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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

She said she knew I wasn't a Relationship Person and that I was not Emotionally Available. What does my Ex mean by this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

5 February 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I was seeing this girl for a while and last night we finally talked for the first time since we broke up. She said she always knew in the back of her mind that i wasn't a relationship person and we weren't going to be anything more than what it was because she knew i was emot... (113 words)

We have children. He smokes weed and drinks a lot. Will he ever change? All his money goes on his lifestyle and we struggle at the best of times

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4315 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I guess like a lot of girls do, I thought I could change my boyfriend. He smokes weed and drinks a lot. His friends are no good and he doesn't look after me or our children as he should. I don't work as my youngest is 3 weeks old, and my older child is only 17 months old. ... (289 words)

What do we have together? He will not confirm if we are in a relationship.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4325 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi cupids any chance of a little help?? Been seeing a guy for 5 months now, it’s been ok-ish. I've began to fall for him and I’m not sure I’m doing the right thing allowing myself to as he's so complicated. He’s got a lot going for him, he works very hard and I admire tha... (576 words)

How do I go about getting rid of my lazy unmotivated Bf? But how do I cope with his threats to harm himself if I do leave?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - In my last question I had asked what I should do about my lazy, unmotivated boyfriend. Well, I'm at the point where I think I'm almost at a decision. But now, I need help in a different way. No matter how loving and nice he is to me..I just don't think I can do this anym... (486 words)

I don't know if he wants me to get pregnant or not. But why is he so obsessed about me being pregnant, or not?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4334 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi I have a boyfriend for six months we have been sexually active most of it. I have done a few pregnancy tests but all negative that's fine because we talked and not one of us is ready for a baby.. I am using the injection for 6 months now...feel it's safer but now I am put... (180 words)

Can I see both? Or one or the other? What should I consider, and how can I decide?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I am 16,i have a b/f who i took as a brother and friend. Not as a lover I can't imagine him kissing me because the love i have for him is brotherly. Since then I have met another guy, and i realise i like him very much. But how do i see this other guy when i already have ... (83 words)

We hug, kiss and hold hands. What should I do when I hug her and then realize I have an erection to deal with?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (M)

age 26-29 - I am in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost 2 months now. She is a very sweet and simple girl. We have a had a lip lock, in fact a make out. But whenever I hug her or kiss her or even when we hold hands, I get an erection. I creates so much of problem while hu... (108 words)

We want to start with a STD check. So how do I ask the Doctor for this? what happens? We've also agreed to let each other see the paperwork.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4336 days ago

5 February 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend and I have decided to have sex for the first time. But before we do, she wants us to have a check-up from a doctor to make sure we're both OK. I completely agree with her and I respect her honesty. My question is, how do I go about with this check-up? Is it like ... (158 words)

She has started going on dating sites, in front of me. She tells me there is better than me out there. What should I do?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

5 February 2013 (M)

age 51-59 - I have lived with my girlfriend for 5 years. We have both decided against getting married and have no children (she doesnt want any). Everything has been steady and we have always got on. Over the past 6 months she has got into a twice weekly girls only night out set up. On... (201 words)

How should I resolve this situation? My husband's Rock music addiction is causing me problems and now even the neighbors are complaining.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - On here, you often hear about partners with gaming addictions, well, how's this for an addiction; rock music ?? I knew my husband liked music, of all types, had nothing against it, but now he's missing out on sex with me, work, time with friends, just to become a rock go... (379 words)

How can I help my Bf? He was sobbing uncontrollably after spending time with me. He admitted he has problems at home.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4336 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Last night my boyfriend came over to my house. We talked, ate dinner together, then watched a movie in my room, we did make-out once and then we fell asleep. When I woke up it was about midnight and he was sleeping with his arms around me and I noticed that there were traces o... (181 words)

At 26 is this too early to be already be noticing the signs of ageing? Why would this already be happening?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My looks have started changing noticeably and I'm only 26, I noticed at 25 they were going. I don't drink much and I don't smoke. I have noticed my jaw line has changed my eyes have gone littler and my skin has lost elasticity around them. My cheek bones look differen... (84 words)

I never told my crush how I feel, and now he's moving to another country. Help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi I'm a girl of 15.. I met a guy since the begining of last year. He is in my school bus but we are not in the same school. From the start I had not noticed about him, but after sometime he started to smile at me and so on.. and I really had a crush for him.. I can't stop ... (258 words)

Suspicious of my friend's request

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear cupid i know this sounds stupid but a good friend asked me to return some items to a store for store credit because she lost the receipt . I am starting to think she stole them . Would you take them back can i get into trouble?... (48 words)

What's a sweet way to ask a girl out on a date? And should I wait until Valentines day?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

5 February 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I been meeting this girl, I do like her and I know she likes me to. Any sweet ideas on asking her out? Nothing over the top, I want to keep it simple. Valentines day is also coming up, I'm not sure if a girl would like to be asked out before (about relationship not... (70 words)

He keeps reminding me that I gave my virginity to someone else who later ended up dumping me. What can I do to improve our relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - i have been in a relationship since 5 years.in between a guy came in who seemed more promising n committed proposed me.he seemed very serious.and i lost virginity to him.i was deeply infatuated with this 2nd guy and later i was dumped.the first guy supported and consoled me ... (125 words)

How to deal with being hurt in the past so it won't ruin my relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - I would like some serious advice on dealing with past trust issues. I've been in three major relationships. One of them ended because I broke up with her over her getting into some things I found unacceptable - drugs and self-destructive behavior. Really bad. The oth... (1382 words)

What can I do to make my parents be okay with this relationship? Or break up with him because they say he is no good for me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi Guys, So me and this guy are in a relationship since a month now. I really love him a lot and he says he loves me too. I'm pretty sure he's telling the truth. We have know each other a long time and it's amazing what is happening now. I admit he's not really like the "... (304 words)

How do I forget about her and move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - My question is how do I get over a hard love feeling ? I've been in love with her for period of 4 months but lately I discovered that she is in love with another man though she says she is still loving me at the same time she spend most of her time with that man. sometime she ... (112 words)

Is my wife having a mid-life crisis? Is she headed for cheating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - My wife seems to be becomming more and more of a party girl. We both did our fair share of partying, drinking, hooking-up, etc in Highschool and college (before we met). Then came the dog years of building careers and pregnancies. Now that we are emerging from those years, she ... (567 words)

Scared of raising a child alone and not giving him/her what they deserve...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Im 24 pregnant, one year left to finish my bachelor degree. The father and I are not together he is 27 and assured me that he will be here 100% with whatever I choose to do. Im scared because Im afraid of raising my child alone and not having that he or she deserves. We both ... (73 words)

I'm worried my boyfriend will soon start thinking I'm fat and stupid the same way that my ex did.....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - First of all I've been in a very happy relationship for over two years (on and off for 2 years previous to this), my boyfriend is great, he cares and he loves me, he knows I have bad self esteem issues and always tries to resolve them. In the past year I've put on a lot of ... (382 words)

He re-arranged my furniture because his kids wanted it that way! They were guests, surely they should have left it alone?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Please help. I have stayed over at boyfriends place before, when his two kids of 9 and 7 were visiting as well. (They live with their mum.) There were no real problems. He had some time off to look after them when they had a couple of days off school as well, and he said he ... (148 words)

Why do I care so much about girls noticing me? As soon as I stop caring a girl will notice me then I get too happy and go back to square one!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4335 days ago

5 February 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Whenever I'm at school I'm always hoping for a girl to see me and think "Hmmmm I wonder who that is" and just want to talk to me. I'm always hoping some girl will see me and think I'm cute (To be honest I'm average looking-to cute to some people). Then after a while of no girl ... (101 words)

My overweight family keep calling me fat!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My family keep caling me fat, My younger sister is at least a stone or two heavier than me (atleast 14lb heavier than me for those who aren't from the uk). My mum is overweight, my dad is overweight and yet all they ever do is call me names like fat and chubby. I've been tryi... (177 words)

Her boyfriend saw the message I sent to her telling her I missed her, and now she claims I've ruined her life! What can I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

5 February 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - So this girls boyfriend of 3 1/2 years dumped her last year and said he never wanted to speak to her again. We started seeing each other and hav been seeing each other constantly the last 10 months but it was never a relationship, always in between friends and lovers ... (369 words)

If you are friend with benefits, does it make the guy lose respect for you?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4320 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Does sleeping with friends work what i mean is when your friends with a guy and you start sleeping with him do you still have his respect. Or does he start to lose respect for you as if he would if you were a one night stand.? So if you have been in this situation can yo... (69 words)

Does low self-esteem lead to infidelity?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

5 February 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - Just trying to make sense of something that probably isn't easy to make sense of. I recently broke up with my longtime gf of nearly 6 years after catching her in an inappropriate text/email/Facebook "flirtation" and the subsequent lies she made in order to keep this guy in her ... (255 words)

I feel like the odd one out with a failed marriage and a child!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Currently separated-marriage wasn't good in general for multiple reasons. Know it's better that we aren't together, but I miss my family being together (we have a small child). I know it's not true, but it SEEMS like everyone is married and has their families intact.... (167 words)

Does he like me more than I first thought?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey. I'm confused. On a night out, a friend of mine told me he fancied me. We haven't known each other long but have spent quite some time together. I was shocked when he told me he liked me. I didn't know how to respond. He could see this and said "I'll wait for you". I'm not ... (110 words)

Should I keep my ex as a friend or not?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, my ex broke up with me last summer and we spent quite a while not speaking to each other! I really want to get over him now we speak as "friends but I still have feelings for him and feel very sensitive and jealous as we speak I realized he doesn't really care about me... (145 words)

We've just got back together but he's changed his Facebook to 'Seperated'!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - dear cupid, this may seem a trivial question but is really bugging me. Why would your partner who ive have 2 kids with and have recently in the past 6 mths gotten back in a relationship with change his relationship status on facebook to seperated? He has also became friends ... (190 words)

I'm not convinced the girl I'm dating feels the same way about me.....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Been seeing this girl for the last two months and even though we get along very well and I am quite fond of her, I'm not that convinced that she feels the same. She always tells me her troubles or drama going on in her life and I patiently listen as well as give her any advice ... (297 words)

He's awesome. But would never date a HIV positive woman. Should I break up with him, or tell him I'm HIV positive?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I am Hiv positive and have been positive for 10 years now I recently met this nice and awesome guy whom iv dated for 2 months now he always says he’s afraid of Hiv and he would never date a positive woman(he has never tested in his life) I don’t know if I should just end ... (68 words)

I know she likes me. But would her friend really have a big influence on her decisions?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I went on a date with this girl, who I have fancied for ages. It went really well, and we kissed for a good hour afterwards so was really good. we talk everyday and she is happy to meet again. She told her best friend and she is not happy this girl meeting me. Her best fri... (208 words)

Am I reading too much into the actions of my very nice boss?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok, basically I have a problem at work. From the moment I met my boss, I thought he was familiar and I couldn't place my finger on it, I still can’t. The thing is he's always stared at me, and made a point of talking to me. He made me feel I had to go to the Christmas par... (368 words)

Were we right to breakup? Should I try to get back together with my ex? We broke up after Christmas.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - This is kinda long ... thanks for slogging through it. My bf and I broke up right after Christmas. It was a mutual decision after several years together. He's kind, funny, generous (would give the shirt off his back to a stranger who needed it), and I love him dearly ... t... (351 words)

Was he just being polite? Or is a second date possible? He didn't seem settled during the date

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Went out to a bar with this new guy, I was late so I insisted on paying for the drinks. He didn't seems "settled" during the date as he's always playing with coaster, wine glass, smoothing out his hair etc. we were out for about 3hours and HE decide we should make a move. (we ... (190 words)

Other than a credit card? How to purchase sex toys without the small town bank staff knowing what I purchased?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi! Very childish question here, but Im worried. Its a very miniscule problem but I am looking to purchase some "bedroom toys" but Im worried that if I use my debit card the bank will see my purchase! I live in an extremely small town Im taking MAYBE 3500 people and Ive known ... (127 words)

What should I do about this seriously selfish relative?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - i would greatly appreciate any views on this situation. My mother has an aunt who i can not stand. She is the most selfish narrow minded women i have ever met. Completely opposite her sister, my nan, who is such a beautiful person. When we were younger mum used to take us... (618 words)

Am I with him for the wrong reasons? We are in a LDR

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been dating my long distance boyfriend , X, for 3 1/2 years now but im afraid im with him for the wrong reasons. He lives in one place, and i live in a state far away. Ive met his parents, hes met mine and its gone really well. His parents love me but my family doesnt ... (421 words)

He's a real person. Met him on the Facebook. So why am I feeling So very nervous about meeting him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4334 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I met this guy on Facebook, from what I can tell by his pictures he's a really good looking guy. We've been talking for quite a while now and we are finally going to meet each other for the first time on Friday, we're going to see the new movie identity thief. I'm a little nerv... (106 words)

I feel very self conscious about sex and don't want it to become a big problem that could potentially ruin our relationship...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4332 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My husband and I usually really great sex, but usually he's the one taking the lead. I've felt bad several times because I still feel shy and embarrassed to even talk about how I feel. I had hoped he was okay with that because in a way, I'm too scared to take charge or ... (182 words)

Do I ask her out? What do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4279 days ago

5 February 2013 (M)

age 22-25 - There is this girl that I have been friends with since the beginning of the school year. I really like her but she is towered the higher end of popularity. I want to ask her out because she is funny, very sweet and cute. Yet, I feel too intimidated to ask her out. We get along ... (76 words)

How do I get past this traumatic abusive depressing relationship with my ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I finally broke up with my boyfriend of two years. I started dating him during a very traumatic time of my life and I was looking to be saved and he was a charmer. Soon into our relationship I noticed very possessive jealous behaviour. He was not comfortable with me talking to ... (1002 words)

Was it appropriate for my Gf to start giving my (male) visitor a body massage while I was absent from the room?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

5 February 2013 (M)

age - I was getting my phone the other night and it turned out to be a long call from my daughter. when I came back to the living room my girlfriend had my friend's shirt off and was giving him a thorough massage. my friend had told me earlier he gets sexually stimulated from mass... (80 words)

Is it or is it not disrespectful to a wife when a man chats it up with some strange woman and ignores you completely.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

- I do not know how to add my age to my account but I am 43 years old and my husband is 49. My husband was single for many years after his divorce. I was single for a 2 years before we met, then we were together 4 years before getting married. Yet we still bump into women ... (438 words)

I'm gay but afraid to come out about it. How long will it take me to accept this about myself?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I am in a relationship with a woman for my first time. To make the story short, I broke up my engagement with my 8 year fiance not only because he was cheating but also because I felt l for this girl. We've been dating for about 4 months now. I never actually took time off ... (400 words)

I can't get over that my husband was in love with his best female friend

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4337 days ago

5 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I cannot stop being so terribly sad. My husband was in love with his best friend (female) for a ways into our relationship. When I found out, we were already engaged, and had been together for a couple years. I was crushed, but so in love with him that I just couldn't leave. ... (165 words)

My girlfriend wont get engaged to me unless I get her a 20 000 euro engagement ring

This question has 34 answers - newest was posted 4012 days ago

5 February 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, I ve posted on this website before and I ve found the answere really helpful so I am hoping for some more advice please. I ve been agonizing over this for some time, would be really interested to hear what others think.. My girlfriend wont get engaged to me unless I ... (1563 words)

Did I do something wrong? This girl looked so irritated when I looked at her

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 4333 days ago

5 February 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I was walking down the hall at school and a girl was coming my way. At first i didn't notice her because I was looking down when I was walking, then I looked up and saw her looking at me and when I started looking back she looked away, like she didn't want to make eye cont... (148 words)