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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How will I ever find a nice guy to date with all this crap that people are led to believe from advertising?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Sorry if this seems like a rant, but honestly, I'm just so upset/angry. I'm not exactly the biggest fan of men, just because I'm friends with men, so I hear all of the "Oh, my girlfriend is hot.. OMG that girl over there would so get it!" constantly. Like is it impossible to... (353 words)

I'm going away for 2 weeks and we went on one date. Will he forget me in that time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi im on an exchange in germany at the moment but just before I left me and this guy ive liked for weeks went on a date it went really well so the day I was leaving we met up. That went really well and we kissed and he was on about meeting my family and me his and stuff (im not ... (200 words)

We are fighting over our on and off sex drive

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend and I have gotten in alot of fights over sex. We used to do something every night but now its maybe once or twice? She wouldn't be turned on and I wouldn't be turned on as well. We got in a fight once a really bad fight. She told me that she doesn't know if I turn ... (133 words)

I don't want to be a fool for taking my ex back but I don't want to abandon him either! I don't know what to do

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex and I split from 3 years together because I found out he cheated on me over a year ago (several times) and has been inappropriately messaging other girls ever since. We've been talking since we split, and even hoped to be able to patch things up once he gets over his ... (710 words)

Is five months too soon to move in with my boyfriend?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been seeing my boyfriend for five months and we're thinking of moving in together. I spend about three or four nights a week with him anyway and we were on holidays together for over a week and got on great! I've known him for about ten months in total. It's not entirely... (191 words)

Is it worth staying in a relationship when its difficult to get along?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4296 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been going out with my boyfriend for a solid 9 months. He is older than me. I am 18 and he is 27. HE is an illegal immigrant and he has a 1 year old daughter with his ex. I found out about his daughter and literatly unbalanced ex 2 months into the relationship. He is ... (229 words)

Jealousy and Obsession about Girlfriend Sexual Past with HER male best friend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4256 days ago

11 February 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello. I'm 30 years old and I have a girlfriend (she's 29). We started dating about 11 months now. I already knew her but I had never talked to her until we started and felt in love and start a relationship. I love her deeply like never before (and I had 4 girlfriends and a lo... (550 words)

I'm getting mixed signals from ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - So, me and this girl broke up about 9 months ago. I've met and dated other people, lived my life in the meantime. Yet I can't get over her, my mind keeps going back. We still meet every now and again and get along great. People who don't know that we used to date think ... (300 words)

Are there income disparities in your relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age - I moved to another state to be with my fiance after he asked me to move in with him. I sold my house and moved away from all my friends to a small rural town. I am from a big city. I got laid off, lost my husband--all life changing events. He runs a company and make... (404 words)

What am I doing wrong? Am I the only 18 year old who has never been kissed?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4296 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I am 18 and i have never had a stable boyfriend. i am really nice and fairly pretty. Im a little over weight (170lbs) andd i feel like that holds me back a bit. I have had a lot of guys interested in me over the years but they are creepy and no one else wants to date them. I ... (113 words)

Is love enough? Will we hurt our families too much if we try to be together?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband was a pastor, had 1 emotional affair another affair that was physical, I also had some affairs as well. He's wanting to make the marriage work, but I'm not. I met a man and he's in a bad marriage as well, we both have older children, but don't want to hurt our kids ... (134 words)

I honestly can't envision a future where its not me carrying the bulk of the load. What do you advise I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I've been in this relationship for about a year. We were together for like two months, before I broke it off, and then maybe half a year passed before we got back together, which is where we are now. Its not all bad things that I have to say about her. I think we agree i... (688 words)

Am I overreacting about his annoying habit of 'liking' his female Facebook friends' photos?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been going out with my boyfriend for a few months now but we've known each other for years and everything is great except there is one small thing that's annoying me... He likes a lot of his female Facebook friend's photos. They vary in content, some are just normal smil... (214 words)

I can't stand his personal hygiene! Am I shallow?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I have this great friend and we have gotten really close this year. I feel like our friendship is effortless and we could work as a couple but there are a few issues. I feel so shallow saying this but i can't stand the smell of his breath. I have givenhm gum and hinted at the ... (132 words)

I've never been with a girl before and now don't know how to proceed with her? She's stopped replying to my messages.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4298 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey everyone! I'm in need of some advice, thanks for your help in advance! I've been messaging with a girl for a few months now. I've actually never been with a girl before, but for some reason she and I seemed to connect from the very first second, and I decided to act u... (412 words)

I have a phobia of being left behind or abandoned. Nothing I've tried is helping, and I'm afraid it is going to tear my relationship apart.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I have a phobia of being left behind or abandoned, and it immensely effects many of my relationship. My current girlfriend, was originally my best friend for three years and on the fourth year she asked me out. When she goes out with her family, friends, and believe or not ... (119 words)

I have a crush on my writing teacher, and am confused as to whether this is something I should even be thinking about.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I feel dumb asking this or even telling anyone but i have developed quite the crush on my writing teacher. I am 18 and he is 24. So the age difference is not totally out of realm. I am going to college next year to become an English teacher, just like him. Even better he is ... (220 words)

I've been so lonely and insecure after breaking up with my girlfriend.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - After a year, my break up , i couldn't find anyone to be with. I'm alone , 27 . and i showed my intention to girls but there is no respond. my big problem is i have no company to go with friends. because i'm working hard on my thesis , and always on work or busy. complicat... (81 words)

Stress has caused us to fight a lot lately, and the last one, he got a little violent. I don't know what to do.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4212 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - So here is the thing. We have been in a great relationship for almost 3 years. I love him with all my heart and he is the type of guy who brings me flowers for nothing in particular. We moved in together about 7 months ago and things have been going fine until a couple of weeks ... (446 words)

Our dates went well, he was interested in seeing me, and now he's been ignoring me for 2 weeks?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - To cut things short, I was dating this guy I met at my uni.. We weren't seeing each other for long, we met, he got my number, we spoke on whatsapp for a week or so and then decided to meet up. We saw each other three times. We went out to dinner, then he came to my house once... (438 words)

Afraid she didn't enjoy her first time -- how can I be better?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - How To Sexually Connect with my girlfriend? Hey everyone, I've been going out with my girlfriend for 4 months now, and recently she's started hinting that she might want to have sex. She is a virgin. However, I've never had sex with a virgin before, till last night an... (124 words)

My ex and I were thinking of getting back together -- until he learned that I slept with his friend during the break

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I broke up around half a year ago, but recently we've been getting close again and are thinking of getting back together. We've matured a lot since we broke up and I'm very happy with the relationship now. However, during the period when we had broken up, I... (241 words)

What can I do about my grandma showing up at our house all the time?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm living with my father, because of my parents recent divorce (I'm ok with it, I could see it coming for a loooong time). My dad and I were alone, we needed to learn how to do the stuff my mom usually did - making soup, for example. So we kindly asked my grandma (on my m... (453 words)

Should I send Valentines cards to the 2 girls that I like?

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 4264 days ago

11 February 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I am becoming more confident in asking girls out, but I'm not sure about these, so I need some advice: The girl who does my massage has a great personality and is very sexy. I have had feelings for her for a while now, and when I go and see her we always have a giggle an... (121 words)

How can I be more patient waiting for him to propose? Why is he taking so long to take the next step?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my SO for 4 years. I am in my mid 20s and am fully ready to start a family. My SO is almost 30 and says he wants he same thing. I genuinely believe him, but he's been saying this for the past three years, and I cannot help but question why he's taking so long ... (683 words)

Will my wife get mad if I put up some erotica pictures in my office?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (M)

age - I'm a big fan of vintage erotica and while my wife appreciates the beauty of photographs, I don't know if she is as big a fan as I am. Anyway, I just purchased a bunch of old photographs from Penthouse magazine creator Bob Guccione's collection at GuccioneCollecti... (131 words)

Should I be jealous or get used to the relationship that my B/f has with his ex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello everyone, I am with my bf about 18 months, I really love him and I can see he loves me,we plan living together etc..Everything would be ok, if he wasn´t still friends with his ex..I mean very good friends. They´ve been in one group of friends for a long time and even whe... (250 words)

Am I cheating myself under this "settling" thing?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - After more daydreaming and thinking about my future, I am wondering if "settling" would be considered a negative thing at this point. I have wanted a relationship for over 10 years now, but it hasn't happened despite my efforts. The basic background: I am a 28 year old guy who ... (339 words)

Tormented by jealous thoughts - please help

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm really struggling to deal with my paranoid and jealous thoughts at the moment. I've been with my partner for over 3 years now and we got engaged in November, but for some reason I just can't stop thinking that he is cheating on me or up to no good with other girls at ... (332 words)

I'm torn.. my heart wants this baby, but my mind says to get an abortion

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been through a lot of stress and heartache, shame as well as guilt, and more. I will try to make this as short as I can. I'm 23 years old and I have a 2 year old daughter. I got married when I was 21 and I was with him for 6 years..right now were going through a divorce ... (275 words)

Do you think he loves me, or do these signs suggest he is sleeping with his ex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - My boyfriend asked me out wen I was 14..we have been dating for 4 yrs now although he is 12years older than I am and I lost my virginity to him.I love him but in our first year of dating I found out his supposed ex gf was pregnant for him..I was too attached and continued the ... (186 words)

I cant stop thinking about my teacher! What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4291 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I am a teenage girl of eighteen years old.Few days back i met my new teacher who is really young and charming and his age is near to 23/24 years. i am just going mad about him, i dont know what to do i am just thinking of him all day and night. i cant sleep properly and even in ... (106 words)

I'm starting to think I have more feelings for my girlfriends daughter than for my girlfriend!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - I am a 26 yr old man currently dating a 43 yr old that has a 18 yr old daughter and 2 younger boys I am finding a hard time not becoming attracted to her now she is of age me and her mom have been together for a few years now what should I do I am starting to think I have more ... (111 words)

My son is confused about his sexuality, how do I help him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I have a 25-year-old son with Asperger's Syndrome; he is employed as a car valet at a local garage and does well at it (he used to obsess about cleaning the car when young, and now does it for a living, within what's legal on our benefit rules). However, the one thing he fin... (548 words)

Am I deluding myself or could this just be a phase?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I watch shemale porn and I have to say that I do enjoy it. I first found out that I liked it when I first discovered it in comics when I was a teen. At first, I found it wierd and beyond the norm'. But over time I found that it was something that I grew fascinated by. I also ... (328 words)

Does anal get better with practice?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok so I have an embarrasing question to ask.It's about anal sex,My boyfreind is really into it and the other day he suggested it,I said sure..it only hurt for like a second when he pushed in.The feeling to me is exactly like i'm in the middle of "going" if you know what i ... (163 words)

Should I postpone our wedding? Things are so tense at the moment with his kids and I don't want to move into that kind of environment....

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi there. I'm engaged, my boyfriend is a bit older with sons of 14 and 12 who live with their mom and visit at weekends. Everything was fine over past 2 years, but recently he has huge rows with kids, I guess their age etc. Things get so tense it's impossible to miss nobody ... (175 words)

If we get together it will be a LDR, she is worried about our age gap and she already has a FWB....should I leave now before I invest any feelings into someone I have no chance with?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Hey! I am 27 year old male with college degree and stable job. I am financially stable and have established lifestyle. I met a 20 year old girl on facebook and have been talking on the phone and through text. She is from Texas and I am from Kentucky. I have nothing holding me ... (223 words)

Was this just harmless flirting with my friend's sister, or is there something more?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - So I’ve never had the issue of being attracted to good friends little sisters until this weekend. She is 24, about as tall as me, she is really cool in all senses, and amazingly beautiful. It was my good friend for work, at his birthday party at his house. I went hoping... (784 words)

Is my boyfriend trying to punish me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I was with my exboyfriend around 10 months. In this time we broke up 3 times. Firstly he broke up with me after 4 months because I couldn't go to the cinema (i have a one year old and my parents couldn't baby sit) but I could on the thursday but he just broke it off. This ... (790 words)

Am I in the wrong? A friend had feelings for him. But he wasn't interested. Months later I went out with him. Now everyone is mad at me.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 22 and in my final year of university. I have been living with the same group of girls since first year, and one of them had a crush on a guy who lived in our halls when she first met him. He didn't return her feelings, which she knew. However, for the last 18 months, ... (317 words)

He does not want to talk about the things bothering me in our marriage. Should he be willing to talk? Or do I over-analyse too much?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - modnote: earlier question -posted August 13 2012 http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-have-just-learned-my-husband-fathered-another.html Further to my question dated 13/8/2012, the tests reveal it is his child. This woman made my life a living hell the past couple of months... (420 words)

Can you help, please? I don't know how to ask my friend to the dance !

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - dear cupid, i have a friend who i havent talked to in a while... It's not because things got weird or something, its just that we dont have classes together anymore and i hardly see him! I really want to ask him to a particular dance next month, and i want to do it in a s... (112 words)

Why is my husband acting like a tease? He comes on to me, gets me interested. Then he changes his mind? Why? It's frustrating.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Recently my husband has been doing this thing where several times through out the day he gets me really excited. He will touch me in just the right places or whisper naughty things in my ear, and i love it. But just when i think it is or want it to lead to sex, he changes ... (139 words)

My crushes are always on girls and I like dating girls. So why do I like gay porn? Does that mean something?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4297 days ago

11 February 2013 (M)

age 22-25 - I'm thirteen but I am a late bloomer so I only just started puberty. My problem is when I masturbate I have mainly gay fantasies or videos playing. That is not always but my favorites are 2 guys 1 girl. I know that should mean I'm gay but when it comes to real life I only have... (171 words)

How can I move on now? I am still as miserable the day I discovered his cheating.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4301 days ago

11 February 2013 (F) age 51-59 - I have gone though hell! Ater 23 years of marriage I found out my husband was secretly meeting a younger woman who was previously a lesbian for walks and hitting on her a year and a half later I feel like I've had no closure and am as miserable as when I first caught the... (58 words)

Did cancelling once mean I missed my chance?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been texting back and forth with this guy for ages and he hasn't asked me out more than one time, which I had to reschedule and eventually cancel at extremely short notice when my sat nav wasn't finding our meeting place. I probably should have re-rescheduled instead of ... (104 words)

Is it healthy to be turned on by a girl because she did porn or sleeps with men for money?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4299 days ago

11 February 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - hi, i was talking to a friend of mine and he was saying how he was interested in this girl, and said that she once performed in a few adult videos and still does some escort work. Its a little beyond my stuff I'm used to so i was pretty surprised. I said to him, doesnt that... (309 words)

Are my own actions becoming part of the problem in our relationship? I don't want to lose him. What should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age - I have so many trust issue, that it is going into my relationship with the person I am in love with. I really want to marry this man, but i find my self pushing him away from me. I have been hurt so much in my life and i have hurt him. i think he is at his last end. I need... (167 words)

I lost my virginity to him, but now it seems he's ready to move on. Do you think he is breaking up with me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4300 days ago

11 February 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - My boyfriend and dated for two and half months. I loved him and thought he loved me and I lost my virginity to him the second month and three weeks later he sends me a message saying he hasn't been feeling hisself lately and that he is overwhelmed and that we need to take a ... (86 words)