wanted to do , but now I realized I want to keep the baby.. We have talked about it and have ...
A. 13 December 2010: in situations like these i would always go with your heart.. it is the women who have to carry the child inside them therefore the baby is part of you from day one, some men don't realise this and this and think it is just like a piece of garbage ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex slagging me off on facebook?
Q. so basically ive broken up with my boyfriend and i am getting to the point where im over him. the otehr day i went on his fb just to see what he was up to and how he was and on his wall practically every person he talks to he is slagging me off ...
A. 13 December 2010: he is probably slagging you off to make himself feel a bit better about the break-up.. did you end it with him or was it him that did the breaking up??
if this is the case of him slagging you off at every opportunity then i suggest you just be ... (read in full...)
Does he speak the truth when he was drunk
Q. do u speak the truth when your drunk okay well me an my ex aint together but we still see eachother hes done alot to me but i dont want to be with him right now until last night his dad called me drunk saying his son can get any girl he wants an...
A. 13 December 2010: they say drunken minds speak sober hearts - however in this case i think its just a fact of his dad being a drunken bum.
What gives a man of his age the right to phone you under the influence and put you down like that?? I wouldnt worry too much... (read in full...)
I cant get over my trust issues to have a healthy relationship
Q. Ever since I started dating when I was 14 years old (I'm 21 now) I have always gotten hurt in some way. I've been cheated on several times, lied to, dumped for someone else, and the list goes on. Anyways, after my longest relationship, I became a ...
A. 13 December 2010: you know yourself that you love this guy to death so why jepordise your relationship with all this questioning..
truthfully if he has never given you a reason to doubt him or not trust him then you are very lucky.. it is easy to say that it will ... (read in full...)
Dumped by an email!
Q. I was recently dumped by email this afternoon. We had only been dating 3 months, but I personally think it is cowardly after even one date. At the time I read the email, I wrote a response that was too polite, and did not express how I actually f...
A. 13 December 2010: i think you should just leave it at that.. you know yourself that you deserve more respect than what he's given you so, i would just throw my head up high and thank the heavens that you are no longer with such a waste of space.. block his email ... (read in full...)
Dating problems......is it because I am too pushy and afraid to be happy?
Q. I didn't get my first girlfriend until I was 27, as I wanted to focus on my education. The first one was a LDR, but that didn't last because , even though I did go and see her, when I came back down, she decided to cheat on me. The second one...
A. 13 December 2010: sum self obsessed women go for looks alone to boost their own ego and personally i laugh because when it does get down to it, many good looking men out their are horrible in the inside... the women soon find this out...
how about not actually... (read in full...)
I cant trust him even though he has never done anything wrong!
Q. Hi there, I've been seeing this guy for about 3 years now and am having a hard time trusting him. He hasn't done anything to show he's been cheating on me. IN fact, he's constantly telling me he loves me and only me. I'm constantly upset...
A. 13 December 2010: he sounds like a keeper but what you need to sit and think to yourself is, why you are feeling like this?? you say yourself that he has never given you any reason to doubt him, then why are you??
is he flirting around other girls?? if the answer i... (read in full...)
Ex admitted he cheated but instead of bringing closure it hurts even more!
Q. Its been a month since i heard from my ex he contacted me last nite. The last time we spoke it ended very badly because i messeged a girl i assumed he slept with on his recent holiday! He had just spent a month with me and my family we had a silly ...
A. 9 December 2010: it's only been a month from you broke up so the feelings are still really raw. And to have someone betray you, is bad enough without them denying it and making you think that your in the wrong for accusing them is even worse.
He knew formt he... (read in full...)
If he is genuinely interested in me, then why doesn't he ever call me?
Q. I met this guy online and have been talking to him for about 4 months now. We've gone on 1 date a few days ago, and it went pretty well: met up for a casual dinner. Then he pleaded with me to come back to my place which I agreed, and we made out ...
A. 9 December 2010: there could be a few answers to this, maybe he is genuinely interested i you but is too scared in case it doesnt work out, or another is maybe things didnt go too good for him when you were on the date and he is only saying this to spare your ... (read in full...)
Will my ex come back to me in the future?
Q. Here's my situation, about three months ago, after my last visit to my girlfriend, we were having problems. She would say to me that she was "confused" and not sure if this was the direction that she wanted to take in life, which basically meant ...
A. 9 December 2010: getting over someone takes all different periods of time, you obviously care for her alot and thats why after 3 months, the feelings are still very raw.
You should just try yourself to get on with it, and you're definitaly right, if she comes ba... (read in full...)
He is separated from his wife, but they are yet to proceed with a divorce. Does this count as cheating?
Q. I had sex with a guy who has been separated from his wife for a year. He has a 2 year old daughter with his wife, and that is why he claims it is "complicated" and they have not yet decided whether to move forward with the divorce. Does that count ...
A. 6 December 2010: Personally i don't count this as cheating it's been a whole year that they have been seperated therefore they are not together and haven't been in a long time. I am not too sure how it is over in america however over here in the uk you can't get a ... (read in full...)
If 6 years of not talking hasn't worked, what will stop these feelings?
Q. This is going to be a long one. I met this guy online years ago and we clicked, We were great friends, but then we started falling for each other. Because he lives in another country I pushed him away and we stopped talking. We haven't been in ...
A. 6 December 2010: well you need to weigh out the pros and con's here exactly what have you both got to lose? And you both know what you have to gain.
Why let theses feelings go to waste, its obvious that you both still really want each other. SO how about a trial ... (read in full...)
He went behind my back last year with an ex, and now another ex wants to meet up with him! What should I do?
Q. After the first year of being together my boyfriend went behind my back, met up with for coffee, and saved half naked photos of her on his computer. He didn't tell me, but it all came out in the end. We rowed and decided to give it one last go. It's ...
A. 6 December 2010: well first of all you need to find out why exactly all these exes think that hes available to meet up with him?? Is he making himself look available or is it just by chance that they decide that now is the time for a reconciliation??
And what doe... (read in full...)
Is this his way of trying to make me jealous?
Q. Is this his way of trying to make me jealous? My ex partner and i split up several monthes ago, we had been seeing each other for 7yrs and had had 2 children whom are still young. Our relationship had been an odd one as he didnt live with me and o...
A. 6 December 2010: then i would break it to him in a subtle way and say i'm aware that you have been making yourself more available to women and tell him that if he is still going to carry on doing so, then you don't think that there hope of you both getting back ... (read in full...)
Will my ex come back to me in the future?
Q. Here's my situation, about three months ago, after my last visit to my girlfriend, we were having problems. She would say to me that she was "confused" and not sure if this was the direction that she wanted to take in life, which basically meant ...
A. 6 December 2010: maybe she does value your friendship, as it seems that you really do care for her although please don't mistake this for her wanting to get back together with you.
Either that or she wants to keep you on stand-by incase things don't work out betw... (read in full...)
She's the girl all the bad guys want!
Q. Yeah I know that I shouldn't be depressed because in the end I will find the one I ultimately love. I met this girl in town through Facebook actually. We talked for a good week and she wanted to hang out. I never EVER get nervous about meeting ...
A. 4 December 2010: i dont think that it'll make you look desperate at all, it'll show her that you are really into her and that you are honest. One of the main factors, that women look for in men.. So if anything she'll be flattered by your honesty.... (read in full...)
She's the girl all the bad guys want!
Q. Yeah I know that I shouldn't be depressed because in the end I will find the one I ultimately love. I met this girl in town through Facebook actually. We talked for a good week and she wanted to hang out. I never EVER get nervous about meeting ...
A. 2 December 2010: if you think she seen you drive past her maybe she is under the impression that after seeing her, you realised she's not your type and that was the reason you drove on??
You need to write her an email or something exmplaining your feelings... (read in full...)
Should I tell my former teacher that I can't stop thinking about him?
Q. I had feelings for one of my teachers from my senior year in high school. I'm in college now and I still think about him. He is all I think about and I don't know what to do. I thought that not seeing him for a while might help. Also, I thought ...
A. 2 December 2010: what do you expect from him? what do you think he would say if you told him??
Just be careful here what you are going to do, if he is already in a relationship, do you really want to be the one that tries to jepordise that??
And how long ... (read in full...)
Should I see what he has to say?
Q. A male friend or ex "fwb" you might call it, ended up sleeping together a few weeks ago. BIG mistake because he has a girlfriend. I spoke to him about it a few days later, and told him i felt like an idiot about what happened. He asked why, and i...
A. 2 December 2010: he is trying to show you that he still values your friendship and thats why he is asking you out for coffee.
i think if you want to carry on being friends with him then meet him for coffee, see what he has to say then work out what you want to ... (read in full...)
When is verbal abuse too much verbal abuse?
Q. I have a lot to ask, but it all leads up to, "When has the verbal abuse gone "too" far? My husband and I have been together for 8 years, we just recently got married this year. 8/2010. We are both mid 30's, and we each have 2 children. This is his ...
A. 2 December 2010: If you have told your husband everything, then maybe i think he should give you a little lee-way where your sex life is concerned. And as he has unfortunatley been through the same trauma as you he should understand that these feelings just dont go ... (read in full...)
Any woman that shows interest in me I want to shove away!
Q. I had a really great romantic relationship going with a girl I loved. She decided that she was in love with a guy she spent a weekend with a few months ago. We did a lot of great stuff together, and a an awesome personal intimate connection. but I ...
A. 29 November 2010: no you should certainly not stop going out, you just need time to get over this girl who broke your heart.Sitting in and becoming cut off from the world will do you no good at all. But please don't write every girl off, there are girls out there who ... (read in full...)
Why don't men approach me?
Q. i don't understand why men don't approach me? is it because i am not attractive enough? someone please help me?????? ...
A. 29 November 2010: you need to look at the bigger picture here, what way is you body language portraying you to guys..
are you making eye contact? or are you looking at the floor the whole night?? are you standing with your body facing towards them or away from the... (read in full...)
Should I drop college to be closer to my boyfriend even though my family will hate me?
Q. I am female and I have a long story for you guys. I go to college up in Michigan, I'm 18 and my boyfriend of three years lives in Toledo. I hate being far away from him and I hate being and doing things by myself. At the beganing, I went to college ...
A. 29 November 2010: i'm going to draw on my own experiences here and tell you not to do it, well for now anyway. I dropped out of college to move in with my boyfriend of 4 years, left everything i was working towards because i was unhappy in my situation and th... (read in full...)
Should I let ex know where I'm going?
Q. Well my ex and I just recently broken up and I've decided that I need to go NC. She's already in a new relationship with somebody else and it's only been a week. Hearing this news has been very tough. But I realize that going NC is the best solution ...
A. 29 November 2010: i totally agree with Caring Guy, maybe you think that there is a chance she will tell you not to go? If she has moved on, then i wouldn't even wish her luck and just get on with my own life.
If you feel the need to disappear then do so, only you... (read in full...)
When is verbal abuse too much verbal abuse?
Q. I have a lot to ask, but it all leads up to, "When has the verbal abuse gone "too" far? My husband and I have been together for 8 years, we just recently got married this year. 8/2010. We are both mid 30's, and we each have 2 children. This is his ...
A. 29 November 2010: have you spoken to your husband about your past experiences?? If not he maybe thinks that your turning him down because you don't want him when really there are more unlying problems that make you not want ot have sex. Communication is one of the ... (read in full...)
Will my ex come back to me in the future?
Q. Here's my situation, about three months ago, after my last visit to my girlfriend, we were having problems. She would say to me that she was "confused" and not sure if this was the direction that she wanted to take in life, which basically meant ...
A. 29 November 2010: maybe she has been feeling like this for a while but just didnt have the heart to tell you. If she has moved on then i think maybe it's time you did too. Maybe she found the distance thing hard, it is not for everyone. I don't know her reasons but ... (read in full...)
No love for a 22 year old virgin
Q. Well, basically I'm 22 turning 23 in February and I'm still a virgin and some times it makes me sick to my stomach to think about it, to make it worse my reserve unit is leaving for the middle east soon, so that pretty much means I can count not ...
A. 29 November 2010: why are you in such a rush to lose you virginity, would it be better to lose it to someone who means something to you, that you care about or to someone who bascially is only after you for one thing and will use and abuse you?? It's ok saying that ... (read in full...)
Do women always find out when they're cheated on?
Q. I used to be a pretty positive person but within this past year i've become increasingly negative with regards to relationships and guys. I think the thing that really pushed me over the edge was a guy i liked, who knew i liked him, asked if we...
A. 29 November 2010: no women do not always know their man is cheating on them unless they are constantly watching him 24/7, and in the real world that doesn't happen. Many women chose to be with a guy even though he has a reputation, because sometimes they think that ... (read in full...)
He hasn't wanted sex for two days, what's wrong?
Q. i havent had sex with my boyfriend in 2 days and he doesnt seem intreseted usually hes all over me so i feel like im failing:( i dont no what to do now help !...
A. 4 March 2010: maybe he is just genuinely tired or stressed and doesn't feel like it.. Give him a few days and if he doesn't resort back to his orginal self, try it on with him yourself and make the first move.. ... (read in full...)
I am new to sex and troubled by his requests
Q. Hi Guys, I have been going out with my boyfriend for a couple of months, and we decided to have sex recently. I was a virgin until then, but completely happy to give myself to him. The only problem is, I guess I'm still a little nervous or shy. ...
A. 4 March 2010: Everyone is quite shy when they are first introduced to sex and it is totally normal. If you don't feel up to it just simply say no and ask him to try it a way in which you are comfortable with. The more experience of it you get the more comfortable ... (read in full...)
I think she is cheating while I am at work
Q. Hi , I have been engaged to my girlfriend for 8 months and am getting married next year. I work in a job which means 3 nights a week i have to work overnight and my fiancee still lives with our parents although we are moving into our first house ...
A. 4 March 2010: well youneed to confront her and tell her about reading her phone. She may accuse you of envading her privacy but to be honest you needed to and it sounds as though your suspicions were right. You are about to marry this woman and she may be ... (read in full...)
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