Am I wasting my time with this mixed feelings girl!!
Q. i have a girl who alwalys has mixed feelings am i wasting my time and move to another girl...
A. 19 June 2006: Can we have some more info on here please? Like how long have you known her, what signifies she is interested/not interested? If you like her, just ask her out, maybe she is just shy. Women are hard to read sometimes. I know I am, I'm rubbish at ... (read in full...)
Promised God that I wouldn't have sex again, but I can't empty my mind of thoughts about it!
Q. Recently I made a pledge with God to not have sex again because I had sex with my ex-boyfriend which was a really awful mistake because I wasn't able to deal with the emotional consequences of losing my virginity to someone who really wasn't a good ...
A. 19 June 2006: Doesn't matter if anyone has a degree in anything. it's the heart that counts. My heart is with Jesus, in fact my faith has just grown 100 times fold after reading all these postings on here! I love God so much ha ha ha!! I feel soooo happy.
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Promised God that I wouldn't have sex again, but I can't empty my mind of thoughts about it!
Q. Recently I made a pledge with God to not have sex again because I had sex with my ex-boyfriend which was a really awful mistake because I wasn't able to deal with the emotional consequences of losing my virginity to someone who really wasn't a good ...
A. 16 June 2006: Re harshbutfairs comment. I am sorry you feel that way, I'm sure you may or may not have helped Miss anon here. I'm saddend by how you feel but God bless you anyway! And anyone else who wants to condemn the christian faith, I know you all are not ... (read in full...)
I'm married and attracted to someone else, even though I know it's wrong!
Q. Falling In Love With Someone I Should Not I am married and have a child. I love both of them. I am a Christian and know what is right and wrong. I know that having an affair would only hurt everyone involved, but... I can not stop thinking a...
A. 16 June 2006: Having an affair would hurt God. You know it's not right, I don't know what your relationship is like with God but it doesn't sound like a particularly close one. Is your husband a christian too? You need to work on your reltionship both with ... (read in full...)
Promised God that I wouldn't have sex again, but I can't empty my mind of thoughts about it!
Q. Recently I made a pledge with God to not have sex again because I had sex with my ex-boyfriend which was a really awful mistake because I wasn't able to deal with the emotional consequences of losing my virginity to someone who really wasn't a good ...
A. 16 June 2006: (I hope all of this will be shown, please do not edit any of this out as this girl needs to hear this.)
I am also a christian and the emotional consequences of being intimate with someone who you may not spend the rest of your life with are huge... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married man... ! (still)
Q. Iam still in love with this married man I lie awake everytime and imagine what it would be like if we came together heis good looking and has nice eyes and everything I feel shy when I see him but I really like him alot I deerpately would lkike to ...
A. 14 June 2006: Uh hummm um well does the meaning of marriage mean anything to anyone these days? Wake up girl and accept he is married, you can't have him he is married til death us do part and all that.
I'm guessing you don't really know yourself what the... (read in full...)
Found my fiancee's porn collection... I believe it's a form of cheating!
Q. i hate the thought of my fiancee getting off on porn. i have found a collection of it on his computer and was nearly phsically sick. I know this is as people say normal. but it wasent normal 100 yrs ago when marraiges actually servived. When other ...
A. 14 June 2006: Its sin sin sin sin sin sin sin no wonder relationships break up as much as they do, to lust after someone (whether real or not) with the eye, you have commited adultery in the heart.
Obviously these people are real (unless they are cartoon ... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex, period was very light, could I still be pregnant?
Q. I had unprotected sex, I got my period but it was very light compared to normal, even though I got my period could I still be pregnant??...
A. 14 June 2006: Its the year 2006 why the f##k would you have unprotected sex in the first place? You could still have periods when pregnant, you could have more to worry about if you have had unprotected sex like STD's........ (read in full...)
How do I stop this embarrasing situation from happening?
Q. This is really embarrasing but something has to be done. My boyfreind suggested that he do me up the bum, so I thought, why not! We used a condom. When my boyfriend took his penis out it had my poo on it. I was really embarrased but my boyfriend ...
A. 13 June 2006: That's why the bum is not meant for f####g!! It is for excreting body waste, it wasn't made for sex!!... (read in full...)
Is it bad to just have fun for right now, or will I get hurt in the end?
Q. Is it ok to just have fun? I met this gorgeous guy a few weeks ago didn't think I'd have a chance with him but we talked then snogged and have now begun a very casual physical relationship. Both of us have come out of long term relationships a few ...
A. 12 June 2006: Are you happy? Enjoying yourself? Feel good about yourself? Sounds like you are, just enjoy for the short time. Sounds like it is a stepping stone for you to get away form the hurt of your previous relationship. But this won't last, you know ... (read in full...)
I have some bizarre fetishes-does that mean something is wrong with me?
Q. is it weird to have a fetish for people with no legs? i mean its like sooooo sexy and i get horny just thinking about it. is there something wrong with me? i always have these weird dreams about people like that and i always get wet dreams. i also ...
A. 12 June 2006: You need help...... (read in full...)
Why does she still want to be in touch with me if he's the one??
Q. I like this girl and we have been friendly for about 5 months now, and the other month she told me she had a bf but she still wanted to keep in touch with me because she said she would miss me loads. I dont understand why she still wants to keep ...
A. 12 June 2006: I agree wih sibaan. Yep she is playing with both of you. She can't make up her mind, I reckon you are best to create a bit of distance away from her. If she is like this now and she has a bf, well, even if you two got together and she dumped her ... (read in full...)
Are we underage to have sex?
Q. hi, i need help to find out if my boy friend and i are illegal. my boy friend is 17 and i'm only 15. we've been dating since last september it will be exactly 10 months this year. he doesn't turn-18 until next march 9th and i wont turn 16 until may ...
A. 12 June 2006: Hope you are taking precautions....yea depends on where you are. If you are in UK - age is over 16..... (read in full...)
I slept with a man I like from work, help!
Q. there is a guy i work with we have been flirting and emailing all day long.i bumped into him on a night out and we ended up sleeping together and had an amazing night.i really like the guy but i feel that now he doesnt want anything more to do with ...
A. 12 June 2006: What do you expect after jumping into bed with him so bloody fast? He probably just though you were in for a quick one and especially after you been out that night DRINKNIG, no wonder he is not interested, if you can easily jump into bed with ... (read in full...)
My crush is moving away for a while - is she worth pursuing?
Q. Hi. I've got a bit of a problem. I have admired a girl for sometime and would love to ask her out. I haven't plucked up the courage so far, I was going to today but the only trouble is I found out today she is moving away for the summer. Chances ...
A. 9 June 2006: Better to have loved and lost then to have not loved at all!! So in my opinion I reckon you should see if she would like to meet up for a leaving drink or something before she goes, she may be waiting for you to make a move, hopefully she feels the ... (read in full...)
I never told her I was really serious, should I have done, is that why she cooled off ?
Q. OK..perhaps one for the ladies to clear for me: I used to work in the next office to a girl I barely knew but really fancied. We used to flirt a lot, then her company moved. By chance I met her again and asked her to meet for a drink, we had a ...
A. 8 June 2006: After only 6 dates, you really don't know each other well. But it does allow enough time to give you both a desire to know each other more.
It sounds like although she fancied you to start with, (usually first attraction based on looks etc) she... (read in full...)
BF says I only look good wearing make-up & mini-skirts!
Q. I would really like if someone could help me because I'm hurting really bad. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. He is 4 years younger than me and when we first started going out he was doing all the running. Lately he is always ...
A. 8 June 2006: How much effort do you make over your appearence? It is obvious to men if you don't make any effort with you appearence. He is probably trying to help by suggesting that you need to make a little more time with your apperence. It's nice to put on ... (read in full...)
No help with the kids, he drinks and smokes and he's moody... No wonder I don't feel like sex!
Q. I have 2 children ages 2 and 8. Why can't a man understand that the sex is not going to be the same after having children? I have had the long sulks, constant aruguments yet not much help with the kids, which would be a great help. But I am usually ...
A. 8 June 2006: You just don't feel sexy any more! And it's no wonder when your husband comes home with beer on his breath and you spending the day tearing your hair out with the children!! Some men feel they don't need to do anything any more to make a women ... (read in full...)
Am I an alien or is it the alcohol?
Q. I keep having a recurring dream. I'm an alien, I recently landed in this country and have found everything to be so different from home. There is something called grass in places thats green (weird or what) and there's all this crazy stuff ever...
A. 6 June 2006: Yeah right...F###G FREAK...get off this site and pester others who don't need help like people on here do. You waste of space, sounds like your on drugs ... or was... that's why your on the meth eh? Get lost... ... (read in full...)
He was totally fab, but I think ive pushed him away by overstepping the mark, I know I'm an idiot, but what can I do about it ?
Q. What i want to know is do you think i have truely messed up everything that was great? I have been dating his wonderful person for 3 months and have just done the most stupid thing i can think of - i decided to tell him how he's feeling and not in ...
A. 2 June 2006: We women really are crazy huh?!! Bet he is wondering what to do himself as well. Actions speak louder then words, I reckon you should just turn up where he lives and have a sign stuck to your head 'idiot', and declare how much you really like him. ... (read in full...)
Can people really change ? Is it worth the risk giving him a second chance ?
Q. Do you believe in second chances...? I was with my boyfriend who I loved very much for about a year and half...I found out by chance that he'd slept with someone behind my back. Whilst finding this out it also came to light that he'd been contac...
A. 2 June 2006: Oooh tricky one this. A lot of trust was broken when you were last together. Maybe he has grown up a little in the last year and realised he made a mistake. One thing to bear in mind though is if you do go back with him, you'll have to completely ... (read in full...)
Can people really change ? Is it worth the risk giving him a second chance ?
Q. Do you believe in second chances...? I was with my boyfriend who I loved very much for about a year and half...I found out by chance that he'd slept with someone behind my back. Whilst finding this out it also came to light that he'd been contac...
A. 2 June 2006: Oooh tricky one this. A lot of trust was broken when you were last together. Maybe he has grown up a little in the last year and realised he made a mistake. One thing to bear in mind though is if you do go back with him, you'll have to completely ... (read in full...)
It was too much work to stay together, but I want him back!
Q. My ex and I went out for almost a year and a half. For the first year or so everything was great, but the last few months were awful, we argued all the time and rarely got on well. Because I started uni about 9 months into our relationship I ...
A. 2 June 2006: I agree with smeedle on this one. Too much work...for a girlfriend?!! Sorry but he sounds pathetic and immature. What an idiotic thing to say!! Sounds like a poor escuse for breaking it up. You are best off without him, don't stay friends with ... (read in full...)
How do I start the conversation flowing??
Q. i want to talk to this girl but don't know how to start the conversation what should i do? ...
A. 2 June 2006: You haven't given us a lot of info to go on here. How well do you know her? How long have you liked her and do you know if she is single? So I would like to give advice but it is difficult to on the LTD info you have given...... (read in full...)
Should I follow my dream man overseas?
Q. Hey, i have already posted a few times about my boyfriend going on a working holiday overseas and not being sure if he wants me to joining yet. Well, the time finally came and I said goodbye to him at the airport the other day- it was so sad, and i ...
A. 2 June 2006: It's better not to REGRET full stop!! Anyway, of course it's good to take risks, but don't be disillusioned in thinking it will be all a bed of roses. Love rarely is, it has it's good days and bad too, are you both strong enough as a couple to be ... (read in full...)
Scared of dating - what should I do?
Q. After breaking up with my partner of several years about a year ago I am now dating different people which is what I would tell a friend to do in the same situation. I am just hoping to get out and have some fun at this point in time and I am happy...
A. 2 June 2006: Why did you feel you needed to date before you were ready to? Sounds to me you should have spent a bit of 'me' time. Go out and treat yourself, DATE YOURSELF!!! Only you can gain the confidence you need again.
It's not good to rely and depe... (read in full...)
Should I follow my dream man overseas?
Q. Hey, i have already posted a few times about my boyfriend going on a working holiday overseas and not being sure if he wants me to joining yet. Well, the time finally came and I said goodbye to him at the airport the other day- it was so sad, and i ...
A. 2 June 2006: If you want to give up on your friends and family here for a bloke, fine, I'm sure you can stay in touch with them.
Question your motives as to why you want to be moving to a country that you don't know and know no one except your boyfrien... (read in full...)
Does all this stuff I found on the internet, mean that he will cheat or has already cheated on me ?
Q. I been with my boyfriend for 2years and i have discovered some devastating things about him. Sometimes I wonder does he love me, he says he does but his actions say otherwise. Here is the problem the first incident is when i found a sex webs...
A. 1 June 2006: He has already cheated on you in his heart for sending and recieving flirty messages. This guy wants the stability of a relationship with regualr sex, but wants a bit of fun on the side. Even if he is not having physical reltions with anyone else, ... (read in full...)
She already has a boyfriend, is it right to try and steal her away ?
Q. Hello There is this girl I think about heaps and heaps and I would really want to be with but she has a boyfriend. I think she used to like me but he got to her first...... Is it right to try and get her to like me again and in a sense "steal" he...
A. 1 June 2006: She is WITH someone now, can't have something that belongs to someone else.... (read in full...)
I've never been in love with him, I have affairs for fulfilment, he wont hear of divorce, what do I do ?
Q. I have been married for the past 7years. But never been in love with him in the real sense. I just cant stand his way of making love. I have been having a couple of affairs for the past 4years. Even if I dont orgasm I love their ways of kissing and ...
A. 31 May 2006: I don't beleive in staying with someone for the sake of the child...what utter crap!! It creates a very tense and unhappy environment, children pick this up really easily. He can't force you to stay.
You have to leave him, he obviousl... (read in full...)
Met on the net and never met in person, but he wants to marry me, within the next 2 months! What should I do?
Q. I met my boyfriend on the internet. He lives in India, and I live in the U.S. We have never met, but have communicated for 15 months, and we fell in love. He has been pressuring me relentlessly to marry him, almost from the beginning. It is NOT that ...
A. 31 May 2006: Re: Your note...Well if you gave us the right info in the first place we could have given you the right advice dear eh?? Anyway still sticking to what I said below re: spending time with someone to LOVE them. ... (read in full...)
Met on the net and never met in person, but he wants to marry me, within the next 2 months! What should I do?
Q. I met my boyfriend on the internet. He lives in India, and I live in the U.S. We have never met, but have communicated for 15 months, and we fell in love. He has been pressuring me relentlessly to marry him, almost from the beginning. It is NOT that ...
A. 31 May 2006: DREAAAAMMMM world...WAKE UP and smell the coffee...I agree totally with martini. Yep he wants a free ride to the states...of course he does. How can you fall in love with someone who you've never met? I mean, you might THINK you love him...but in ... (read in full...)
She already has a boyfriend, is it right to try and steal her away ?
Q. Hello There is this girl I think about heaps and heaps and I would really want to be with but she has a boyfriend. I think she used to like me but he got to her first...... Is it right to try and get her to like me again and in a sense "steal" he...
A. 31 May 2006: Well sounds like you were a bit slow on the uptake and now someone has got there before you. Let it go, there is nothing worse then a bloke going after someone who is already attached. Sorry mate you had your chance when she was single. Don't ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but there is another guy I like too
Q. have been with my boyfriend for just over two years and while we have had our ups and downs things are good between us. the problem is over the last month i have been chatting to another guy and have starting to get feeling for him too. i know ...
A. 30 May 2006: Neither! If you really loved your boyfriend you wouldn't be in the right mind emotionally to have feelings for someone else. Your b/f deserves better. Best to let your b/f down gently, but don't think you can run into the arms of this new bloke ... (read in full...)
I forgot to get his phone number, what can I do?
Q. heya i reasently went on holiday (camping)wiv my family and i met this boy there and i fancy him a lot and he told me he fancies me a lot. but we forgot to get eachothers mobile numbers! he really really likes me and so do i and i know he will be ...
A. 30 May 2006: How do you get his number then if you don't know where he lives? Did you not talk about where each of you came from? Do you even know his name eh?!! Maybe if you know his surname you could go through the phone book...but it could be a waste of ... (read in full...)
What should my boyfriends priority be? Work or me?
Q. is it reasonable to expect to be my bf's #1 priority (or at least up there after his parents/siblings)? during a "discussion" i said that i felt like i was last on his list of priorities, i said it in the middle of the sentence and he addresse...
A. 18 May 2006: Well he has to earn a living doesn't he?! So in a way that could be deemed more important then you. In my personal opinion...everything has to have a balance.
If he's choosing to do overtime at work to save up money for necessary things..... (read in full...)
8 month relationship.. seem to be the one doing all the work... time to end it?
Q. i dont know whether I should dump my bf or try again. my problem is that although we live just 10 mins apart and both have mon-fri 9-5 jobs we never see each other, usually just once during the week and fri and sat night. at the beginning it did...
A. 18 May 2006: The fact that he was upset about you being upset, shows at least he cares. Don't rush into a decision. I don't think you should end it. It sounds like he has had some genuine reasons for being pre-occupied. It was made worse probably for the ... (read in full...)
It ended with a good night hug, what is the next step in dating?
Q. Is there a dating protocol? I must have been sick the one day they taught that in school because I find myself lost without a road map. What to do? I lean in close when she talks. I let my arm flank the side of the table over towards her. My...
A. 18 May 2006: How long have you known her? If you have already been on a fair few dates then maybe it is the time to take the next step.... a kiss!! You have shown her subtle signs that you like her, don't worry women pick up on the smallest thing, she KNOWS ... (read in full...)
She's finally leaving her husband, but there's a friend of hers I'm worried about.....
Q. My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for four months now. It's a very complicated situation and I am trying to make sense of it and to be sure that I am on the right path with her. We are both in our 30s and have had some experience ...
A. 17 May 2006: No, it's natural to feel concerned that she has been seeing a guy which she should know fancies her!! Maybe she was testing the water with this guy to see how she felt about him. But now after going out with him a couple of times she has decided ... (read in full...)
He masterbates over Adolf Hitler!!! What can I do???
Q. Apologies for the length of this but I need to get it off my chest. I'm 25 and have been with my boyfriend who's 29 for 4 years now. Recently he's become addicted to looking at websites on Adolf Hitler on the Internet; even masturbating ove...
A. 17 May 2006: That is weird!! Wow...no wonder you are worried. It sounds to me as if he is idolising Adolph as a figure to look up to, probably certain aspects of Adolphs character that he craves or wishes he was like?
What got him looking at websites... (read in full...)
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